Hi I'm really scared, i dont know what to do.?

Question

My mother died in a crash years ago, and my father meet a new woman who is really into god, and my father up routed us to texas, I'm 14 and i have no friends here, my dads girlfriend now makes me go to church, i have always been a christian and used to pray, but not like this my mother alwasy gave me opinions but this new woman says if i don't go to church i will go to hell, why does she say this to me, i hate it the other kids who go bully me there becasue I'm shy, and the priest is giving me looks all the time it really scares me he always touch's me on the shoulders, when i tell my dad he just says things will get better but they are getting worse this woman has changed his thinking who he meet on the internet while he was still with mt mom, the people at my new school bully me becasue i go to church, i feel like running away home or being with my mom i dont know what to do.

Thank you for your answers, why are people calling me a troll, what is a troll, i came here for help why are people being nasty to me, just like in real life people being nasty, horilble people.

Answer 1

Well it sounds like your new step mommy is a bit of the fire and brimstone type of Christian. First off, God is not a fire and brimstone type of guy. This woman must know that she cannot force salvation upon you. Salvation is a personal choice. You really need to get into an awesome youth group program, one that is on fire for the Lord God. I would recommend a Pentacostal Church, try the Assembly's of God. Their youth programs always rock. Oh and you need new friends girl. Even if you are not ready to personally except the Lord Jesus Christ as your saviour, atlease be around friends that can accept you for who you are. Oh and one more thing, althoug I can tell your mom misses you, she's not ready for you to come home yet. You have a lot to do on this earth to make her proud of you. She's in Heaven with Jesus watching over you. Just keep your chin up and get into a good bible based church, not one that preaches hell fire and damnation, one that teaches love and acceptance.

God really does love you.

Answer 2

it's always hard to change. i think you're exaggerating a lot of this stuff because 1) your dad loves and married a woman that you don't approve of, 2) you now have a new mom who can tell you what to do after years of not having maternal controls, 3) you had to move away from everything that is familiar to you, 4) your dad is choosing his wife over you, and 5) things are not going your way.

suck it up and deal with it. you're not a baby anymore. life is all about changes and our attitudes. your dad has moved on and while you don't approve of his decisions, he is still head of your family. your stepmom is trying to raise you and she may not be doing the job the way you see fit, but nowhere in here do you say that she is actually abusing you. if the only thing that she's doing to p'iss you off is make you go to church, then you are just being a whiny baby...

Answer 3

I'm sorry about your mom's passing... so sorry. You need her so much right now... being a teenager and all...
Kids who are from true Christian parents are not supposed to be bullies... so, this is very disturbing, indeed.
Write a letter to your dad... one that he can read over and over to get your message across.
When I was growing up, I used to be very rebellious.... I only went to church whenever my family couldn't go- for example.... whenever I was criticized because of my choice of clothes... I would walk away and say that I wasn't going anywhere at all. I was otherwise shy, too... but I made it clear to the people around me that nobody could manipulate me into their way of thinking. My dad used to always tell people about how I threatened a mean old babysitter with a knife (at 3 years of age) when she started threatening me to spank me with coconut tree sticks again.
Here's the trick how to let people know that you are not just being completely unreasonable: say that you know that GOD is a loving GOD whenever someone tries to tell you that he will punish you.... to win people's respect behave more responsible... clean the house without being asked (it's a good way to gain some power in your own home... the cleaner has the right to own the home... this was my strategy... I never grumbled when it came to getting everything organized when everyone seemed to be messed up in their heads)
think... be proactive... you are a human being> God made you with a brain>> use it!!!

Answer 4

Amy, it looks like you have a lot going on in your life right now. I can only suggest you hang in there and put your trust in the Lord Jesus Christ. You talk about going to a church with a priest, I would suggest you find a church (a Calvary church) where you will hear the word of God preached and you will be treated kindly by others with no fear of a priest! Your mom would want you to be strong so don't give in . The bible does not say you will go to hell if you don't go to church. You are only going to hell if you have rejected God's Son whom God sent to die for your sins. You ask her to show you in the bible where it says you will go to hell by not going to church, she can't, if it is not in the bible it is man made and not of God. Amy take time and read the book of John in the New Testament. Ask God to give you discernment and help you to be strong. Find some new interests and you will soon make some new friendships. The Calvary churches offer good youth programs so check them out. Hopefully things will improve in your life, hang in there you are not 14 for ever.

Answer 5

Sweetheart, I am so sorry to hear about your mothers death and at such a young age too! Sometimes when we get "uprooted" in our life style and location it's hard to see that there are benefits to our new surroundings. The right place to be in is in Gods word because He understands when no-one else does. Maybe one of the reasons why they pick on you at school is because you are new and another could be because you are shy.Go to the guidance councilors office and talk to them about your concerns and ask for help...that's what they are there for. Find a club at school to join to use your "fitting in time" usefully. In the meantime, ask God to help you with all your fears including the ones at church. Keep an open conversation with your dad even if it seems like he can't "hear" you because the day might come when he hears you the most and didn't expect it but it won't happen if you close off speaking...trust me. Relax and list all the things that you want to accomplish in the next 5 years...remember to stay in conversation with your guidance councilor...DO NOT RUN AWAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!Good Luck...

Answer 6

Sounds like things are different, not necessarily worse. But change is scary. I am an Atheist, but I was never afraid of going to church. Beware of that priest, but do not fear him. If he ever vies to get you alone in a room, just flat out say that you are uncomfortable being alone in a room with anyone. He will question this, but so long as you continue to say that with confidence, it will work.
As for your step mom, go with the church thing. It makes for some good pot-luck dinners. Like I said, I'm an Atheist, but I still go with friends to church. They generally respect my opinion and I sometimes learn something new.

Answer 7

You did the right thing about talking to your father about your concerns, but unfortunately, this is about all you can do in regards to your father's new relationship. You must pray and persevere when you come across negative people in your life. Your parents are not perfect. The good thing is that you already planted the seed. In time, your father will be able to see your point and perhaps do the necessary adjustments to improve things in your household. In the mean time, concentrate in having a good relationship with your Heavenly Father for he loves you very much.

Answer 8

Wow!

If you can't make your discomfort known to your parents directly, I would consider going to see your school counselor. However, I don't think you're going to get very far.

The line between child abuse and freedom to practice religion is a very grey line indeed.

That you are bullied in school is of course a different issue. That is something you definitely can go to your school counselor and/or principal with.

However, all of these things pass as you approach adulthood. Certainly by the time you are 18, your parents cannot force you to go to any church, and school bullies become passe.

Do you think you can hold on for awhile?

If not, you've got some fairly standard replies to your parents when they try to push a particular religion on you: "Oh yeah? Can you prove it?" "Gee, that's not very logical." "Why should I believe YOU?" "Why should I believe you over my Mom?"

Yeah, you're going to get into trouble, but there ARE no real replies to these.

Answer 9

Yep, people can be really nasty.

Right now you are focusing on what is happening to you. Biblically you should be focused on your attitude and the choices you can make.

To make this simple, make the best choices you can under the circumstances. This works even if you do not believe in God.

If you believe in God you can also pray for help from God in what choices you should make, how you should act and what you should do.

Remember, life is not about what happens to you. Your life is defined by your attitude and the choices you make.

Answer 10

Your going to have to either get through to your dad or find a third party to let him know whats going on and how you feel. These people seem to be out of line with the Christian norm. Maybe they'll let you find a church of your own. I hope this helped some. You have my prayers.