Do you think it's selfish.........?

Question

I had a friend ask me the other day if I would give up my cat and dog for a man if he was allergic to them. I told her no. That I really love my animals and I would not give them up. He would not be the right guy for me if he was allergic. She acted like I was selfish. Would anyone else give up their animals ? Do you think it's selfish? I think it's common sense that if I date a guy and he finds out I have animals that he would want to move onto someone else, right? Why waste both our time?

To master_mind_delinque…excuse me? what is that? Of course I would care if he was an alcoholic,wife beater,etc. I'm not an idiot.

To jasonlai73........Wow, you really don't know that there are zillions of Pet lovers out there, male and female, do you ?

Answer 1

The right guy would be similar to you... so that means, of course not.

Answer 2

No I don't think is selfish because your pets have been with you thru everything this guy is someone your kind of getting to know. Besides if he really liked you and he was allergic there are a lot of new ways to improve allergic reactions (unless it's one of those that can kill you) other than that it you get married there might have to be some changes like keeping the pets outside for different parts of the day. Good Luck finding you Mr. Right : )

Answer 3

I think there are two questions here. Would you give up your cat and dog and abandon a man if he became allergic to them? and Would you abandon your animal companions for a relationship with a "cool dude" who happened to be allergic. I think anyone who would do the latter could not be trusted as a companion--by the cats and dogs or the people. For most pet lovers, cats and dogs are members of their family and asking them to give up their cat or dog is no more reasonable than asking them to give up their child or brother. Still, one does have to set priorities and if your brother, or, when your older, you child or husband became allergic to animals you would have to make adjustments for them. That need not mean giving up the pets, but it might mean excluding them from inside the house. If pets are a part of your life, asking you to give them up for somethng else makes no more sense than asking you to turn your back on your family.

Answer 4

I don't think it's selfish at all. I mean you don't even really know this guy that well yet. You just met, first date, or a couple in, find out he's allergic, end relationship. Its about finding whats right for you! Now if my husband developed an allergy then I would have to get rid of the pets.

Answer 5

Your right, I would'nt give them up either. Besides what if things don't work out with allergy guy and you gave your best friends away, how bad that would be. Now you say your friend "Acted like it was selfish" did she say that though? Even if she did it doesn't matter because it's your choice. You need a compatible partner to be happy and if he's not an animal lover then thats already a sign that it won't work.

Answer 6

I definitly agree with you on this one. If he is allergic and you are an animal lover, the relationship is definitly not meant to be. However, relationships are not perfect, which is probably why your friend called you selfish. I am an animal lover as well and I would not give up my animals for a guy I was in love with. It's just a warning sign that he is not the one.

Answer 7

Well, I would give up my pet to someone or somewhere that I could keep seeing it without having my b/f close to it. I would make sure the pet was in good care. No, I don't think it's selfish, but maybe you should think about it. If you met a handsome, sensitive, romantic, respectful man, would you be willing to give up an animal to a friend so you could still see both?

Answer 8

Actually I was engaged and my guy encouraged me to adopted a cat, after about two weeks he wanted me to take the cat back.....Of course I didn't. How can it be selfish you are doing it for the love of an animal, how is that selfish? Anyway would you want to be with a guy who did not share your passion for animals. I wouldn't. I say my ex in the supermarket a month or two ago, he asked me if I still had the cat......Of course I have.

Answer 9

I agree with you. I definitely wouldn't give up my pets completely. If my man was allergic, I would compromise (not let the dog on the furniture, bed, keep the house vacuumed and free of hair, etc). And I would hope that an allergy medication would help him with his issue.

If he were deathly allergic to them, I might consider it but only if it were a relationship that I couldn't imagine living without, in the same way that I can't imagine my life without my dog =)

Answer 10

If you like your pets to fix your car, take out the trash, have sex with, make you coffee, help with the bills, rub your back, and run you a bath... keep your animals. I hate people that think that their dogs or cats are their babies... that's why they are single. Kick the dogs out into the backyard and get an ionizer air filter. Yeah, make sure he likes animals, but don’t worry about him being an alcoholic, wife beater, unemployed, gambler, and successful, employed, romantic lady!

Answer 11

Well if he's allergic you shouldn't just send him off. But giving up your pets would be just cruel JUST because he was allergic. Sometimes he could just take allergy pills. He might not really care. If he EXPECTS you to give them up he's definitely not the right guy. It's not selfish at all. You're caring for your pets. But just don't immediately give up on someone if he's allergic, because he might not mind (allergy pills!!)