we always fight for the same reason that he thinks im cheating on him i decided to give him some space to figure out his problem and when his ready he ll come back
2007-08-25 02:57:53 · 12 answers · asked by librian sexxy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It means he is insecure. I don't know if I would take him back. False accusations are one way that guys try to control their girlfriends (I don't want to hang out with my guy friends/go to the bar/talk on the phone with so and so because my boyfriend MIGHT THINK I am cheating). It is a very effective technique that seems to be working on you right now. Notice, he accuses you of cheating, you give him space and now you are about to go running back to him just so you can be accused of cheating again......
I would not go back to him. I would wait and see how he behaves. If he says he wants to get back together, I would tell him that false accusations are a deal breaker. But, don't give ultimatums unless you have the backbone to keep them.
2007-08-25 03:06:45 · answer #1 · answered by ssc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most likely he is either cheating on you himself or he is VERY insecure. Either one of these things are always going to cause problems, until he himself figures it out. If he is cheating on you, you don't need him. If he is that insecure, all you can do is reassure him that you love him and want him and nobody else, if he won't believe you, there is nothing more that you can do.
I do believe you made the correct decision by backing off for awhile, he really needs to take a good long look at himself, that is for sure and if he does NOT come back, well then he has done you a really big favor.
You can only reassure someone so often before it takes a toll on you and your self esteem and self confidence, don't let him drag you down!
2007-08-25 03:07:23 · answer #2 · answered by mrsmommaid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea no, this is not sounding like its working out. he cheated on you, with 2 different girls? i mean, thats a lot of sex. having sex w three girls (you included), who to say if he didnt do one, and then come over to your house? and the fact that you were emailing youre ex, his anger MAY be justified IF he had been faithful, but he has done way worse things than just a few emails. you ever hear that guilty conscience thing? like you get all mad and accusing towards the other person, because really its you that is the guilty one? well, i think that may be in his case. Maybe you guys should go on a break. if he loves you hed shape up, but if he doesnt hell just go off and do other girls. and you need to maybe a date a little while youre on the break. just to get a feel of how nice it is to meet a guy who is sincere. what it feels like to not have to worry about "is he lying to me?". because if youre worrying, is he faithful, is he lying, does he really love me? it will always be there in the back of your mind, and that cant be healthy can it? im not a doctor, but i dont think so.
2016-05-17 10:44:54 · answer #3 · answered by joye 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not cheating and he is accusing you of cheating, He may in fact have a guilty Conscience. I bet he is messing around on you. Don't take his crap. Do some detective work and I am quite sure you will find out the truth.
2007-08-25 03:05:11 · answer #4 · answered by JillardG 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly if he isnt going to trust you then its best to move on. One of the major needs of a relationship is trust. (trust,love,respect,and understanding are the 4 required for a good relationship). If he refuses to trust you then it wont be a healthy relationship no matter how much you want it.
2007-08-25 03:12:13 · answer #5 · answered by neohnecrosis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Amdrmgirl, most cheaters accuse the other partner to throw you off, this guy must have some issue...........if you are serious about this relationship then I think it's time for a real serious talk.
2007-08-25 03:05:32 · answer #6 · answered by krismallery 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he still suspects that you're cheating when you're not then he's not worth of your love. He doesn't trust you enough. You might be better without him.
A relationship won't last without trust
2007-08-25 03:06:23 · answer #7 · answered by berna_sweet_d_4ever 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
and... did he come back?
you see, what would you do with someone who does not trust you? spend the rest of your life trying to figure out how to get him to trust you?
that is not fair.... really!
2007-08-25 03:04:04 · answer #8 · answered by attyjudz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I find that the men who suspected me of cheating, were actually CHEATING ON ME!
2007-08-25 03:03:03 · answer #9 · answered by dreamgirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
heh, too much jealousy, that's always a big factor in break ups
-perhaps, try to give him more and attention to erase his doubt
2007-08-25 03:04:46 · answer #10 · answered by arcanis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋