I'm 23 and I started going to a nice school outside my hometown that offered the program I was looking for. And I had to get an apartment because the school did not have dorms. I got a place to live and had a car to get to school. My first semester went very bad. I missed a lot due to bad female problems and I got bad grades. They got mad at me of course, but I got a new start and aced my next semester. Third semester arrived. I was doing really good.Then one day my car died. The engine had blown up because the oil pump broke and I didn't know it needed oil. My dad never tried to look at it when I asked him 2. My parents tried to make me come home and said that school was 2 much. I offered to help pay and get loans and they said no. Now they won't let me get a place and go to the school I want w/ my own $ and say that they need to watch me and want me home w/ them. I don't want to leave my boyfriend and go to a home that tortured me for all my young adult life. They're controlling me!
2007-08-24 07:37:37 · 8 answers · asked by michimama 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I did feel really bad about my first semester and hated myself for doing bad. I did admit it was my fault. But I'm not going to let it bring me down or be a reason for my parents to take me out of school, when it was over a year ago and have improved much since then. I need to finish.
2007-08-24 08:07:39 · update #1
Plus if I go back home It'll be a long time before I leave again. They don't want me to work and sit at home, and leave two good jobs I have here in my school town.
2007-08-24 08:11:25 · update #2
P.s. The car I had was going to die anyway. The mechanic told me the kind of engine it had in it had a manufacturers flaw and was going to go @ 50,000 miles and it did. And there was never a recall for the engine.
2007-08-24 08:15:50 · update #3
Youre 23 years old and old enough to take care of yourself. They are trying to convince you that you cant take care of yourself. They have no right to tell you anything. If you go home they will find a way to trap you so you cant afford to move out. Hold your ground.
2007-08-24 08:01:26 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are an adult now. Your family can say what they would like but the bottom line is whatever decision is made will ultimately be yours. No one can force you to live with you parents again. Of course it is a touchy area. Depending on your parents, I've known some that would refuse to help their children when they actually needed it due to a circumstance like this. But I would just kindly let them know you are going to stay in school and get your degree. Stick with it and hopefully in the next few years you will be where you want and this will all be over with.
2007-08-24 08:32:06 · answer #2 · answered by dsrtrat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're only an adult if you can take on an adult's responsibilities. Here that seems to be paying for your apartment, some mode of transportation, your up keep and your tuition on your own.
If you can do all that then you have the means to tell your parents that while they think they know how your life should go you disagree and are living it your way.
If you can't manage that level of responsibility on your own maybe you should go home where they can take care of you.
2007-08-24 10:56:13 · answer #3 · answered by Critter 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are 23 years old! You are and have been an adult! Start acting like one and take charge of your own life. Don't use excuses like "I didn't know cars needed oil and I have PMS and can't go to class" and grow up! Quit whining. Your parents can't control you if you don't want them to. Show them you can be tough and make it on your own. There are many student who work and go to school and pay their own way with little or no help from the parents. Surely you can do the same.
2007-08-24 07:53:51 · answer #4 · answered by Loves the Ponies 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You're 23. Grow up. If you want to go to school, go to school. If you want to go back to their house and live under their control for the next 10 or so years, do that.
The car was your responsibility, if your Dad wouldn't look at it, you should have taken it to a shop. The sooner you start taking responsibility for your own life, the sooner your parents will start looking at you as a capable adult.
2007-08-24 07:43:49 · answer #5 · answered by LB 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are an adult and they can not tell you what to do. If you can afford school on your own then do it. If not stay where you are and then work. Talk to them but tell them you are not going back and they can't make you. There is nothing they can do to force you back home.
2007-08-24 08:16:47 · answer #6 · answered by chris d 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-13 08:10:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They only can control you if you let them. Your best bet is to see a counselor and find out why you are letting them. And he will teach you some techniques to be assertive, but not aggressive... how to fight fair.
2007-08-24 07:42:36 · answer #8 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋