I went out to this nice classy restaurant and bar for my friend's 21st birthday. I was with her, two other girlfriends, and two guys. At one point I got up to go to the bathroom and bumped into this guy. Tall, dark brown hair, blue eyes, dressed nice, very good looking. He made a joke to me about how hard it was to move through the crowd to get to the bathroom. Later on I summoned up the courage to talk to him. He's 27 (i'm 21) and he's in med school to become a doctor in the ER. he was really nice. He invited me to come back to his apartment with his friends and play beer pong, since the bar was closing. I asked if my friends could come and he said definitely. But then my friends decided they wanted to call it a night. I was going to go with him...but then I felt uncomfortable going by myself. So I just told him I was going to hang out with my friends and I gave him my number. Was I right to be hesitant about this? Or was I being too ovely cautious?
2007-08-24 20:58:25 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes you did I have been in similar situations and have done the wrong thing with disastrous results it is far better to be safe than sorry never ever go to an after bar party alone. Things can get scary quite quickly especially when you are young and alcohol is involved. Besides it looks better if you aren't over eager falling all over yourself to get to his place better to play hard to get. Morning Roz
2007-08-25 01:47:25 · answer #1 · answered by Margo is better than you are 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Very right to be hesitant. No matter how clean cut, and attractive a guy is. He could always be a person that would date rape you. Not to mention the fact that him and his buddies could have been watching you and your friends for a while now and they were scanning over you girls to see which one would be easier to lure back to their place. Even looking over the guys too to see how easy or hard they would be to fight with in case they defended you. And the hot guy could have just been bait to lure you away from people you know. So regardless if you think a guy is hot or not, never go home with them. Because date rape is on the rise for sure. Plus he mentioned beer games, I'm sure they would have found a way to make you lose each time and get you more drunk so they could have some "fun" with you. Then the hot one could say he just drove you home after you asked. And you wouldn't have any real memory of what happened to you other than the soreness.
2007-08-24 21:21:56 · answer #2 · answered by Cursed_Romantic 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you were right. You barely knew the guy. I may be overly conservative but bad things COULD happen no matter where you are (remember that Aruba incident?) besides, playing hard to get can be a + factor sometimes. So don't feel bad. If he calls you and you get to know each other better and you decide that he's a good guy, maybe an opportunity to go out will come out of it someday, but if not, just think that he may have wanted fun just for that night and he really isn't worth your time.
2007-08-24 21:04:48 · answer #3 · answered by Greta 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you felt the need to be cautious, there was probably a good reason. I think you made a wise, sensible choice not to put yourself in a situation where you would be surrounded by drunk strangers that you just met.
If he is a cool guy, he should have no problems arranging to meet at a later date. This will also show you that he has more going on in his life, than just grabbing some beers with his buddies.
In summary, you chose wisely...
2007-08-24 21:03:29 · answer #4 · answered by Marc M 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi Where, You did the right thing. You don't know anything about this guy just what he has told you. Wait and see if he calls you and never go to his apartment until you know for sure he is harmless and a very good guy.Keep your self safe there is a lot of sick-o's out in the world.
A Friend.
poppy1
2007-08-24 21:06:40 · answer #5 · answered by poppy1 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i thought you mad the right choice not going with that 27 guy. You just met him and you dont know if you can trust him. Some people act nice, but afterwards are jerks! Its just like he has to build trust so you can trust him. If i were you i would go, but if your friends come along i could have give it a go.
2007-08-24 21:03:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you did the wrong thing. If he is interested in you, he will surely call you soon. You can never trust anyone or what their intentions are. It's always good to have friends around just in case. Good luck with that and I hope he calls you up soon.
2007-08-24 21:04:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You didn't know the guy.
That might have been just a cover story to make him more attractive to you.
He could have been a serial rapist/murderer, for all you know.
You definitely didn't want to be alone in his apartment with him.
Better to stay in a pack of friends than be the lone victim.
2007-08-24 21:05:16 · answer #8 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the Right thing.There are many psychos out there and you cant trust someone after just meeting them.How do you know he wasn't going to take you back to his house for all to share,if you know what I mean.If he likes you he will call you.Just be careful and always tell someone where you are going,especially if your associating with new people.
2007-08-24 21:04:50 · answer #9 · answered by nickson faction 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
no not at all. it's good that you were cautious. especially when alcohol and a lone girl and possible groups of guys are involved. not saying anything back could or would have happened, but better safe than sorry
2007-08-24 21:03:27 · answer #10 · answered by mandarinsdream 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋