I've been dating this guy for 2 months now. We quickly became best friends and we do everything together. We sleep in the same bed take each other to work. Everytime I make plans to just stay home and veg in front of my tv I end up with him. We have tons in common. When is it ok to ask what we are? When is it ok to expect an answer? I've asked before, when the green monster of jealousy poped out of me. All I got then was, "We're best friends and lovers." Sounds like a crock of **** to me but with this man I've adandoned my better judgement. I want commitment. Is it ok to expect a straight answer at this point or should I give it more time. I don't knwo why I feel like I need to label what we have.... well I kinda know why. Completely at a loss here. Help! I don't know what to do about this man. Just be friends and emotionally distance myself or stick with it and see what pans out?
2007-08-24 19:07:39 · 12 answers · asked by NOLA_pink 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ain't nothing wrong with wanting to "label" you relationship as you put it. Deep inside we all have the desire to be "in the know"...we do not want uncertainty...we want to know where we stand and from there what to expect and what not to expect....what to plan for and so on. Life is short and happiness is paramount...if after 2months with someone, you are unable to define the scope of your relationship...where it is headed and so on ..then you are wasting time. I believe in my heart that you know what to do....but in your doing do not settle for mediocrity.
2007-08-24 19:17:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you just settle down a bit and enjoy the great thing you have. Sounds like you are having fun. There is not many times two lovers call themselves best friends! Don't ruin it by trying to label it for peace of mind. Live for the moment and remember every memory you two create
2007-08-25 02:15:04 · answer #2 · answered by jeremy w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you want a commitment then you deserve it from someone who will give it to you. please do not allow yourself to be what he "wants." this is your life, not his. and there are plenty of great guys that would love to be with a nice girl like you. let him know you need to know what you two are so that you arent wasting your time on someone who may not be on the same page as you! you will save yourself a lot of heartache if you find out now. and dont be afraid to ask because if he is really into making it work with you, then he will be there and you two will have a relationship. stand up for what you want and expect cause you deserve it, and if you dont no one else will.
yeah and F#$@ that with the whole "best friends and lovers" i'm sorry but in my experience that eqauls, "i have you around until i see something else i like better so i can walk away from you scott free!" a.k.a the backup.
2007-08-25 02:19:37 · answer #3 · answered by ))))S(((( 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl the dude is playing you, Best friend and lovers whats up with that line.
Ask him are we in a relationship or not, but from his first answer I would say you are right for now not forever dont waste you time kick him to the footpath and move on
2007-08-25 02:17:23 · answer #4 · answered by Andy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give it a little more time... 2 months isn't all that long......only 8 wks.....
I wouldn't distance myself yet, but I would ask him to communicate with me about what his goals are..... you don't have to corner him into decisions, just ask what he plans to do with the rest of his life.....
then let him know yours......
you might find out your answer that way...
but still, two months isn't much time....
2007-08-25 02:17:42 · answer #5 · answered by LIzzz 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He told you best friends and lovers, you have to decide whether you want to be only his friend and his lover. When he said his lover that's what he meant someone he gets sex from. So
now you have to decide whether this is all you want to be to him.
2007-08-25 02:20:53 · answer #6 · answered by rckrjr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should ask whenever you dont know i think. But if bein lovers and friends isnt what you want, then by all means leave
2007-08-25 02:16:03 · answer #7 · answered by Flying Spagetti Monster 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok-the first guy is right in his answer but there are not bats in hell only people weeping forever for rejecting the greatest love known -bottom line -your his freeby, and if he was more honest he would pay for the dishonor for you like you deserve for giving married service to him with no benifits or commitment.
friends dont do that even barely friends.
and get some help from above and good humor too
and some help from above-for true friendship-friends dont hurt friends and to grow into true love=Best Answer - Chosen by Asker
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wow! awesome answer!
best wishes for you in this situation too
these are a few lol things he may chose to fight with you about
Things We Do To Drive Men Crazy!! Entry for March 22, 2007
Things We Do To Drive Men Crazy!!
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1. Do not say what we mean. Ever.
2. Be ambiguous. Always.
3. Cry. Cry often.
4. Bring things up that were said, done, or thought years, months, or decades ago...or with other boyfriends.
5. Make them apologize for everything.
6. Stash feminine products in their cars, backpacks and in their books as cute reminders that you were thinking of them.
7. Look them in the eye and start laughing.
8. Get mad at them for everything.
9. Discuss your period in front of them. Watch them squirm.
10. Demand to be called or e-mailed. Often. Whine when they don't comply.
11. When complimented, make sure to be paranoid. Take nothing at face value.
12. Use daddy as a weapon. Tell them about his gun collection, his quick trigger finger, and his affection for his Little Princess.
13. Be late for everything. Yell if they're late.
14. Talk about your ex-boyfriend 24 - 7. Compare and contrast.
best wishes and prayers to you, David the sweet pea
2007-08-25 02:20:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uhhh, I'd run like a bat out of hell. He's using you for the poonanny.
2007-08-25 02:11:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get the answer & make the new plans for ur future either with him or other
DECIDE FAST
Don't let be played for longer
2007-08-25 02:15:00 · answer #10 · answered by abhiwillCu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋