If so, why do these young mothers look happy with their child? I've heard many stories of how their baby has changed their life for the good, and that the baby completes them. Is it the finicial the problem? But these babies are dressed in expensive baby clothes and shoes. Is it just a hoax about teen pregnancy? Is it really as bad as my health teacher say it is?
2007-08-24 09:00:18 · 15 answers · asked by DJ 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I wish people would understand that it doesn't matter what age you are when you become a mother. What matters is how you mother, how much you care etc. I am not going to judge people because a girl got pregnant and high school. One of my really good friends (this was 9 years ago) got pregnant while in her senior year, graduated early, gave birth, got married, went to school, received bach degree, had another baby and is pregnant wtih another now. She is a success story. Life is what you make it.
2007-08-24 09:12:29 · answer #1 · answered by Mommy2 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
When people say that Teen Pregnancy is a problem they don't mean a problem on the teens so much as just a problem in general. Meaning that many more teens are having children in high school and soon after. It's always hard to be a parent, to provide for your child, and it's even more so when you've got being a teenager and going through changes in your life on top of it. Yes, finances are a problem but most parents will spend what money they do have on their baby instead of on themselves, which is why the children are dressed nicely.
When your health teacher tells the class that "Teen Pregnancy is a problem" they're trying to educate you on how to safely be sexually active without getting pregnant.
2007-08-24 09:33:37 · answer #2 · answered by Dani 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got pregnant with my daughter when I was a senior in highschool. That was 13 1/2 years ago. Teen pregnancy was a rising problem then, and it's become more of a problem today. Dalice was right when she said the parents of the teens pick up the slack. There was a time when my daughter and I would have been up crap creek without a paddle if it weren't for the support of my parents.
Not all teen moms don't encourage their children to go to college. I have been working towards finishing my degree and encourage my daughter to go to college (it's really a requirement). I have a savings for her as well. However, I know that my situation is probably not the norm.
Your health teacher is right. I think it's become a popular trend...kinda' like carrying around your dressed-up dog...sad.
2007-08-24 09:21:35 · answer #3 · answered by Becky 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You can be happy and love your baby without having a friggin clue.
Teens are children them selves...and chances are ...these pregnant teens have thier own mothers helping care for their kids...so is it a problem..yes....it is.
Teens by nature are self centered...that's the way it's supposed to be...they're discovering themselves and their surroundings and they're learning... I think that's another thing that makes trying to raise a baby in the middle of that even more difficult.
I'd be interested to see a teen survive on their own with no help from parents WITHOUT a baby , let alone with one.
Babies are alot more work than the seem. I'm 34 and I just had my first, and I haven't slept in 10 months...there's no way in hell I could have put baby before me when I was a teen...no way.
Listen to your teacher...keep it in your pants.
2007-08-24 09:17:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok. This is a sore subject for me. I have a sister-in-law who became pregnant at age 15. She lives at home. No rent to pay, no untilities to pay and no food to buy. Sounds great right. That was the beginning. She didn't graduate high school. Works at Wal-Mart now. Would not have a place to sleep if it were not for her parents. I strongly believe that teen pregnancy is a problem. But I also believe that parents and the goverment are to blame as well. As far as a baby changing their life; so can a car accident! Completing them; they need a hobby, not a baby!
2007-08-24 09:40:28 · answer #5 · answered by Necca 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself this question - do I want to be the best parent I can be? Can I give my child at least most of the following: all of my love and attention; a stable home life; financial security; the good example of having achieved an education; two committed parents; and emotionally stable mother who has gone into parenting with her eyes wide open.
I am not saying that you need to be married, middle class, college educated, home owners to have a child. Lots of different kinds of people make great parents. But, the one thing that you do need is emotional maturity, and that comes at very different ages for different people, usually later on in life, after your teens.
2007-08-24 09:39:34 · answer #6 · answered by bugged to death 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you can look at it this way.
The average teenaged mother will not graduate from high school. She will not attend college. That's an opportunity cost for the public. I know we're getting better about aiding young mothers through school, but most still don't finish.
These young women turn to Medicare for their health care and their baby's, and as well, most also get WIC, Food Stamps, and other benefit programs. Each cost the taxpayer. As well, she may live with her parents, who are then shouldering the cost of a new baby at a time when they should be saving for retirement, and also, they're left to worry about their own daughter, who hasn't finished school and who may or may not work.
Teenaged pregnancy is a lot of pain, not all financial. I've heard that the children of teenaged mothers are more prone to neglect and abuse as well.
2007-08-24 09:11:46 · answer #7 · answered by M L 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
It is possible for a teen parent to be a good parent. Babies are a blessing, of course they change their life for good. But I haven't seen teens with babies dressed in expensive clothing.
2007-08-25 08:15:46 · answer #8 · answered by S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok.... coming from someone who has BEEN THERE and is still CURRENTLY THERE.... everyone above who makes every teen parent out to be a bad one can go jump off a bridge.
i was 18 while pregnant, 19 now with a 2 months old. and NO my mom and dad dont support my baby. thats just as bad as saying all white people play golf or all black people like chicken. ******* sterotypes.
i can tell you that i take care of my baby better than most women in their 20s i know who leave their kids with babysitters while they go out and party.
yes, its a problem if you arnt mature or if you cant support your child... but thats not always the case.
its not a good idea to get pregnant as a teen, but if it happens, lots of us can and HAVE put it together and are doing great. thanks.
2007-08-24 09:23:22 · answer #9 · answered by megan 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Nope, it's bad.
The babies are taken care of because the parents of the teens support them.
They are wearing expensive clothes because teens are superficial and don't have the good sense to save the money for the kids' college (since these teens will never go to college, they likely will not want better for their kids, who will likely get pregnant as teens ensuring that no generation ever goes further than the previous). The teens are happy because they don't have to be in school OR earn a living.
A teen who needs a baby to compelte them is a teen who needs some parenting.
2007-08-24 09:08:56 · answer #10 · answered by Dalice Nelson 6 · 5⤊ 2⤋