My girlfriend of several months is currently in jail. She violated the terms of her house arrest. Which she was on because she took a wrap for a friend, who turned out to be a jerk. Anyways, she has made plans to turn her life around. She is not returning to her job, as a stripper, when she gets out. She is turning away from her bad influence friends, which will leave her about 2 friends. Her family is all screwed up, so they won't be around to lend her support. She has made it clear to me that she don't want me to help her with money, as I am her boyfriend, not some random customer. She plans on getting a cheap 2 bedroom apartment, for her and her son, and working a regular job while going to school. And she plans on being a church regular. All this sounds good, but I don't see how it can work. Plus her son is used to getting everything he wants. She will be on a very fixed income, probally have to move to a bad part of town. I have the extra money, should I insist on helping her?
2007-08-24 09:40:09 · 5 answers · asked by desperadooutlawjc 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She sounds like a real winner! Very hard decision, she's obviously gonna need help. Can you help her as friend and move on with your love life? It sounds like the best solution. I really hope she turns herself around. Good luck!
2007-08-24 09:52:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would insist on helping her out. I would sit her down and have her think about her son's future... as that is the most important.
I would start out helping her out just a little. I know she says she's planning on changing... but its going to be difficult for her to do. See how things go. If she goes back to her old ways... then i would stop helping her out financially.
Good luck! Its a hard situation to be in.
2007-08-24 09:57:56 · answer #2 · answered by Shorty 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you really care about her and love her then ya you should help her thru thick and thin if shes willing to change her life from bad to good its worth helping her and shes gonna have to teach her son that he cant get everything he wants
Hope everything goes well
Keep on insisting
2007-08-24 09:55:19 · answer #3 · answered by Daniela17 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, to threat labeling myself a rank newbie within the eyes of anyone so confident as Ian, I will say that this poem is already really cast, even though I do consider that the grammatical inversion you've selected within the line 'But nonetheless she appears to remedy discover' is unnecessarily abstruse; I in my view recognize your cause precisely, however my grammatical experience is strangely subtle and I understand you followed it to keep the exacting, metronomic cadence this poem has. However, it used to be pointless. You might have mentioned as comfortably 'But remedy nonetheless she appears to discover' and feature have shyed away from striking the direct item in a break up infinitive. Is what you probably did wrong gramatically? No, however by means of the equal token it's not most effective .Now directly to the top of the poem, and the penultimate line: I consider it might larger serve your cause to interchange the interval finishing the antepenultimate line by means of a comma (making of the road a clause), after which exchanging 'that is' with 'what is' within the penultimate line. I believe you that you just can not difference the final line to Ian's advice with out exchanging the have an impact on of the complete poem, that is that Beth is attempting to discover a few souvenir of the daddy she in no way knew. She will clear up not anything by means of crying; she's quite simply curious. I grew up in a unmarried-guardian family; my mom raised me, and my brother, with out him. He left her among the time of my belief and my start; I've in no way met him or talked to him. I have visible portraits and heard the reviews, however that is it. I can, as much as a factor, empathize with 'Beth.' It's now not an social gathering for crying such a lot as one for wondering, "Who used to be he?" and "Who am I?" That being mentioned, the phrase 'frank' have got to be one you want to use to Beth's mom, who lives for the needs of the poem 'offstage', which serves to make Beth's questing extra solitary, extra heartbreaking. To the level that your process attracts the reader toward her, it makes the phrase 'frank' appear strange (individually). A knotty obstacle you've there Cassie! How will you clear up it. I do not intend to inform you 'the way you must' considering the fact that our animated correspondence has confident me almost always of the fervour of your brain and you'll discover the way in which... your means! Just do not take 'Beth' away to a few a long way get rid of within the approach. All in all, a great poem however one you'll, by way of additional cautious concept, make much more exact.
2016-09-05 12:50:24 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep the money in your pocket, help her in any way she asks within reason.
If she needs something, help her with it directly, in other words, if she needs groceries, take her to the grocery store and oay etc.
And be cautious, it's nice taht she wants to change, but if she falls back into the trap, don't be an enabler.....
2007-08-24 09:55:34 · answer #5 · answered by Michael H 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋