These four are from one family ages 10 ,9,8 and 2. My sister his aunt is livid to say the least. I Dont know how to feel about this . She said she will not go to the wedding .
,because all the other cousins are invited there ages range from 14 to 23 .I see both sides but dont want to side with any one
2007-08-24 12:46:54 · 17 answers · asked by heyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I can understand the 2 year old, because he doesn't know what's going on. However the 10, 9, and 8 year-old will all be aware that they were the only ones not invited. I think it's lame to invite all but 4 when 3 of the 4 are old enough to attend.
2007-08-24 18:52:34 · answer #1 · answered by kimandryan2008 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Well, what everyone needs o understand is that the bride and groom have the right to invite whomever they please and if they wish to exclude children under a certain age then thay is their prerogative and people should respect their wishes and get a sitter. Children can often be a disruption or even get completely bored at these events and while some couples go out of their way to make sure children are entertained, some prefer not to have them attend and that is their choice whatever their reasons may be.
You sister should not be so huffy and just accept the fact that these are the wishes of the bride and groom. It is certainly her choice whether or not to attend, but to stay home in retribution is childish. Perhaps the parents of these four young children will actually be grateful for a night out sans kids?
2007-08-24 12:56:50 · answer #2 · answered by ETicket 3 · 5⤊ 1⤋
wedding invitations cause so much trouble. my daughter had all the children from both sides of the family at her wedding, and every one had a great day, i cannot see why the four children have been left out if the other cousins are invited, unless they think they are too young.
2007-08-28 11:12:01 · answer #3 · answered by champagne 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your nephew invited other cousins between 2 and 10 years old, your sister would have legitimate reason to be upset. But as many others have pointed out, he does have the prerogative to set an age limit, such as teens, and not invite children younger than that limit. I think your sister should respect that or not attend.
2007-08-24 16:02:38 · answer #4 · answered by Ms. X 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
They have the right to not have young children at the wedding. Your sister needs to talk with him about it - calmly. If this is what is happening, she needs to respect his decision. Frankly, if I were having a wedding, I would not invite small children. They get bored, act up and get in people's way on the dance floor, and the prices they charge per plate are extremely high - especially for a small child who probably will waste a lot of their meal and won't be taking advantage of the price-per-person open bar. I don't blame him at all. If you don't want to take sides, why don't you show your sister the answers that come up with your question?
2007-08-24 14:13:15 · answer #5 · answered by Mrs. Goddess 6 · 4⤊ 1⤋
It is your nephew's decision on who to invite and who not to invite.
I can see both sides, but your sister should not be livid. It is your nephew's day and his bride's, not a day for your sister to show off her children.
I went to my uncle's wedding as a child, I have no memory of it being enjoyable, just a party where I was introduced to relatives I wouldn't see again for years. So I doubt the children care.
2007-08-25 00:59:51 · answer #6 · answered by no_frills 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Many brides and grooms do this... the age cut off is before teenage years. No young children. Your aunt may be livid, but I wonder how she would have felt if a two year old threw a tantrum or yelled out during her wedding vows.
If she wants to act like her two year old, then it is certainly best that she stays home and pouts .
2007-08-24 13:07:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 1⤋
Maybe your Nephew doesn't want anyone 10 and younger there. There mother will just be watching them the whole time and why go if you'll have to do that. I'd not worry about it and go to the wedding. If she has that big of a problem with it then she should talk to her nephew and see why that happened.
2007-08-24 19:12:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
When we got married we were on a tight budget and did not have any leeway for extra guests at the reception. If the children were in high school, we considered them as young adults and included them. we specifically stated no young children. A few guest did call me and ask if the children could be included for the cake and dancing part of the reception, which was acceptable to us and to them. Everyone was happy.
2007-08-24 17:01:50 · answer #9 · answered by Mary S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They may not want children at their wedding and that is their perogative. If their mother is really upset she should talk to the parents of the groom/bride to find out why they weren't invited.
A lot of people do not invite younger children, especially at a night wedding (unless they are in the bridal party.)
Before your sister blows her top she should find out the reason they weren't invited, maybe it was just an oversight.
2007-08-24 12:54:57 · answer #10 · answered by Reba 6 · 4⤊ 1⤋