Can you honestly talk to your parents, why or why not?

Question

I am writing a book about parents, children, and other family. The stablilty of the family unit and like wise. can you truely talk to you parents? I personally Can't, whenever my parents know something about me they disapprove of they make fun of me, and never let it go. making it hard for me to be truely open with them. Theyre niether helpful or in ANYWAY encouraging. they may say they are, but they dont show it. So can you talk to your parents, why or why not?

Answer 1

I think the older you get the more honestly you can talk to your parents. When your younger you don't want to talk to your parents, you honestly don't want them knowning what you are doing - because you know they'll disaprove or find fault or disagree with what you are doing. Then when you become a parent yourself you want your parents honest discussions.

But in turn parents don't like it when you are honest about their life. They don't want to hear from you when you think they are not doing something right. They find it hard to take our advise, but are still eager to pass it on to us.

Some parents can encourage their kids to try things, all the while knowning that it may not work, an then the kids learn to make choices - some good some bad, and when a bad choice is made they encourage you to make it better. But a good choice has many rewards and that only makes the kids more able in the long run.

Other parents can't let their kids make choices, they have to make up the kids minds at every step. Then kids never learn to stand on their own two feet and get living. Hence the problem with adult kids still at home.

Some parents can't let go, neither can some kids - they hold the apron strings too long and it interfears with their grown up relationships. Which only causes trouble and grief for those around.

So yes you can talk to your parents, but they don't talk to you as often as we talk to them - espically as we get older and they need us more.

Please let me know how your book is coming, I'd like to read it and get an inside track on figuring out parents. Good luck to you.

Answer 2

I can. Mostly because I show them that I respect them as my parent and as a person. I try to relate to them more as a person, but respect them as an authority figure. I will tell them stuff they don't want to hear, but I stand up for myself, telling them that it's my life and I'm a big girl (26 yrs old). I'm responsible and have shown that they can trust me and the decisions I make. They've also set boundaries as far as what to discuss and what not to discuss with them. Some things are better left unsaid.

Both of my parents are very open minded, something I'm very lucky to have. They've always encouraged me to have a strong sense of self and have allowed me to fail, all the while showing that they still love me the same. Open, honest communication and respect is the way to have a good relationship with your parents. Wouldn't you want the same if you were a parent?

Answer 3

I cannot. My mother made it very clear to me when I was small that she is my mother-not my friend. I've kept to myself since I was a child. When I tried to tell my mother something she would react horrible-either with no comment or she would just laugh it off and say I didn't know what I was talking about.
My father was never a social person and I couldn't even tell him about my day.
I have always trusted my friends with everything cause I knew they would accept it-whether they approved of it or not.
I wish I had a better relationship with my parents-but I don't. When I have children I hope I can have a good relationship with them because I know what it's like to have a bad one.

Answer 4

Always could, always did. Actually I spoke to my mom about everything. We even got high together once in a while. She taught me all about the female body. There was no topic that was taboo. My father wasn't around much when I was young. Now we do have a very close relationship and travel together once in a while. My mom has passed away. I remember mom telling me about a time my sister thought she was pregnant, the first person she went to was mom. I remember felling good that she could talk to mom as well.

Answer 5

i've never been able to really talk to my parents. my mother was the type to completely ignore any and all problems and just act like there was nothing wrong, and just about every single word that came out of my father's mouth was something negative. so naturally, i learned at an early age that i needed to fend for myself. it was a total shock for me to get to know my fiance's family, because they all tell each other almost everything. i had no idea families were even like that in real life.

Answer 6

I'm 24 and have an amazing relationship with both of my parents. They are my best friends and I can tell them anything and everything. It was not always like this though. It took us 21 years to get past all of the road blocks in our relationship. I am truly blessed and thankful for everything they have taught me and everything they have done for me! Without them I would be lost.

Answer 7

i can talk to my parents as long as my point of view coincides with theirs. I'm 20 years old, and they are convinced that their "life experience" makes them absolutely right about anything we disagree on. They've tried to pressure me, coax me, coerce me, and bribe me into doing things their way while i'm in college, but i've learned to simply tune it out. This is my life now, and it is my experience that will determine the person that i become. so, whenever i know my parents won't agree, i make a decision and, as an adult, face the consequences when they come up.

Answer 8

Well, my Parents are both dead. But I have 2 kids and I would like to think that they both talk to me about almost everything. Drugs, Sex,Cigarettes, Alcohol, etc. No limits if I don't know the answer I will try to find one.

If you need someone to talk IM me. Maybe I can help.

Answer 9

My parents and I have a so-so relationship. I talk to them about business (when things come up that need to be addressed), but not conversationally. The reason is that:
1. They don't respect me
2. They don't value my input or opinion, so I don't see a point in laying it on them
So I don't waste my time, but I still act respectful to them. God bless.

Answer 10

I find it hard to talk to either of my parents because my father is very distant and not open with his feelings, and my mother seems to flip back and forth between being supportive on somethings, while other things she disapproves of she ridicules me for, causing me to not want to tell either one them anything in general.