My friend Eric is pretty much in love with this girl named Rita. They're both going into their sophomore year in high school. He's liked Rita for about 3 or 4 months now. They didn't really talk to each other during school, but they keep in touch on a daily basis through Facebook. Should he tell her he likes her? Why or why not? If so, how should he do it? Thanks in advance!
2007-08-24 11:02:36 · 24 answers · asked by Thomas H 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I appreciate the insight and criticism of me, but I give my friend plenty of freedom, and I never bring up Rita. We only talk about her when he brings it up. AND I introduced him to Yahoo! Answers and asked his permission to ask this question.
2007-08-26 11:31:20 · update #1
He should tell her, because she may like him as well. It's better to give it a try because he doesn't have anything to lose. He might regret not telling her if he doesn't tell her. In person would most likely be the best way.
2007-08-24 11:09:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should let him do what he wants.
But he should know that.... he only has one life to live. If he doesn't ask her out, who knows what could happen... =)
Are there signs she likes him? Ask Rita what she thinks of him. IF they are good things, tell Eric about it, and maybe it will boost his confidence about having a chance with her....
And about how he should do it? well,... he should NOT just say, "wanna go out with me?". BIG NO NO.
He should simply start a casual conversation like.. "hey! what's up?" then ask her if she wants to hang out this weekend. Maybe invite her to an event? If he's too nervous to go alone with her. You and a couple of other friends and Rita's friends should all go together. =)
But of course, he can buy her lunch or something to show that he's interested in HER. ^_^
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2007-08-24 11:11:42 · answer #2 · answered by PaperHeart59 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just stick around for awhile untill the other guy is done & throws her in ur hand.When girls say unatractive they mean it but they always give u a chance untill they get a better one.So it seems u can't get others who likes u let alone loves u,so I think it's better to wait even if it is for a month or 2.Make sure u get a picture of urs with her for ur next profile.I'm sorry I'm the only one here who's trying to help u but the next time put it in ur local paper so u get more reply.
2016-03-17 05:41:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
With girls you don't have to come right out and say "hey, I like you." Why doesn't he ask her out to a movie or a cup of coffee? Maybe you all can go on a double date so you can hang out. Love..hmmm sounds like infatuation to me. If he wants her to be his girlfriend, then definitely get a small gift (nothing expensive) like a bracelet or flowers and take her somewhere special and ask her. This is very romantic. Good luck.
2007-08-24 11:11:17 · answer #4 · answered by Brain 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, he shouldn't come out and say "i like you" because that may scare her off. When someone does that it doesn't have the best results.
a better aproach would be for him to be like " hey wanna 'hang out' sometime?" Asking a girl to 'hang out' is less stressfull than saying 'date'. Its more casual and theres a higher chance she'll say yes. So he can hangout with her and they can get to know each other better, give her a chance to get to know him and take things slow and try to see if she likes him as well. Its the best approach because if by some chance she doesn't like him, he avoids rejection and awkward situations later on.
Hope i helped! ^_^
2007-08-24 11:10:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't worry about stupid answers.You have the right to ask and it's not your fault if you are a teenager.I agree with the "russian" lady: he should ask at least one more time (or 2) to go out...if she says yes, than he will be more secure to tell her what he feels like, because more chances of being yes!be happy!
2007-08-24 11:11:27 · answer #6 · answered by Rute A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heck, Eric, TELL RITA YOU LIKE HER!!!
But, I wouldn't do that in an impersonal thing like her Facebook. Maybe he ought to walk her home one day, or offer to. Maybe he could call her and ask if he could come over for a little while and then when he goes over, just say something like, "You know, I've liked you for awhile now, so I thought, maybe, we could go out on a date sometime, if you'd like to." Then she can answer....either way...positive or negative, at least he'd KNOW.
2007-08-24 11:10:26 · answer #7 · answered by bitadkins 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Drop a coupla obvious 'hints'. If she doesnt bite she's not interested or she's clueless. Throw a coin. Heads for not interested,tail for clueless. Not interested: 4get it. Clueless:ask her out 2moro!
Carpe Diem!
2007-08-24 11:12:44 · answer #8 · answered by underworld_wonder 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, no, no......don't do the grapevine crap.
That's so IMMATURE and lame.
Seriously tell your buddy to toughen up and approach her, she's going to think he's pretty well......lame if you're coming up to her and telling her that. Because she's going to think that if he really does/did like her that much, then he would come up to her and tell her himself.
Do you know what I mean?
So tell him to go up to her.
It's not hard.
2007-08-24 11:10:25 · answer #9 · answered by Murphy's Law 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You stay out of his business. If it was you, and you liked a girl, you don't say; I Like you. You say: I'm doing (this activity) and was wondering if you wanted to come along?
2007-08-24 11:10:03 · answer #10 · answered by Crocus 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋