My son will poop but stopped peeing?

Question

My son is 28 months and has no issue going poo poo on the potty. He would tell me too when he needed to pee pee. This was only for a few days, then company showed up unexpectedly one night with kids, and since then he will never tell me when he has to pee. He will hold it in for as long as he can then go. He use to tell me wet when he did, but now he even stopped that. I don't know if my telling him we don't pee pee in your underwear scared him. What do I say? I give lots of praise, treats, and have tried fruit loops, naming other people who do it, big boy, going naked, going in just cloth training pants, using toilet, using potty chair, a wetting doll. He still has no issues telling me he has to poop and running to the toilet. But he now just holds his pee for 3 to 4 hours then tries to hide when he does pee. I really do not think that I've made peeing sound bad. But I just can't figure out what happened, and why he won't even try now. Please help me. I don't want to give up.

Answer 1

I just potty trained my son and daughter. I like an approach where I don't have to pressure or push my child. What worked for me was The Potty Stool http://www.thepottystool.com I started by just setting it at the toilet. My kids immediately climbed up on the stool and discovered that they could safely and securely use the toilet. This got them very interested in using the toilet and they were potty trained very quickly. Kids like to use what they know mommy and daddy use.

It really helps boys to learn to pee standing up so they can see what is happening and connect the sensations.

I like that I don't have to double the steps of potty training by training them first in a potty and then training them to stop using a potty. And not dumping and cleaning a potty each time is great. The best thing is that kids use it for years. I hope this helps you

Answer 2

I would try watching him closely after he eats, around the time of day that he usually poops, if he is at all regular. They often make a face when beginning to go (grunting, red face). Catch him at that time or when you think it might be about the right time, and put him on the potty. Sit there with him. Talk to him, read him a book, or sing, whatever. Give him attention. When he (finally, you'll be thinking), goes, give him tons of praise and call him a big boy, and all that good stuff. Tell Daddy what a big boy your son is when he gets home from work (or you know what I mean. No offense if this is inappropriate. I should assume nothing.) Do this daily for awhile. If he keeps trying to get up, just keep gently plunking him back down. Until he goes--unless you decide maybe it is too soon, use judgement and keep assessing...try again in a little while, whatever---it's a process. Soon he will associate sitting on the potty to poop as an enjoyable time, because he gets attention. After he's getting the hang of it and is less resistant, you should be able to give him his own picture book to hold and look quietly at. But sort of wean him off of you giving full lavish attentiion while he sits on the pot. One thing, as you start this routine, if he goes in his pants, yes, clean him up as need be, but try to be sort of distant and not giving much attention to him while you do this. I'm not saying this to be mean. The idea is that you are using direct attention as a reward for positive behavior. So don't give him that attention as a reward for negative behaviour. See what I mean? This also means don't let him see if you got mad over it happening--that's just all part of the game ("make mommy mad" may seem funny to him, and certainly lets him know he got to influence YOUR behaviour.). So play it cool. Hopefully, this all should work pretty fast. If not, keep with it. If you take all the fun out of his hiding to go (by pretty much ignoring it), and put the fun into sitting on the pot (playtime with mommy), he'll have more incentive for doing what you want him to.

Answer 3

I think that one of those kids told him that there was something bad about boys peeing in the toilet. Does his father live with him? If he does then get him involved in this. Have his dad pee in the toilet with your 2 yo in the bathroom at the same time. He may take him outside (in a secluded area) and they can both pee on a tree at the same time. Have his dad ask him to make a pee stain on the tree. Who can make the bigger wet mark on the tree? Then dad would have to pee some on the grass so that the kid wins. At home, make a game out of peeing in the toilet. Put some Cheerios in the toilet and have him aim at the cereal. Who will hit be first to hit the Cheerios in the toilet?

When my sons were 3 and 5, they would pee in the toilet at the same time. They thought that was cool for a while. Not sure how well this would work with a much taller adult though. Maybe dad can stand on his knees. Your son seems to be afraid of something but some peeing games with dad may alleviate any strange fears that he may have.

Answer 4

Just remind him to go peepee in the potty. He's big enough to pull his pants down and stand on a stool to reach. He might just want to do it on his own.

Dont make an issue of it, whatever you do. 3-4 hours is a long time, but not the end of the world. You can fix that by giving him a big drink to flush him out. His bladder can only hold so much, and eventually that drink will come back out.

Treat it like nothing. Of course he goes peepee in the potty. Does hehave to go? No? okay, be sure to remind him to let you know when he does need to. And then go do something else.

This is a point where you can make it an endless battle of wills that lands you back changing diapers, or you can go with the flow and ride this out like its nothing.

Just watch him to UTI's and keep him hydrated.

Answer 5

Let him go pee outside. Boys see this as a game and find it so much fun to "water the plants" or "water the grass". Little boys like it when it is a secret thing too, say something like wouldn't it be fun to pee outside, lets go behind a tree so it can be secret and private or you can say only big boys can pee outside! Have dad or another old guy to show him what to do when it comes to going to the potty or going outside, your son needs to know that the parts he have are normal and how he should use them.

Answer 6

This is what kids do sometimes. They are learning to control their bodies but it's hard for them and it's an imperfect project, with stops and starts and good days and bad. Just be patient with him and keep encouraging him and showing him you have a positive attitude when he does tell you he needs to pee. He will get this down. For a boy that you have gotten as far as you have at this age is very good!! Be patient and don't worry. He will not be having this problem at his prom!

Answer 7

were the kids girls? and did he see them naked? and if he did was it the first time he has ever seen a girl naked? if so then he may think there is something wrong with him because he has something between his legs and they didn't. or he may think that they got theirs cut off and some one will do it to him. boys do sometimes think that way if they don't know better. if that's the case, then you will need to explain the difference between boys and girls.

Answer 8

Ok, so he is acting totally normal. What's the next question?

Answer 9

he is obviously scared. something or someone scared him or he simply lost interest.