I know it was hard for me to go to weddings when I was single, but do you have issues with it if you are engaged, but still have a long time to wait for your wedding? Do you get jealous?
2007-08-24 07:55:01 · 43 answers · asked by Johnny Bravo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
To be honest, Yes...Actually one of my bridesmaids is getting married tomorrow, and I'm surprised how jealous I am...jealous that I have another 7 months to wait for my big day....jealous that all of the planning and stress is over for her. Yesterday was the rehearsal (I'm not in the wedding party...it is made up of their kids only) and tonight they are decorating....so I can't help but think of April and how I'll feel doing those same things.
But, at the same time I'm trying very hard to be happy for her and ignore this silly jealousy...because it IS a very happy occasion, I care about them both, and I'm glad she is getting her special day. I look forward to being a part of it (I'm the guest book attendant) and sharing in their marriage and the beginnings of their new life together as one family (she has 4 kids, he has 3!)
2007-08-24 08:16:06 · answer #1 · answered by Kat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can see how you could get a little jealous, but one day you'll be experiencing marriage too. If it were me, I would be looking forward to it more and more, not getting resentful or jealous becuase someone else is getting married.
I once got jealous at my husband's friends 40th anniversary party. Why? Because I wanted my husband and I to make it that far. To prove all the nay-sayers wrong after they said that we werent right for each other. And to have the feeling of still being that much in-love after forty years. But I cherish every day I spend with him and wouldn't give it up for anything. We'll get there someday, but I'm not looking to rush it. We have our youth and our whole lives to live!
Even if you're feeling down at the wedding, still grant the new couple your best wishes... But be the first to catch the brides' bouquet!
2007-08-24 08:07:05 · answer #2 · answered by Mrs. Mustang 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I personally do not feel jealous at all! I take it as a learning experience. I look at every little detail and see what the bride & groom do what the time line is (to get an idea of what it will be like) I love looking and thinking thats cute but how can I change it to make it lookmore me. Hearing what song I might play or which one I wont. How they made it special for them. You can come up with lots of ideas and they can give you advice they have been there dont that. hoped I helped! Best wishes.
2007-08-24 08:58:07 · answer #3 · answered by typicalcagirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I never felt jealous when I was single...I enjoyed myself very much! I'm 37, and will be marrying for the first time in February, and I've been to 2 weddings in the past few months, and I was very happy at each one...the vows really hit me though! I just know I'm going to be crying at my wedding!
2007-08-24 08:08:06 · answer #4 · answered by melouofs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, my fiance and I have gone to three weddings in the past year, and it just makes us both more excited about our own. But then, I never minded going to weddings when I was single, either. I can be completely happy for somebody else even if they have something I want--them not having it doesn't help me get it, so why worry about it?
2007-08-24 08:32:28 · answer #5 · answered by Trivial One 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's difficult to keep myself from secretly being jealous of the good fortune of friends who are getting married. i've already been engaged for over a year, and it will be at least another 2 years before we'll actually have our wedding, for financial reasons. it's frustrating that i can't share the same happiness that they're experiencing, it feels like my day will never come. i mean, of course i'd never show jealousy in any way, i'd support the couple regardless of my status, but it still makes me a little sad.
2007-08-24 08:08:19 · answer #6 · answered by LoriBeth 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No way. You are not supposed to be jealous.
You should go, so that way you can see how their wedding turns out. Get ideas; of the do's or don'ts.
At the same time, you will get the idea of what a marriage is; The commitment and dedication before God, the devotion you are making to each other. Never mind about what someone else has. Your day will come and it will be about the two of you, joined together as one.
Don't allow yourself to covet! -God Bless.
P.S.
Be happy for them!
2007-08-24 08:05:38 · answer #7 · answered by †Evonne† 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No, jealousy is such a pointless emotion. I've been to a wedding since I got engaged and I felt the same way as I did before - happy for the couple getting married.
2007-08-24 08:48:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I enjoyed each wedding but I was so ready for my turn!! We had 8 weddings to attend just before and during our engagement.
2007-08-24 09:19:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way! When you're engaged you're even MORE excited for the day to come for yourself, and in between times, just enjoy other weddings! Usually engagements are eight months to a year, so it's no problem.
2007-08-24 08:30:36 · answer #10 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋