Ok so myself and my guy really do want to get married, but in about 2 years. We also both want a atleast semi-traditional wedding, and well if we do get married @ that time, i'll just have turned 18, and I know for a fact that my mom wouldn't like that, so there's NO way that it would fly. That being said our traditonal/semi-tradional dreams are shot out the window. We would have to get married at the court house. Any suggestions? Any at all would be great, advice would be nice too. Thanks
2007-08-24 10:35:53 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
We both plan on, and he is going to college. And he has already asked once to get engaged, so...
2007-08-24 10:43:39 · update #1
My suggestion would be you both go to college and get an education BEFORE planning any wedding. Trust me ..... it is the BEST thing you can do.
Good luck!
2007-08-24 10:41:38 · answer #1 · answered by Raspberry 6 · 7⤊ 0⤋
You have so much growing up to do in two years! Marriage is nothing like it is in the movies... Marriage is a lot of hard work.
If you guys want to get married then, go for it. Your parents do not have to support the idea and pay for it. They can at least attend out of respect for you!
You should really care what your parents think of your relationship though. It is really important. You will figure that later on down the road...
Good Luck!!
2007-08-24 17:50:58 · answer #2 · answered by Princess 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What is your rush to marry? I simply cannot understand you're a 16 year old child and you want to get married? Enjoy your youth...I stayed single into my 30's, and I will tell you something-- EVERY person I know who married younger (even into mid-20's) feels like they missed out on life...it's a very sad regret. And...these are women with happy marriages. I am all in favor of marriage, but not for someone as young as you. If I were your mother, I'd be upset too.
2007-08-24 18:22:39 · answer #3 · answered by melouofs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
get a college degree first, both of you. the least you have to worry about money, the longer the relationship is going to last. I think your parents would be more supportive of the idea if you both went to school first. Plus, a lot can happen in 2 years to change your plans. Don't get married before you don't have to worry about money
2007-08-24 17:46:23 · answer #4 · answered by I_am_Meg_Griffin 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
focus on getting your education. you have your whole life to be married. enjoy being young. wait until after college to get married. seriously. I had a blast in college, I could not image having to worry about my husband!!! enjoy your youth, it's the only one you have. you don't have to break up, just don't rush into marriage. allow yourself time to live life for yourself before you have to live it for someone else. because when you get married, your spouse becomes your top priority, and you become your second priority (and he should feel the same - you should be his top priority). that's a pretty big commitment that even some adults can't make. so wait. these are the last few years of your life where you can get away with being really selfish. enjoy it!!!!!
2007-08-24 22:39:57 · answer #5 · answered by not margaret 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
continue your relationship for the next 2 years and then at 18 if you STILL want to get married get engaged and plan a wedding from there.
2007-08-24 20:36:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
worry about the wedding when u get engaged in 2 years. a lot can happen and change in relationships in the next 2 yrs. i think if u have a long engagement ur parents will take the relationship more serious and might consider supporting ur future husband and decision.
2007-08-24 17:41:38 · answer #7 · answered by spadezgurl22 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Go to college first, worry about marriage later. You are young, what is the rush to get married? Wait and you will be glad you did because you can have the traditional wedding of your dreams.
Good luck!
2007-08-24 18:19:48 · answer #8 · answered by Reba 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
In 2 years when your parents see that your boyfriend is still around and that the 2 of you are still in love, they may change their minds about you getting married. Right now they probably think you are too young to know that this is love and they don't want you to be emotionally hurt. I would wait it out and hope for the best.
2007-08-24 18:09:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Go to college, get a degree, and if you still want to marry each other you'll be more prepared and able to afford married life. If you two get married in two years where will you live, how will you support yourselves, how will you pay for college etc, etc? I can totally understand why your parents would not agree.
2007-08-24 18:11:07 · answer #10 · answered by UhOH! 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋