I currently have 6 children, 5 of which are adopted and one of which is biological and I am pregnant again. Am I being unfair towards my other children for having a big family. They don't seem to mind because they each have one close to their age but I just wonder if I'm being fair or if I'm being selfish. What do you think?
2007-08-24 14:15:36 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
We have a plenty big enough house, 5 bedroom 4 bathroom and between me and my husband we earn about 200,000 a year, maybe more because when I'm home I offer a babysitting service because I have enough room (the basement is a playroom where they primarily stay). They may not have the certain shirt or the certain shoes, but if they really wanted it, then they would use their own allowance to pay for it. And also we aren't living off of welfare or anything like that.
2007-08-24 14:19:30 · update #1
The only reason I asked was because both my and my husband's mothers are concerned. They don't think such a big family is a good idea.
2007-08-24 14:33:59 · update #2
I think it is wonderful what you and your husband are doing,Those kids that you have adopted look at what they might have had if it werent for you.You have to be a special person to be able to love another child as if it were your own,The love that you are able to give them it is great and if the other kids dont mind thats all that counts,You will be blessed for what you have done.
2007-08-24 15:20:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's wonderful that you have such a big family, as long as each child is getting love and special attention from you. It's also amazing that you have adopted 5 children and brought them into, what I hope is, a warm and loving environment. Please don't feel guilty for having many children, as long as you feel you love them all the way children need to be loved. No family is too big or too small as long as it is just that, a family.
All the best to you and yours and congratulations on your new child.
2007-08-24 21:23:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I give you kudos for adopting.
I have a big family (all biological) and I didn't care for it when I was younger, however when I got older and things started happening, relationships.. moving out.. college etc.. I being the youngest had older siblings to lean to for help.
In the end i'm glad I came from a big family and i'm not alone.
I think the best answer is the one that comes from your children, they are probably the ones who carry the concern.
Depending on ages of course, babies aren't able to talk.
But I think it's great that you are able to adopt that many and also have biological children, that is wonderful!.
Best wishes and luck to you and your family and congrats on your future bundle of joy!
2007-08-24 21:22:37 · answer #3 · answered by Stroo B 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No. You have a large enough income, and you are definitely not being selfish to adopt. By adopting, you are sharing your good life with those who don't have any hope of having what you have. If you are being unfair to anyone (which you aren't) it's yourself, for taking on such a large philanthropy effort. I respect and admire you already, for helping the greater good.
2007-08-25 15:14:46 · answer #4 · answered by Guns N Roses Gal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heck no...if you want kids you go for it. My husband is one of eight kids. I love kids!! I have two biological children and I am not able to have anymore. But I sure would love to adopt more. People can think whatever they want it all up to you and your husband. You are not being selfish I can't blame you. As long as you and your husband show those children unconditional love things will be fine!! Good for you!!! You sound like an awesome mom!!!
2007-08-24 22:33:21 · answer #5 · answered by LeeLynn 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I personally think you and your husband have a HUGE HEART....Wish they were more people on this planet that would adopt poor, innocent children that really need a home. I just come from a 2 sibling family, me and my sister....And we don't get along that well, wish I had a large family, at least I know I would get along with 1 of them...LOL....But no, God Bless Yall, adopt more if you can, you sound like good people that cares for the well-being of these wonderful children.....Take care...All Of You
2007-08-24 21:27:25 · answer #6 · answered by suzanne_scorpio 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Hey! If you've got the time, money, and ENERGY for all those kids then I say... MORE POWER TO YOU, HONEY!
It's not ufair, especially since you have adopted so many as well.
Good for you.
The very fact that you are concerned about being fair to the kids tells me that you are a great mom with plenty of love to go around.
2007-08-24 21:27:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You obviously have enough love to go around. As I've told my kids before, when you're outside enjoying the sunshine and someone else comes and joins you, you don't get any less sunshine. And so it is with love...it never runs out, no matter how many people bask in it.
Your children sound well-loved and taken care of. God Bless you all! And congratulations on your upcoming blessed event!
2007-08-24 21:59:16 · answer #8 · answered by Liza 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If u are not raising these kids with welfare and u can afford to have these children and raise them then u can have as many kids as u want but if u are relying on the state welfare system to help u raise these kids then u need to stop now and have this baby and then get a tubal ligation, i read in your details your husband is having problems with having more kids and since he has some say in this u need to listen to his side too. raise what u have and if u can afford to have some more later on in life do it...
2007-08-25 10:39:54 · answer #9 · answered by THE UK WILDCAT FAMILY 10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, definitely not!! Adoption is a wonderful thing. As long as you are able to provide for them all, then what does it matter. I think it is great, they always have someone to play with and learn from. Congrats on the new one on the way. Keep up the good work.
2007-08-24 21:29:48 · answer #10 · answered by Cheryl C 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋