something that makes me want to pull all of my hair out at one time!!!!!!!!!!!!!!?

Question

im only 14... my mom and dad are divorced and everything and i go to my dads on weekends you know the process.

but like 5 years after my mom and dad split (i was 3 when they split)

my dad meets someone else.they get married and divorce like 7 or 8 years later

but right after they got divorced the sister of my dads ex dies in australia on her honeymoon by drowning (it was on the news)

and my dad goes to the funeral and sees his ex is pregnant....

and the kid is like 3 or 4 now and at first everyone thinks its not my dads...

and now everyone thinks it might be....

and i wont know if i have a brother until november 19 which is driving me off the f*cking wall...

advice for me or anybody?!?!?!!!

(and yes i know this isnt about religion but this is one of the very few sections i trust on advice and whatnot because people here are smart.)

im not 11, im 14

i know i didn give accurate divorce and break up years but i sincerely am 14

Answer 1

I can’t imagine how I would feel if I were in your situation. I know it must be hard to have to wait to find out if he is your brother, but look at it this way. Even with the age difference you can still be good friends even if he isn’t your brother.

Hang in there. Life has a way of getting very strange sometimes but situations generally sort themselves out eventually.

Answer 2

Well, there isn't anything you can do about it, right? So you just have to wait.

So in the meantime, don't let it control you or your feelings. You can't control the situation, so you might as well just put it out of your mind. Find something else to occupy your mind, that will help a lot.

Hopefully you won't do crap like this to YOUR kids when you have them. I mean, there's worse parents out there than yours, and there's better parents out there than yours, but the idea is to do better by your kids than your parents did by you.

Anyway, try to relax and just go be a kid and have some fun, and forget about that mess your parents have made. Soon enough you'll know if you have a brother or not. Don't brain damage yourself over it in the meantime.

Answer 3

I guess talk to your father. This child will be your sibling no matter what. My father was rather - different. He had 3 wives (my mother was #3) We never knew he had other children or other wives for that matter until I was in my teens. Quite a shocker to find out I had a half brother and 2 half sisters. I love my half brother and sister from my dad's second wife. No one knows where my other sister is - and I really hate that - especially since her baby picture looks a lot like me.

Life is not fair, and is often difficult. You can't control this situation, so sit back and see what happens. Enjoy your brother or sister when ever you can and help your dad out.

Answer 4

I hate seeing young adults in so much anguish over parents' actions. But think of it that way; it's their problem and not yours--(don't LET it become your problem). Try to enjoy your youth! It really would help to talk to your parents; is it possible? If not a trusted family member or counselor or minister. You shouldn't feel the weight of the whole world on your shoulders. Talking will really help. Also give yourself some alone time, maybe even just a walk and calm yourself down and think on the good things in your life and what plans you want to make for your future. And prayer really does do wonders! Good luck! Keep us posted?

Answer 5

Wow...you poor boy!I guess your life is really hard...my mom died when i was young and my father remarried after 2 years so i understand part of your situation...i guess you must feel like a ping-pong ball.I don't know what to tell you that might help you...try to find a goo friend (adult or mature enough to listen you and give you good advice)..and if you have faith in God pray to Him..i know many people here tease with God but He is our best friend, believe me in my hardest times He encourages and comforts me...Don't loose the hope and i wish you the best.Hang on there kid!

Answer 6

Just relax Friend. You have absolutely zero control over any of this that is happening and worrying about it is only hurting yourself. Things have a way of working themselves out. Y ou may not like the end result but that is just life. Try not to worry so much.

Answer 7

I think it would be nice for you to have a half brother, don't you? You can never have too much family. Try to look on the bright side...You will probably make a great big brother. And when he is older, you can hang out. When he is 20 and you are 31,,you will look back and think how lucky you are to have each other...and if it isn't,,,well,,,it would have been nice. : )

Answer 8

Aaaah thats tough hunni! I dont know exactly what to tell you to do it must be really frustrating. Maybe you should talk a bit more to your Dad about it see what his feelings are on the subject. Sorry I couldnt be more helpfull. Hope it all turns out well for you love x x x

Answer 9

You are into a situation that is taking up all your time and energy. At this point in your life you will have a brother or you won't. Whatever your relationship is today it won't change one way or another. Things will more or less stay the same.

Answer 10

People here are smart.? My dear, that's not very smart of you. Some people here are, well, not smart to be nice.
To answer, you just have to be patient and not get your hopes up either way. I know it is very hard to wait. Try keeping busy and keep your mind focused on something challenging.


Sending you a smile to help pick up your day.