how can i who has social phobia attract a female but cant talk to people. it is sad even though i am 31 years?

Answer 1

alcohol is the lubricant of the social machine...im not saying go overboard...just get yourself a little loose

any money someone is going to complain im telling you bad advice, im not saying be an alcoholic but seriously why do you think it was invented

Answer 2

There is this thing called a computer. With this computer you can connect to the Internet. With the "Internet" you can chat with people of the female persuasion. Say hello Internet and good bye social phobias'. :-)
You have to invest in yourself. Women want a confident man. Check into some personal counseling to help improve your ability to function in social situations. If you are on a budget there are places that will use a sliding fee scale. Check out some self help materials as well. You could also check to see if there are dating coaches in your area. Tap into the feelings you have when you're doing something you are good at.
It's only sad if that's how you feel about it. It doesn't matter what anyone else thinks. You and only you have the ability to do anything about this.

Answer 3

It depends on what kind of social anxiety you have. Do you dislike groups of people, public places or 1 on 1 social situations? I will tell you a true story that just happened to a friend of mine recently:

She is 28 years old and suffers from social anxiety as well and takes medication. She is comfortable around family and childhood friends but had difficulty going into public places and it took a long time for her to warm up to new people. At 28 she had never had a serious relationship with anyone. Then she became really close to a male childhood friend and they started dating. The relationship took off and now she goes places she never did before and is a lot less hesitant to meet new people and socialize. She still has some difficulties but they are considerably less than before.

My suggestion for you? Interact more with people that you are comfortable with, especially if they are female. You don't need to be interested in them, you just need to feel at ease talking to women. Do that for a while and then see if any of your friends have any female friends that you could try to bond with. Don't go looking for serious relationships at first. Just find a woman that is new to you and that you can come to connect with at some level (just as friends or otherwise). You can also practice this technique by communicating with women on the internet but that will only get you so far. I truly believe that the more confident you become with yourself the less your social anxiety will control you.

Just remember that phobias are irrational fears. I am terrified of heights but when I climb a ladder to get on the roof I force myself to overcome that fear because I know it is irrational. It is not an easy thing to do but with practice you CAN learn how to not let it control you.

Be positive and good things will come.

Answer 4

They have meds for social phobia. They also have behavioral training which teaches you how to behave and be comfortable in social situations.

If your looks are the issue, then know that many an unattractive guy has gotten a girl based on confidence.

Answer 5

seek therapy, seriously, even if its a book like "How to get over your Social Phobia". A woman does not like a guy with no self esteem. A woman wants a confident, but not cocky guy. no buts.

Answer 6

You must be doing something right to even be able to post this kind of question, perhaps you are ready to deal with the phobia and find someone....