A Very good couple me and my husband are friends with since we were back in grade school are getting married. My husband is actually the best man. They havent sent out the invites yet but i know we are both invited (obviously) But do i take our daughter? she will only be 6 months old.. I mean if she gets disruptive i could always leave right? p.s Their more excited about her birth than any of our friends i just didnt know if it would be rude to take her on their day?
2007-08-24 17:30:08 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Wait and see what the invitation says, and if there's no mention of your daughter, then you may have to ask. If she's specifically mentioned, then you know for sure that you're welcome to take her.
2007-08-24 17:36:24 · answer #1 · answered by ozperp 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
See if she's invited. Personally, I don't think a wedding is a place for a 6 month old. I understand that your daughter means a lot to them. But, your daughter is going to be too young to remember the day. I might bring her the ceremony. Dress her up in a nice dress and do some pictures then.
After, I would leave her with her grandparents, an aunt or whom ever you trust with your children. Go the reception without her.
What if she starts fusing through your husband's best man speech. You'll have to get up nad leave, you'll miss the whole thing. Since your hubby is playing a large role in the wedding, I would want to be there all evening. Having the baby there will make that hard. Leave her home.
2007-08-25 00:48:43 · answer #2 · answered by Answer Girl 2007 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That is actually a good question.
I would honestly, if this was me, would discuss this with the groom and bride if they would mind if she could come along. That you would be respectful and take her out if she begins crying or being upset. She is a baby, the groom and bride would understand that is just what comes with being a baby. Nothing you can change about that as it is natural. You just attend her needs is all you can do.
If they arer excited about her birth, I would imagine they would not be offended. But it is a good question to bring up if they want children or young children to be present. Some people (as you will read on here) will ask how to word invites of no children allowed. Some find it is rude while others find it common. To each their own either way.
If you and your husband want some "adult time"alone, possibly find a trusted sitter or family member to take her for X amount of time.
Wouldn't hurt to ask and take her if they don't mind. Nor wouldn't it hurt to leave her with a trusted sitter while you two spent some adult time together.
2007-08-25 03:51:59 · answer #3 · answered by Mutchkin 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I say get a babysitter. She's not too young anymore so i'm sure you need a day to be together and have fun with your husband. Unless they invite her also on the invite then i'd say take her but going just the two of you will give you some time alone that you may not have had since before she was born.
2007-08-25 01:46:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wait for the invitation. You could also ask "Are you inviting children to your wedding or not?" since she is a close friend. Just tell her you want to arrange for a babysitter if need be.
If children are invited, it is no problem since you are not in the wedding. Just sit on the edge of an aisle, so you can step out quickly if she starts fussing during the ceremony.
2007-08-25 00:46:13 · answer #5 · answered by fizzy stuff 7 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Get a sitter for your baby. She doesn't belong at an adult affair like a wedding. And no matter how excited they are about your baby, it will be their day, and they will not have time to spend with your baby anyway.
So leave her home, and you and your husband go and have a good time!
2007-08-25 08:31:43 · answer #6 · answered by Cat Lover 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
depends on if they are formal people or more down to earth. you could always ask to make sure - if you do sit near the back and to the isle and be sure and dress baby for the occassion with an extra bottle and pacifier - or you could just hire a baby sitter - most people love to see happy babies dressed up at weddings. If you wanted you could bring the baby sitter with you so you wouldn't miss the wedding : )
2007-08-25 00:48:58 · answer #7 · answered by elizabet 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if they are that close - just ask. they might not think of it and that way you have more time to figure everything out if you need a babysitter or how you want to handle an upset baby.
2007-08-25 00:58:21 · answer #8 · answered by mender_bender2001 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would see if I could get a babysitter before hand, the baby is so young, and you know she is going to cry.
2007-08-25 00:41:40 · answer #9 · answered by dbrh_soto 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋