how to buildself confidence (im a guy)?

Question

i find im lacking in the self confidence area. ill go to work but when someone says hello ill let out this little inaudible croak which was meant to be "hey". later on im happy to chat with the staff. it seems i have periods of no confidence. i cant thing of anything to say even to my grandmother, she just talks and talks and i have nothing to ask her back. im terrible with my bosses. im hopeless at small talk with them, i can never think of anything to say and usually end up saying "yep" or "mmm" i can never think of anything to ask them back. i get awefully worried about how i look, i HATE my hair, i want outragous haircuts but i look in 20 mirrors and come to the conclusion that it would be highly embarressing to step outside with that haircut (ive tried many different ones) i get a haircut, but 1 week later itlooks aweful again, and i cant get haircuts once a week (well i suppose i could, but dont want to) how can i build my self confidence up. ANYTHING would be useful.

Answer 1

First of all, learn to LOVE YOURSELF! Accept the person that you are! and you aren't here to please nobody but the one who given you life and yourself! If the only thing you are worried bout is your hair then I suggest you kneel down on your knees and THANK GOD YOU HAVE A JOB!
Hair doesn't make a person it's how you carry yourself. Don't go to the extreme and take baby steps. Try talking to people and go out more. Who cares bout your hair, once you age you'll lose it anyways. But the strengths and confidence you will gain will remain in you. YOU DON'T NEED TO LOOK GOOD FOR NOBODY OK! be yourself and there's more to life than hair!

Answer 2

Sounds like a self-esteem issue. Read my web pages below on self-esteem and self-confidence.

Answer 3

For guys - especially young guys - getting laid is a big self confidence booster.

Seriously.....

Answer 4

Paxil?