I have been dating my girlfriend Lilly for about 10 months, and she and i have been pretty good, we are both 17 shes in her senior year and i in my junior year, lately she has been depressed about going to colleges and that she is too busy this year to hang out much but she wants to still go out with me and hang with her friends. She also is questioning her actually feelings for me, not sure if she actually "loves" me, i know she likes me but she is confused whether she wants to hold it out and struggle through the year, and start a long distance. I am already bending my usual behavior around her busy schedule, and she is worth it, I am just not sure of her intentions and she doesnt make them clear. What should I do, should I ask for a break, not breakup, just a break for 2 weeks or something, or just tough it out, she does care about me, but she is very busy.
2007-08-24 18:34:33 · 15 answers · asked by alaskaowned 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ask her what she needs. Don't take any stupid step; let her do what she wants. Maybe she still loves you, and maybe not. Ask her talk with her, a full day's thinking will exhaust you.
2007-08-24 18:46:11 · answer #1 · answered by oOj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her space.. seems like you've been doing well. When she has the time, ask her about her intentions. What does she want to do?
To give you a reality check, when she goes to college, chances of you going to the same college are slim. And even if you do, what if you break up while you're there? It's a long four years... and seeing her around campus after breaking up is just going to remind you why you're on that campus.
I say, have fun while you still can with her. But just remember, long distance like that is really difficult and it would be a lot better to find someone new when you start a brand new freshman year.
2007-08-25 01:39:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart - I know that it may seem extremely important that her 'busyness" is inhabiting your relationship, but trust me surely she will come to senses. She is probably personally struggling with some major changes she knows that are in the future (college, etc). Take all this in stride and enjoy the simplicity of your relationship and truly enjoy every minute of your time with her - it may not last, but at some point in your life you can look back and say - Man I loved that girl and we experienced something crazy! This may sound like a totally irrational response, but I have been there many years ago and I will never forget that "guy" - he is not the person I am married to now, but I will always treasure everything we shared. Hope this helps!
2007-08-25 01:43:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess she's insecure of not being sure if she'll be able to go to college. And maybe she's thinking you might not like the idea of your girlfriend not being able to study. And maybe the reason why she's keeping herself busy is because she's trying to divert her attention to work so as not to take the blow that hard when and if you decided to break up with her. What I suggest is that you reassure her of her position. Make her feel secure. Tell her that nothing will change between you and her even if you go to college. And that you will always write, call her.. Spend time with her in every possible way you can...etc
2007-08-25 01:54:13 · answer #4 · answered by Kaye Bennette 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only reason guys ask for a break is to date other people, so unless you got a girl on the side, be a man and support your girlfriend through this time.
2007-08-25 01:37:35 · answer #5 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
colege time is really hard... but i dont belive that **** of being not sure if she actually loves you...
thats what my ex said after 4 years of relationship and 3 days after we broke up(if not before) she was dating her classmate...
thats just bullshit dude... ask her for the truth, you deserve it.
even though... if you find out she is really worried only about her college(which i dont think she is) support her, but dont let her step over you while you are doing so much sacrifices to be with her.
and i do understand you man... but wasnt she always with you even if she had to do some other things?... busy? hmm.. check that out...
if i sound a bit harsh, forgive me, but i became very sharp at these things when it happend to me...
i might be worng tho.. 20% chances that i am..
Good luck... and remember, there´s always another wave as long as there is wind over the sea.
2007-08-25 01:44:29 · answer #6 · answered by Gaash 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
asking for a break will open the doors for doubts from her side..simply explain to her what u feel and stress on being supportive to her in this stage (that is if u get the answer u're looking for from her!)
good luck
2007-08-25 01:39:39 · answer #7 · answered by the freakin' analyst 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your 17, you dont know what love is yet...
you may think you know, but you dont yet...
long distance ships never work... never...
and if your having a problem like this, it is best to just find someone else, because im telling you now, once she leaves for college, shell make new friends, and leave the old ones behind...
2007-08-25 01:39:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like it's time to move on. If your willing to stick it out and continue to see her less and less, with the possible chance of her breaking up with you, then stay with her. I would suggest you break it off with her.
2007-08-25 01:40:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your girlfriends have a hard time. Go buy her something she really likes.Always be there for her, help her out. Say "We gonna get married". Lol. Hope I helped.
2007-08-25 01:39:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋