me and my guy are waiting until marriage, but the other night we got into it pretty heavy and had anal sex. we are not sure if he is still a virgin or not. input please, but keep your critizism to your self please.
2007-08-24 15:11:03 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I found it funny that you added the line "input please" into your question about anal!
Anyway, no, he's no longer a virgin. He's had you whether either of you want to see it that way or not. Sure, he hasn't had a chance to take the real ride, but the backside is almost just as good as the real thing.
Tell him I said congratulations friend!
2007-08-24 15:16:46 · answer #1 · answered by gh0st 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
In the strictest sense of the definition, yes he is still a virgin. However, realistically he's not. The whole point of abstaining is to abstain. And you did not. You found a work around. He still penetrated and all the other stuff that goes with intercourse. Besides, I gotta wonder if he really was a virgin before. Not many guys want to do anal the first time. As long as you're comfortable with that and trust him it's up to you. But I just hope you haven't set a precedent here that you'll have a hard time living down.
2007-08-24 15:31:28 · answer #2 · answered by rohak1212 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well it depends on the persons view on it. Some people say oral sex is losing your virginity. Some people say if you had anal sex your not a virgin. My personal belief is that you can have oral and still be a virgin. But I think if you have anal you aren't only because your having a type of intercourse. The only way he can't be a virgin is if your not a virgin. Which means if you believe anal sex is sex just like me your both not virgins. But it is your opinion.
2007-08-24 15:18:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, that's bull. Oral sex is sexual in nature, but it is not intercourse. If a girl has or gives oral sex it doesn't mean she's not a virgin. It just means she's had or given oral sex. In order for a girl not to be a virgin anymore, she needs to have sexual intercourse which would theoretically break her hymen (which can also be broken by playing sports, riding horses and some girls just don't have them) thereby breaking her "maidenhead" and taking her virginity. There needs to be actual insertion of a penis in there to take her virginity. For guys, I guess it's debatable and what your definition of sex is because they don't break anything, they just kind of stick it in. I would say that yes, he's still a virgin, he's just had oral sex. Where things get sticky - no pun intended - is when you get in to anal etc. Not that it's commonplace, but I would say that can be qualified as a cherry-popping act, but others may not. That's really sad that he did that in sixth grade. Sixth graders should be focused on school and friends and sports and the opposite sex just coming in to the picture.
2016-05-17 08:02:12 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Technically only girls can be virgins. Females have this thin sheet of skin within the vagina which tears during the first intercourse. Its a little painful and uncomfortable for the girl. After this she is no more a virgin.
As for the guys, there is no physical change which points to a change in virginity.
So if you have had sex like the way you have mentioned, its only a question of morality more than virginity.
2007-08-24 15:27:52 · answer #5 · answered by sting 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
lady phoenix....I would say that "hands" would only be masturbation whether mutual or not...
if a guy or girl is a teenager and masturbates...they ARE still virgins..because if a teenage guy NEVER masturbates..he STILL will ejaculate...(that is what the wet dream is)..so..does that dream kill his virginity? NO!
as far as the girl is concerned...if the hymen is still in tact...I don't see how she loses her virginity...to me..that was kind of the deal right there...
now..for me I agree that oral and anal sex IS sex and could be grounds for losing your virgin status but..that is a personal decision to me ..because the vagina has been penetrated..but..personally .i don't see manual labor as being part of that.
2007-08-24 15:27:07 · answer #6 · answered by juanes addicion 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As mentioned in the name... "anal sex" it is a form of sex so I would say that since you both had anal sex that if a form of sex which means that he and yourself as well would no longer be considered virgins. Obviously ppl have their own definitions usually dependent on what is convenient to them. Though u didnt hav vaginal intercourse it is still sexual intercourse just anal instead of vaginal...
2007-08-24 15:17:47 · answer #7 · answered by neek 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hate to break it to your bf's no virgin. Sex isn't just penile-vaginal intercourse. It includes oral anal action. Not only that, anal sex isn't as safe as vaginal sex because the anus doesn't stretch the same.
Its totally natural to have sexual feelings and to act on them. (obviously you know this). But if you're going to have sex make sure its mutually pleasurable. Educate yourself and use some reasonable measure of caution. Use a condom and water-based lubes!
2007-08-24 15:47:16 · answer #8 · answered by zupermodel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that he's is no longer a virgin to anal sex, but is still a virgin to regular sex..lol..GOOD LUCK!! TO YOU BOTH..I give you guys props..waiting till marriage..I honestly mean that in a very good way..:)
2007-08-24 15:20:59 · answer #9 · answered by shai 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
technically neither one of u are virgins anymore. u have both had sexual intercourse.... just anal. now u still have ur hymen probably, but ur not considered a virgin anymore as far as sexual relations go.
neither is he. he has now had sexual intercourse.
when ppl who are gay have sex or any other people who regularly have anal- we say they have sex. we dont go around calling it something else. its not considered NOT SEX because the guy isnt penetrating a vagina. anal sex=sex.
2007-08-24 15:16:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋