very confused on this?

Question

Okay,a couple days ago, I asked about my sister's ex. Most of the answers came back as "NEVER DATE UR SIS'S EX." Well, I dont know why it just hit me, but I remembered something. SHE IS CURRENTLY GOING OUT WITH MY EX. So do I go out with hers to get back at her? Or be fair? I really like Josh. And I think he likes me. WHAT SHOULD I DO?!?!

Answer 1

Ask your sister if it is okay. Maybe she doesn't care. You won't know until you ask. Don't date him just to get revenge on your sister.

Answer 2

For one, I say the whole thing with no dating family and friends exe's is a bit crazy. Because we are all someone's ex in one way or another. However that being said. Does not give you open leeway to go and jump on the Josh guy. Even if you guys like each other as all get out. You should probably talk over with your sister why she broke up with him or why he broke up with her. I know its not really any of your business, so don't ask about the really personal (sex) stuff or anything. Just ask her about what are his values and stuff are. Because if you don't do that and end up getting with one of her exe's that she dumped because he wasn't into family so much or something else, then you would only be in the same boat as she is. I know people are different, but if you have certain values and he doesn't it wouldn't make for a promising relationship. Another thing is too, that instead of trying to get back at your sister for going out with your ex, don't stoop to her level by doing the same thing, find a much better guy. Someone that neither of you have dated. This would show her much better that you are above such behaviour and games that she is playing. Shows also that you would be a real lady and making the more classy and mature decision by not doing as she does. Trust me she will get the message soon enough.

Answer 3

This is a touchy...touchy subject. Most people will say ....it is TABOO!! to go out with your sister's ex.
The thing with your situation is both you and her ex find each other attractive -- you need to ask your sister how she feels about it and examine your heart about the whole thing. If it comes between you and your sister, don't do it, regardless of her dating your ex. Never do anything to 'get back' at someone. What kind of start is that for a relationship? ...not good. And keep this in mind, that it may be very awkward for you to be with Josh...and your sister in the same place at the same time...what if you two marry? There's allot to consider.

Answer 4

Well if you sister is dating your ex to hurt you or to make a point, then i don't think you should go out with this guy. this will only make the relationship between you girls very weird. But if you sister is dating him and the fact that he is your ex has nothing to do with, then i think you can date him. Trust me its not worth it to mess with blood relations for men.


PS: or if you REALLY like Josh, just speak to your sister and find out how she will feel. Be the better & bigger person by respecting her feelings. you never know she might just be very greatful because you asked. =]

Answer 5

Remember the old saying two wrongs dont make a right!
You need to ask yourself honestly are you really infactuated by this guy or is it just resentment towards your sister, remember to consider his feelings as well its not fair to start a relationship with somebody else and excepting them as seconds because you are hurting imagine if this was the only reason he was going out with you how would you feel.

Its your ex's loss you deserve better, when your not looking you will meet someone and it will be right.

Answer 6

Ask her.

You have to live with your sister and family is important. Ask your sister if she would mind if you went out with her ex-boyfriend. If she objects then you can raise the issue that she is going out with your ex-boyfriend. If she still objects then I wouldn't date him. It isn't worth the stress at home.

If you think she has no problem and if you are courteous in asking her about her ex-boyfriend then you both will get along better, and that will be more important than some guy you want to date.

Answer 7

I think you should forget about this "Josh" and not start a family soap opera.

Leave this mess alone and find someone else to give your attention to; go down a new road.

This "relationship" will only lead to heartache for you and further disrupt your relationship with your sister. After all both these guys are a short term situation but you are "stuck" with your sister for the rest of your life.

Answer 8

In my opinion, when you say someone is your "EX" then that means the two of you have moved on. This means that you are free to do what you want. Now while it might be a little wierd because it is you sister's ex, he is still her ex. They are not going together.

Go for it.

Answer 9

To me you should never date a family's ex and I don't know why she would do it. It's always up too you but I think that maybe you should just to let your sister know how it feels and plus you like him.

Answer 10

If you guys really like each other, than GO FOR IT! but don't do it for the reason of getting back at your sister. That just makes you as low as her.

Answer 11

well since you are sisters you naturally have similar attraction's to certain attributes in men so it actually makes since that you would be dating each others exes. Don't listen to negative advice men come and go you well be sisters for ever. So let go of grudges and "pay backs" laugh and let your similarity's in tastes bring you closer.