... What do you make of that? Do you think it's wrong? He doesn't see her anymore but when he did i know that he used to flirt with her a little (which he says was just them 'having fun'!)
Do you think it's bad for a man of his age to text a girl of that age? Do you think it's wrong for him to do it when he has a girlfriend? He used to text her everyday... is that wrong when he's dating me?
2007-08-24 09:36:39 · 39 answers · asked by cassy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He sounds like a perv who is heading for jail someday.
2007-08-24 09:40:34 · answer #1 · answered by Mark B 5 · 9⤊ 0⤋
Hi.
Firstly, 99% of the answerers here are jumping to conclusions. They are saying that its wrong and he could go to jail - they could be talking about nothing more than Beyonce's new song or Big Brother! Chill!
Secondly, we have to concentrate on the present and not the past. So forget about what used to happen, and concentrate on whats happening.
As for before though, being in your shoes I would be anxious if they were texting each other everyday. But why does this matter? The past is the past!
Age isn't very significant in this scenario, because all you suggest they are doing is talking and nothing more. I am 14 years old and one of my best friends (and friend of my parents) is a guy of 21 years and we text each other regularly. I see myself as rather mature for my age which means the age-gap is hardly visible. He is like any other of my older/younger female friends and rather like a brother.
However, even if these are nothing more than texts (and of course, I do not know what the texts are about) .. there seems to be a lack of trust in your relationship which I would confront now, otherwise you will have trouble committing to each other in the future. You need to confront him about this issue now, so you can be clear that they are only harmless texts and nothing more. Ask him how he would feel if things were the other way round?
If you are unhappy or he is unhappy you need to communicate with each other and be open. You have the question, he has the answer - we here on Y!A can only suggest and advise.
Hope this helps! Take care!
2007-08-24 12:23:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
this is really a two part issue.
1. if your boyfriend is texting another woman a lot and flirting then he is obviously not into the relationship with you. Personally I think an emotional affair is worse than a physical one.
2. a 22 year old man has no reason to be dealing with a 15 year old for any reason. It is not only illegal but immoral and disgusting. Sounds to me like he has about a 15 year olds mentality and should be in jail.
2007-08-24 09:44:16 · answer #3 · answered by eleroth 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's so many wrong things in that one sentence, I don't know where to start. He is 22 flirting with a 15 year old, first of all why was he involved with her in the first place to get her number? Second, it's very disrespectful for him to be texting or calling ANY other female knowing he is with you. If I were you, he'd be on the verge of being single along with being a pedophile. You shouldn't even need advice on that.
2007-08-24 10:22:31 · answer #4 · answered by **STAR** 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its just flat out wrong! No man should text or flirt with a 15 year old girl. He is a pedophile
2007-08-24 09:41:13 · answer #5 · answered by Alissa 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
VERY unkewl not only from the standpoint of him flirting via text when he's in a relationship with someone else but also because she was a minor and WAY off limits to someone his age....talk about inappropriate!
2007-08-24 09:41:05 · answer #6 · answered by . 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'm 15 and one of my best guy friends is 20. We met when he was in the same high school as me (he was a senior I was a freshmen). He does have a girlfriend and we do text .We're friends and that's all, though b4 he started dating her it was more flirty. Seriously though if its a situation like that I really wouldn't worry about it, but if they randomly met online or something like that then I might question it. Good luck!
2007-08-24 09:49:08 · answer #7 · answered by dancetilldawn202 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dump him!!!!! Mention paedophile and watch him turn green, and tell him about the phrase "grooming", just coz someone is NEARLY sixteen doesn't make it legal. And it is a big age difference anyway, especially as she is under the legal age and he is effectively an adult, not that he is behaing like one. But, even if she was older, would you still put up with his behaviour??
I certainly wouldn't!!!
2007-08-25 00:19:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if its just somebody that theyre cool with or like a friend of the family or something, then texting isnt really a big deal. but if theres more behind it, then yea, its wrong especially b/c of the age.
2007-08-24 10:19:52 · answer #9 · answered by LaidBack 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, he has issues.
Nothing 'fun' about flirting with an underage female.
Nothing to do with being wrong because he is dating someone, it's just wrong....period.
2007-08-24 09:41:01 · answer #10 · answered by Michael H 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think it's odd in less he is related to her in some way...
I mean he's 22 has a g/f....i could understand if he was friends
with a girl more his age..but 15....Odd....I would be carefull
good luck girl =]
2007-08-24 09:41:31 · answer #11 · answered by manda102285 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋