I have one life. Should I stay with one person for the whole time? Should I say "Oh, I love you, and that's it"? Is it wrong to want to change course every now and again?
Christians, you guys get divorced and re-married. So is it some horrible sin to think your life is just , well, maybe, not what you wanted , so it is time to make a change?
2007-08-24 18:05:55 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I made a lifetime commitment and, in the immortal words of the former christian singer Meatloaf, I'm praying for the end of time so I can end my time with her. Why not leave? Because we have kids we are responsible for.
That is the true reason for long and legal commitment. If you want to reproduce you should be willing to put up with whatever life and/or your spouse throws at you until your kids are adults.
P.S. The first cut on his first album was "(I'd Love to Be) As Heavy As Jesus".
2007-08-24 18:11:59 · answer #1 · answered by Dave P 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Stereotyping any particular religion is totally misplaced. As much as christians divorce and remarry, we have people of other religion divorcing, remarrying, divorcing again and so on.
Yes, life may appear short for a lifetime commitment to someone. But you have no choice. Life is also too short for too many miseries. If there is a breach in the boat and we are unable to plug it, changing the boat doesnt guarantee happy sailing. The idea is to learn the skills of plugging the breach. Otherwise, from one misery to another would be the result. For sure, life is too short for more than one misery :-)
The thrill of being committed itself gives you a sense of power and fulfillment. And mind you, this ability rests only with humans. What difference would exist between a dog on the street and us, if we both behave the same way.
2007-08-25 01:16:30 · answer #2 · answered by surnell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life's too short for anything to get accomplished around here... You'll always end up regretting something and find that your life is already at a point where you really can't make things change the way you want it to.
Some things can be done when multiple lives work together, but when it comes to something as personal as a relationship, yes life's too short to be satisfied for a lot of people. Some people will get lucky, some people wont.
2007-08-25 01:14:16 · answer #3 · answered by JapAmerican 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First make sure you are not having a bad day and give up on a good thing.
Second marriage is an out dated concept. Originally there was some religious context but now in western society it is Little more than a business contract.
I'm with Nietzsche when he said " The love of only one is done at the expense of all others."
Now I don't condone sleeping around on your partner but if its over romantically so be it. Walk away friends and keep them in your life for your whole life. Don't pretend you own someone and never allow yourself to be a mere possession.
Change is the natural state of life. But you have to accept a responsibility of how you rise to that change and accept that you have chosen the path you are presently on.
2007-08-25 01:18:02 · answer #4 · answered by Old Stray 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
personally, the only people i think you should have a lifelong commitment to is your parents and your children. i could not see myself in a life long commitment. i do not want to be involved in one that is purposed as such from the start. if it happened to end up being that, then so be it. but i am not looking for such things. i don't believe in restricting another persons choices and i do not want mine restrained by another.
for some people, marriage and monogamy are the right choice. i am not one of those people. i am comfortable enough with myself that i have no problem being alone and i have no problem letting people come and go if they allow the same of me.
2007-08-25 01:25:32 · answer #5 · answered by luvjeska 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so at all. People change.
Some people don't want or need a commitment to another person. Sometimes circumstances causes one to change.
Life itself is a series of changes.
For some people, lifetime commitment is right. For others, it is not.
2007-08-25 01:12:40 · answer #6 · answered by batgirl2good 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Life is too short to be trying to re-invent the wheel... or marriage either. Read the instruction manual. Follow the instructions. Be equally yoked. Enjoy.
2007-08-25 01:15:56 · answer #7 · answered by teran_realtor 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Have fun bumming around from woman to woman your whole life.
People should just learn to deal with being codependent. I mean, unless you're content with dying alone.
2007-08-25 01:11:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good heaven's, you are Robert Smith! - just marry the girl! you've been dragging this on for, what, 20 years?
I've been married for 16 years, and it's great.
2007-08-25 01:13:36 · answer #9 · answered by super Bobo 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, people are too fickle and petty to be with each other forever.
2007-08-25 02:09:46 · answer #10 · answered by PeguinBackPacker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋