Dating ex's friend?

Question

My ex-boyfriend and I still have some unresolved issues, but we're still friends in a way. In fact, I ironically ran into him today and it was kind of awkward, well, for me anyways.

Anyway, his good friend (whom I barely know) asked me to have a movie night (my favorite kind of date) with him tonight at his place. I said maybe because I really like this guy. He seems genuinely nice (and cute) and I've met him before....the only thing is... he & my ex are NOW roommates as of last week.....Should I go for fun or avoid the awkwardness? My ex said that he doesn't mind if I come over....

Answer 1

Your ex is lying, I don't know a person born who can stand to see their ex showing affection to someone else right before their eyes, try to avoid being with your new friend around your ex boyfriend. He may pretend like it won't bother him but it will and you don't need that drama. Even if he was the cause of the breakup look at it like this, how would you feel if it was you? I say that because I've been on both sides of that stick and neither side was one I could handle.

Answer 2

Let me try to recap all you have said:you have unresolved issues with your boyfriend and meeting him is still awkward for you;you barely know his now room mate and good friend but you really like him;you accepted a movie date at his place(now ,of course theirs);and your ex does not mind.Why would you want to date a friend of your ex much less a good friend.This situation potentially could explode in your face with implications for your reputation, your ex and his friend, and any chance of a resolution of the unresolved issues you have with your ex. In spite of his assurance, your ex does mind and will resent you dating his friend .No matter how nice or cute you think his friend is , please look elsewhere.Remember, if you don't respect your self first, no one will respect you, and I am positive you respect yourself.

Answer 3

Your x is lying regarding that he does not mind if you come over. (Hm.......unless......they've spoken and have something up their sleeves). (Boys speak to each other and share things just like girls do), I would take caution if I were you. Something sounds fishy, and besides, you're stepping on a whole new territory with this dating your x's friend thing. I would keep my distance.
Avoid the awkwardness and find another date. This sounds like it's going to bring on some heavy drama that you might not want in your life PERIOD.

Answer 4

hey go for fun - why not?
you dont owe your ex anything - and you should put all the awkwardness aside. this might even help out. :)

if this guy is nice - and you want to hang out - dont let anything hold you back - especially not a failed relationship

so i say go for it my friend :)

Answer 5

go for it
let your hair down
hes your ex
if he didnt want you to he wouldnt have said he doesnt mind
have fun x