My online bf and I are both 20 years old. We've had an online relationship for a year now and are making plans to visit one another. We are in love (i know some of you might not believe in online love, but for the sake of this question, just pretend you do). I want to have my parents support, but there has been a time in the past where Ive told them about an online realtionship and they have been completely against it. My bf and I have thought maybe we should just tell them that we met while we were visting eachother's states. But i dont want to lie to my parents, i want them to accept our relationship for what it is. though it seems like lying is the only choice we have right now. should i tell them? should i lie? should i just not tell them anything at all? please help.
2007-08-24 18:33:53 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Have you had a video chat with him, so you can at least be sure he is the age he claims to be?
Be careful, tons of freaks are online.
You should probably have him come to your state first, and arrange to me him in a public place. Once you're sure of him, just tell your parents you want to introduce them to a guy that you like. I would refrain from telling them you met him online until they have had an opportunity to meet him (they just might like him).
2007-08-24 18:41:34 · answer #1 · answered by Jwizz5000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't lie Sweetie. You might get used to it. I completely understand how you feel, (Just don't ask me why. But I know what you're going through.)
Just tell your parents that you have an online bf and that he is planning to visit you. Let him do the visiting first, NOT you. Tell your parents that ( if ok with them) your online bf would like to meet them.
If your bf says, NO he doesn't want to meet your parents and that he would just like to see you. DROP HIM.
"Love comes from the most unexpected places ..." BUT with online relationships, expect the unexpected.
I hope he turns out to be the man you really love.
2007-08-24 18:48:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should definitely tell them. Whether they are against it or not. It'd be smarter too. Because eventually you might slip something out that won't fit in with the lie and they'll figure you out and be mad-er than ever. Plus if you guys are willing to see each other, it'd show your parents how deeply inlove you guys are and then your parents can't say no to that. Just keep your promise that you guys will be together face to face and don't be shy to present him to your parents. You're parents will eventually greet him : ) Best of luck.
2007-08-24 18:41:21 · answer #3 · answered by Light/Dark Thinker 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just make sure when you do meet up with him for the first time that you have a friend with you!!! , god knows there are some loonys out there. If you were my daughter, I wouldn't let you go alone, and I wouldn't be happy the relationship started online. your choice to tell or not to tell, but what ever you do be safe. I do believe in love on line. it happened to me, after two years of talking online and on phone,I was even at the stage I was crying and missing him soooo much, so in love...wowwww!
he finally sent me a more recent picture, he was old enough to be my grandfather !!!. I felt so betrayed, I felt sickened I never spoke to him again. its easy to pretend to be someone on line, but are they really who they make themselves out to be ? be very warey
2007-08-24 18:49:22 · answer #4 · answered by aussiechick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think until you meet him and find out if it clicks or not all you would be doing is setting up a hassle. Not telling them something is not lying to them. And frankly at 20 years old, why do you have to feel you need to tell your parents anything about your dating life?
2007-08-24 18:40:46 · answer #5 · answered by smf_hi 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes
2007-08-24 18:53:32 · answer #6 · answered by saturn 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you want to BUT you are old enough to know your own mind and accept responsibility for your decisions ---- maybe go on holiday meet see how it goes and if you are still together tell them --- they are just worried for you (i speak as a parent with 20+ year old children) ---- best wishes
2007-08-24 18:41:48 · answer #7 · answered by trader1867 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmmmm...it's probably best to be honest with your parents. It would probably be good if you could introduce him to them. Maybe if they like him then it won't be as big of a deal. I know my parents would want to know even if they didn't approve of it. Just my thoughts,hope it helps.
2007-08-24 18:43:18 · answer #8 · answered by Jorden 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋