a year ago, my daughter went for visitation with her father. She was 4 at the time and was molested my her grandfather while she was there multiple times. I never really thought about it before, but when she came home and before i knew about the abuse, her vagina was really red and always itchy and swollen looking when i would bath her and help her wipe. I thought it was just because her father had not bathed her right . around a week or two after she was home, i got an eye infection that turned out to be chlamydia. Is it possible that i got it from wiping her and then rubbing my eye or putting medicine on her or bathing her? I was treated with antibiotics and it went away, she however has not been since i just thought about this today that i possible contracted it from her after she was abused by her grandfather. If she had symptoms and they went away and it was left untreated, would she have symptoms now? is there a possibility that she may still test positive for chlamydia?
2007-08-25 04:36:27 · 21 answers · asked by Cha togar m'fhearg gun diola 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
She only told me about the abuse this past may. we are taking all the nessecary steps, but the court says that since the abuse allegations are not against her father, he is still allowed to have visitation with her. in fact, he picked her up last night at 9:15 and she did not want to go. but, my hands are tied! I can't keep her from going no matter what i do.
2007-08-25 04:45:02 · update #1
I have been to her "guardian ad Litem", the court, we have done a forensic interveiw with social services, i have had her examined by her regular doc and a sexual abuse specialist at MCV hospital in richmond, va. i refused to let the father have visitation, but i got over ruled by the court. The scary part is, she told her dad about all this when it happend, she didn't tell me until may of this year. I am at a loss. I don't even know what to do next.
2007-08-25 04:48:53 · update #2
also, the comman wealth attourney of the county where all this happend says that she is not a credible witness because of her age and they don't have enough evidence to prosicute him. She draws pictures of the events that tool place and has 2 different therapists working with her and the athourities STILL won't arrest him.
2007-08-25 04:52:32 · update #3
my neice was molested by my cousin and she got genital warts! it does happen! and yes you can get std's if you did not properly wash your hands after handling her! sad abut true. she could still have chlamydia so yes you need to have her tested to make sure!
2007-08-25 10:43:22 · answer #1 · answered by butterflygirl249 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The courts are fools if they say a 5 year old is not credible. How else would they know about that kind of thing unless they had experienced it.
For goodness sakes, find an attorney, and get that man put behind bars. I hope for your sake, and the well being of your daughter that you can get something done about this quickly.
Is there any way a doctor can look for scar tissue in her genitals? I mean, if she's just a baby of 5 years old, she would have ripped if he abused her.
And what about the father? What kind of father lets his little baby girl get hurt like that by anyone? I'd have cut off the old man's testicles, and handed them to him before I wasted his butt.
2007-08-28 23:29:20 · answer #2 · answered by Kathryn P 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A good doctor that knew the entire situation should have checked her for STDs right after the incident. I would have her checked as soon as possible for EVERYTHING! I'm sure the grandfather has been or is in the process of being put away for a very long time for this abuse, but in some states there are added charges for knowingly infecting someone with an STD. Poor child.
I hate to say this.. but you explain your doctor visit and your treatment... but not hers... and after a whole year this is a concern? Come on!
2007-08-25 11:48:21 · answer #3 · answered by LawComm 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am sorry for the awful things that have happened to your daughter, first off.
Second, it is very possible that this could have happened. Was a physical exam done on your daughter after you learned of the abuse? If so you need to find out if there was any std tests ran. Most of the time these tests are part of the exam given to anyone that has been violated! If you find that she has not had the std tests ran then I would strongly urge you to contact your doc and request these tests be completed!
good luck to you and your daughter and all that you do!
2007-08-25 11:45:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call Dr.Phil. Their is a couple on there with the same situation but there daughter didnt catch anything. But bring it to the public eye. Bring him out into the public's eye. Dont let them show her face, but i'm sure Dr. Phil could help. Sorry this is the only advice, the only other thing i could tell you to do would be kill him, but then you couldnt protect her from the rest of the world, behind bars. Good Luck and get her the best help possible.
2007-08-25 16:44:17 · answer #5 · answered by Msranda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. get her tested right away. I hope she went to the dr. after that incident, but maybe they missed that? or did not test for it?
i sure hope you are keeping her away from there. visitation with her father should only be when supervised.
Best wishes to you trying to keep your daughter safe.
You might also want to look into getting counseling for your daughter if you have not done so already. she was young, but might still have memories that could effect her, if not now, then later on when she is at the age to establish her own romantic relationships.
2007-08-25 11:44:54 · answer #6 · answered by Kristin B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take her to the doctor ASAP to get tested. Infections like chlamydia can linger without symptoms, and can cause long term damage. If the test is positive, she can get antibiotics to clear it up. And a positive test would be physical evidence that she was abused.
2007-08-25 12:57:57 · answer #7 · answered by jellybeanchick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh bless her that is an awful thing for her to go through, the b*stard needs stringing up and the sh*t kicking out of him many times over!. Take her to the doctors asap and get her checked over better to be safe than sorry.
If i were in your situation i would not allow her to visit him, i would rather risk jail than have him anyway near her. I cannot believe he did not kill his father the second she told him about the abuse.
My heart goes out to you. Stay strong for your fragile little girl, she needs her mummy. With a lot of love and support from you, you will both get through this and hopefully that b*stard will drop dead painfully.
2007-08-25 11:47:10 · answer #8 · answered by claire 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry I can't answer your question...but I would think yes, that she could have that?
I really hope that you took some extra measures in making sure your daughter is okay...and did you take legal action against the grandfather?? You sound so casual about the whole thing, like it's an every day occurrence?!!
2007-08-25 11:42:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
"I can't keep her from going no matter what i do" Oh yes you can! The court can not force a child to go on visitation with the non-custodial parent if the CHILD does not want to go. If she had chlamydia then she would more than likely still have it unless it had been treated. YOU need to stop backing down and not force your child to go where she doesn't want to go. Contact your lawyer and discuss the problem with him/her.
2007-08-25 21:23:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope that grandfather died a slow painful death and is burning in hell right now. If hes still alive, what are you waiting for ? KILL HIM!! Courts wont do anything, they dont care about the fact that your baby is getting molested, take matters into your own hands and poison the bastard!!
im so mad right now.
2007-08-25 11:46:43 · answer #11 · answered by Heaven L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋