Most best friends will not date their best friend's ex because no matter how much you would like to be distant from the situation, it just doesn't work. It's very unusual for you not to feel emotions. It doesn't mean you still love him, it's just awkward and emotional. Your friend shouldn't have done it. If this is difficult for you, then distant yourself from this friend and develop other best friends.
2007-08-24 13:42:27
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answered by LAL 5
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I can understand your feelings about this situation but I would not call it jealousy rather a betrayal .Although, you are no longer interested in your ex romantically, you still had a romance with him and feel betrayed by your best friend and to some extent, even your ex.While there might be a little resentment at their insensitivity, I will suggest that you wish your best friend good luck.Unless you are still carrying a secret torch for your ex, there is a reason why he is your ex. Tell your friend she could have been open about dating your ex ;however ,wish her the best.Then find your self a new and better boyfriend .That will be your ultimate solution(and revenge, though I don't like the concept of revenge).Best of luck to you.
2007-08-24 20:59:53
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answered by abbeycoolit 7
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Hey he's your ex which means you moved on. You shouldn't feel conscience about it, or jealous. that is unless you still like him or you're hurt about the break up. You shouldn't be resentful to that and yes, I'd say that you are acting selfish. However, she is your best friend and if she knows that you're the 'selfish type' she shouldnt do it because obviously its hurting you. But none the less, your mind should go that way that's what couples do in the theater, make out.
2007-08-24 20:41:06
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answered by a.braynen 3
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This happened to me..but it wasn't my best friend so it was a little different..
i think that is horrible of her...how dare her! i mean, isn't that just an unwritten rule between women?
You aren't being selfish at all. There is a reason he is your ex, and your best friend shouldn't be dating him soley because of that.
I know some people are like "oh you can't help what happens" that's BS when it come down to something like this. I would tell her exactly how you feel about it.
2007-08-24 20:41:17
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answered by live and let live 4
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omigod! pretty much the same exact thing happened to me! she has been my close friend literally since we were born because our parents are friends and have known eachother a long time so, yea, ive known her all my life. and she started secretly writing notes to and going out with my ex! she decided to tell me about it TWO WEEKS after theyve been goin out. i was really angry about it. i definately dont like my ex anymore either. hes a real psycho. but anyways, sorry didnt mean 2 make this about me but yes the same thing happened 2 me. i dont think u are being selfish at all. its almost always complicated when a close friend wants 2 date one of your exes. and its even worse when they dont tell u about it! most likely your friend didnt want 2 tell u bcuz she didnt want 2 upset u and ruin ur friendship (even tho not tellin u about it would get u more upset). but maybe since shes acting like its no big deal, she thinks u didnt have the rite 2 kno or sumthin or that it isnt really any of ur business since hes ur ex now. either way, u need 2 find out 4 sure wat she was thinkin. bring it up 2 her and just let her kno how all this makes u feel and be calm and keep cool when u talk. tell her it would have made u feel a lot better about it, since ur best friends, if she would have consulted u about dating ur ex beforehand. and remind her that friends come before guys.
2007-08-24 21:16:45
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answered by sneasel 2
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no you aren't being selfish.. well maybe in a way... but there is a reason why you broke up with him and maybe you don't want to have the same things happen to your best friend. the best thing is to let it go if she is really your best friend in the entire world. just let her know that you are glad she has someone and you may not be totally happy about who it is but that is her choice and you will be there for her if she needs it.
2007-08-24 20:43:47
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answered by cowgirlclub 4
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He's your ex so there is nothing you can really do about who he dates, but it is ackward if your friend messes with him. I say let them be and move on with your life or date one of her exes and if she confronts you then tell her that she now understands how you feel.
2007-08-24 20:43:13
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answered by Survivor 6
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if she is your best friend; you should just be able to talk to her about it all. ask her what she is looking for from him if she is hanging out with him a lot now. if she know your serious and concerned then she will not let you down if she is a true friend
2007-08-24 20:46:41
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answered by longhorn06champ 2
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Yes you are being selfish...Why should you even care what they do or don't do...You don't like your ex so leave it alone.
2007-08-24 20:40:06
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answered by Anonymous
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Little selfish and lot of evny!
2007-08-24 20:40:59
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answered by Thomas 6
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