Today This girl I like and I hung out. We have been friends for about a year now. I really like her and she knows it. We hang out A LOT which is both good and bad. Its good because she is an amazing person, and I have a lot of fun when I'm with her. However I also end up paying for everything. I don't mind it every once in a while but I also know that we are just friends. A part of me wants to believe that me and her still have a chance because lately she has been texting me almost everyday to hang out, and We laugh and talk a lot and we have some things in common, however she also talks about her other guy friends a lot. When we hang out we usually end up just driving around and listening to music and talking. Its fun don't get me wrong but it almost feels like thats all we do. We went out to dinner tonight, and it was really fun we talked a lot about some serious stuff. What are signs when we hang out that would tell me if she likes me or is just using me?
thanks
2007-08-24 18:54:30 · 7 answers · asked by BAS 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She is a really cool person, but I also don't want to go broke over a friend especially if she dosen't have any feelings which she said she didn't but we were in an argument when she said that so Idk maybe she has started to change her mind about me? She is really funny and cool, but when I try to give her a compliment she just ignores it, for example I told her she was really smart, but she just denied it and talked about something else. BTW she is 17 years old and I'm 19 years old.
thanks
2007-08-24 18:57:50 · update #1
maybe she's just waiting for you to make a move.
WHY DON'T YOU TALK TO HER AND TELL HER THAT YOU LIKE HER.
i mean, It won't hurt til you give it a try.!
2007-08-24 21:11:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm. Hard to tell. A girl always likes it when a guy pays. But I think if she was just using you, you wouldn't do things like drive around and talk. Things like that can only been done with an end result of the two having fun, if the two are really close to eachother. Try driving and listening to music with a friend you've barely just started to know. They'l be bored and wanting to leave within minutes. It sounds to me, if she talks to you about serious things, can do things as simple as driving and talking to you (cost = $0) and laughs/hangs out with you (enjoys herself around you) she likes you. Alot. All my gut feeling is telling me she's into you, and it's only wrong 95% of the time. Luckily, my head is telling me the same thing, and it's much smarter than my gut.
2007-08-24 19:01:44 · answer #2 · answered by Bliss in Ignorance 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
from personal experience, there are some signs to look for when with her.
first, does she laugh and touch your arm, or hand when she does?
does she seem genuinely interested in what you have to say, no matter how small a subject.
when you go and do things, does she ask you to go ? does she ever offer to pay for anything?
if she never offers to pay. then, be careful. girls like to be pampered, but there is also the point , even at her age, where she should take responsability to at least offer to try to help pay for some of the outings expenses.
you mentioned, she talks about other guys, well, that , is a touchy thing. maybe she feels comfortable around you enough to do that, but it depends on what she says about them. i would take it slow, slow down on the times you spend money on her , take her to do things that dont cost much, if anything at all. no matter where you are from, there are places you could go , that might be free, but still fun. a park, or a place just to walk together.. you can still talk, and not have to spend money. is she still wants to hang out with you, when you slow down on the money spending.. then you know she does care about you , for more then just your finances. but give it time ..think it over. and you ,may have to eventually ask her the hard question... " do you see us ever being more then friends.."
Hope this helps,
Take care...
2007-08-24 19:16:29 · answer #3 · answered by hathor0077 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
using you? no more than just as a friend.
you are in the FRIEND ZONE sucker....
i feel your pain....
once you are in this situation...of becoming so close to the one you like that they merely see you as a great friend, it is almost hopeless to get out of the friend zone and maybe have a chance with them in a relationship.
In the friend zone you feel like the other person likes you because they talk to you a lot, hang out with you a lot, tell you personal information....but they just see you as a very good friend who is great at listening, to all her joys and problems.
It is tough to make the transition from friend zone to relationsip zone...because all this time this person you like has been seeing you as more of a friend every time you talk/hang out. If you are deep enough into the friend zone she would not want to risk ruining a wonderful friendship to take a chance in a relationship....
my advice...GET OUT OF THE FRIEND ZONE
maybe you need to make it more clear to her how you feel about her
the worst feeling in the world is that of feeling that your being led on.....
2007-08-24 19:03:54 · answer #4 · answered by The obstacle is the path 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like she just wants to have friends. Next time you hang out, tell her you only have $10. if she offers to pay her own way, keep her. If she says take her home, you have your answer.
2007-08-24 18:59:37 · answer #5 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1/ She is using you Dude move on.
2/ or take the plunge and tell her how you feel if she doesnt feel the same you have your answer No 1
2007-08-24 18:59:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on.She is just using u to probably making someone jealous.
2007-08-24 19:02:18 · answer #7 · answered by tink292006 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋