its obvious, you do the same, he will soon stop when he sees your bits flapping around on a chat room. he is on level one, next he will be on level two, meeting them.
2007-08-25 02:19:42
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answered by Anonymous
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Personally I found chat rooms boring after about 3 logins. My crow still logs in from time to time but she finds it hard to type fast enough with her sexy beak alone. Anyway I digress.
What I would say to you is, ask yourself what's so dirty and filthy about them? I'm always amazed at people who use the words dirty and filthy like everything they do is 'clean'. So called dirtiness and filth are in my opinion 'public/social' views on decency. That is society has an overall view on what's acceptable in life but privately we ALL are capable and often do things that are so called inappropriate from an innocent fart to farting in someones face for sexual gratification. In reality, as long as no one is being hurt mentally/emotionally or physically then what is the problem? Perhaps he feels you would be put off by some of the things he secretly want to do with you and think he was 'dirty'. If you trust him then perhaps you could log on to the site (with his knowledge of course) and spice it up further with some of your own ideas then you can go and act them out later.
A little freak isn't a bad thing just so long as you both know your own personal limits.
2007-08-25 14:00:39
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answered by duttyjoncrow 2
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I don't know whether you should be 'worried,' as I suppose it depends on the content of what's said there.
Does he ever talk about his 'experiences' on them? What he reads and what he says?
Personally, I've never visited one but have visited other 'chat-rooms,' rarely. I haven't found them worth anything and likened them to visiting a Zoo where some occupants seemed intent on venting 'something' through winding others up (and demonstrating they are 'a suitable case for treatment').
For chat-rooms to be 'worth' anything, then I think that unless they are about some particular interest (other than 'Sex' in itself) where people can offer up their knowledge to questions, or ask them, then they likely hold little value (for me).
On the other hand, chat-rooms where 'Sex' is the main topic, if there is a 'personal awareness' for the individual, then there is likely some value ~ to those with some level of that 'Personal Awareness' and the desire and ability to question the Self and its own behaviours.
Sash.
2007-08-25 09:16:29
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answered by sashtou 7
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No do not worry, have you ever let go and had a really naughty chat...its fun and harmless.
I am a woman with 4 kiddies and a great guy, we do it together and its sexy and exciting...our sex life is always fantastic...sex is not filthy neither is it dirty...its a part of life...
If you are upset by what he is doing put in some ground rules, like my man does not want me to give out my email address, phone number, talk about what WE doi in bed...things like that.
But to be honest in my opinion its just chat and it in no way bothers me, its just like porn.
2007-08-25 09:53:57
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answered by Anonymous
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Hi there,
Well your question did catch my attention. I love the way you worded it. Ok, well I don't know about all guys, but I suspect many find themselves on sites that they probably should not be on. I know my boyfriend goes to a voyeurism site where they have armature pictures. Doesn't bother me so much, but I would be uncomfortable with him on a naughty chat site. It just seems too easy for something to go further. I don't, however, think this is something worth dumping him over. Talk to him. Get his word that he will stay out of these chat rooms. Tell him how it makes you feel and tell him where things will go if he continues to access these sites. Good luck. :)
2007-08-25 08:54:30
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answered by Melissa's Smile 2
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No, not all men and yes, you should be worried. Not to excuse the behavior, but he's lacking something in his relationship with you. Talk to him about it. Don't be angry or confrontational, just let him know you want the relationship to work and be fulfilling for both of you. A couples' therapist will help you both to communicate. If he's unwilling to do his part, you probably need to move on. Eventually he'll go from online chatting to something more destructive. Act now!
2007-08-25 08:52:54
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answered by countrygent07 2
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Usually if someone is going else where for something, it is because he is not getting it at home (or wherever). This doesnt mean he is exactly going to cheat, but trying to fulfill something he isnt getting.
If you find him talking to other people about things, it might be best to talk to him about it. Maybe what he is looking for is something that you dont offer him, but you could.
If after talking to him you find he doesnt want to do anything with you, and wants to continue the "dirty chats" and it annoys you, let him know, but do it once and with enough conviction that he knows you are upset about these actions.
If he doesnt want this missing component from you, and does continue these actions, and it does annoy you, then it might be time to consider moving on.
Hope this helps
2007-08-25 08:54:47
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answered by just me 3
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All Men Get on Nasty Filty Dirty Sights. Its the male nature. dont worry about it unless they have access to a credit card lol. A little pornography is generally ok. Also know that guys learn alot from porn so if you have a good sex life with you male friend, it could be because of the site he goes to..
Although Keep in mind that it should only be done in moderation.
-Will
2007-08-25 08:49:28
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answered by William 3
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lisa this man is just using these site 4 self gratification
not all men use these sites
i have never felt the need to look at any porn on the web so that is a bs answer
if ur happy then sort it out if not lose him he ent rite 4 u
hope that i helped ttfn
2007-08-25 18:32:26
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answered by trigga01001 2
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Yes you should worry about the sites he is visiting. Talk to him about the trust that should be between the two of you and how he is breaking that trust by doing this. If he doesn't understand or care about what he is doing to the relationship then leave him for you need better.
2007-08-25 09:11:11
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answered by old crow 4
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I like your wording......'find themself on dirty filthy chat sites' No one finds themselveson them, they look for them and go on them because they WANT to. He wants to talk dirty. Yes you should be worried. Next he will be 'finding himself in a dirty filthy woman's pants'
2007-08-25 11:20:19
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answered by Sarah 3
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