How do I get my 2yr old to sleep in HIS OWN bed??

Question

The first year of his life, he would sleep the whole night in his crib, of course. He couldn't get out, right? Well, we found out he has stage 2 kidney disease so now he gets babied, a lot. Sleeps in our bed, whatever he wants....I don't mind any of it, except the bed part. How do I get him to WANT to sleep in his own bed? I have bought his favorite cartoon sheets, an awesome car bed, night lights, stuffed animals....HELP!?!?!

Answer 1

it might be a little tough for you, asthis requires ferberizing him. since he is given so much attention. if doctor tells you he is good to ferberize do so. set a routine for him 7-730 bathe time, give him massages, play soothing music, read him a story, whatever winds him down. lay down next to him and explain to him it is time to be a big boy, and he must sleep in his big boy bed. 8-830. tuck him in, leave the room. if he gets up, try not talking too much, make sure to tuck him in again. he will get tired and get it. it migh take a couple of days and some sedatives for you, but it works. i understand your need to baby him since he was diagnosed, however try to make him feel as normal as possible. this means he needs to sleep in his bed. this is a very tough method as you are going to be more exhausted than him. but the bottom line is it works. good luck and god bless.

Answer 2

You,re his mum, and i'm afraid right next to you is where he naturaly wants to be, and no amount goodies in his room is going to compensate for "mum".. it's where he can feel safe, secure and comforted, if he stirr's in the night he only has to outstretch an arm or leg to feel your presence.. To be honest most adults don't like to sleep alone. You can prob tell that i co-sleep with my babies, my 3yr and 2yr, and no i don,t get any sleep, well a bit, and yep i spend lots of the night hanging precariously off the edge.. and will continue to sleep like this until they decide to move out on their own accord, and they will, believe me. I've got a cot next to my bed also and sometimes my youngest is happy to sleep there, perhaps that may work better for you, he'll feel close and comforted that you're there, and you,ll get more room in bed. if you get chance to read a book called "the family bed by Tina Thevian it will put any worries you have to rest. It is easier if there is 2 of you and sometimes well meaning family and friends are not helpfuly with "you'll never get him out of your bed" comments etc... Just let him know that you'll there for him 24/7 don't forget he'll be picking up on your concerns/worries about him and his health and that could contribute too.. if you can just go with the flow, and give him what he's asking, you'll prob get more sleep in the long run too. (be carefull its addictive having them there!!) i've prob not been much help but wish you all the best.... let me know how it goes..

Ps.. If he could post a question on this site it may say "How
can i get my parents/mum to understand that i just want
to sleep/be close with her/them"

Answer 3

Try to reassure him that sleeping in his own bed is safe etc incase he is scared, or stop treating him like a babie as he gets too used to all the affection and will never spend a second away from you. Treat him like a normal kid instead of someone that needs special attention.

Answer 4

my 2 year old was the same way until i started laying her down. and then ill sit beside her little bed and read her story and play with her hair. now she sleeps by herself because when she goes to sleep I'm right next to her the same as if we were in my bed.

Answer 5

You just have to be consistent with him. When he gets out of bed put him right back in you can't give up. It will take a while before he finally gives in.

Answer 6

put him in his bed and tell him he is a big boy and big boys sleep in their own beds.

every time he gets out of bed quietly put him back.. dont engage him say nothing and put him back to bed if need be put a gate up on his door to keep him in

Answer 7

i know this sounds cruel but tell him;
"daddy and i can't have you in our bed anymore. there is no more room. we want you to sleep in your room like a big boy for now on. okay?"

if he says okay. then you're lucky.
if he cries and says, "that's not okay!" then just lift him up and put him in his room and lay with him in his bed until he falls asleep, then quietly tiptoe out.

hope this helps!

Answer 8

Tell him that he is a big boy and that all big boys sleep in there own bed.

Answer 9

try to set up a chart... if he goes through the night in his own bed he gets a sticker, and when he gets x-amount of stickers he gets a treat or gift. (it works well for potty training too.) :) hope this helps!

Answer 10

Get him a t.v. in his room and put on his favorite shows....lol
it might become a habit, but it'll probably work