It seems that girls are harder to raise than boys, true?

Question

I have a 2yr old girl and lately she is so finiky and whiney... I dont know if it's her age or if it's the way girls are.. (I had a boy first, now 6yrs old). She is very independent and wants to choose her clothes, shoes, what to eat, etc. and she is slowly trying to get control of everything...it's very frustrating trying to be the parent here. I have enrolled her to begin preschool in a couple of weeks and Im hoping that maybe she will get some balance thru that and being around kids her age. If things aren't to her liking, she sometimes has fits. Its tough right now trying to raise her and trying to remain the "parent": Any suggestions?

Answer 1

I think it's about the gender you have first. My friends had a girl first and have the opposite complaint. Their daughter was very verbal early, calm and easily potty trained. Whereas the boy is active, points and grunts and still wears pull ups.

Answer 2

I have both boys and girls, and I don't think one is harder to raise than the other, they do have thier differences. Like yours, my girls are whiney and cry a lot. My boys are rowdy and highly physically active. I think girls are emotionally draining and boys are physically draining. One of my girls just turned 2 and she has a hard time not being the boss or the center of attention. I added an extra 45 minute nap to her day and she goes to bed 30 minutes earlier now and she has been in better spirits these last couple of weeks.
As for her picking her clothes, food, etc. I give Olivia 2 outfits to choose from, and 2 meals to choose from at lunch, and she gets to choose the vegetable for dinner. This gives her a sense of control, but I am still limiting her choices.
Good Luck and hang in there.

Answer 3

that's all apart of being a girl.

Girls have drama, they crave drama and thier lives are revolved around drama and especially at this age. She's asserting herself and finding her place in the family. But as a mom, you have to continue to set the rules and the flow of how the house works, what will be tolerated by her and what will not be tolerated.

As for your question, SOME girls are not harder than boys to raise. It depends on the child. Some girl are mild mannered and then there are boys that are the reverse. So it depends on the child. But I see the point that you are making.

Answer 4

You know, its funny to read this, because it describes my almost 2 year old EXACTLY!!!! She is very smart for her age, and I too was finding it difficult to remain the parent and I too decided to put her into a preschool...and she has benefited so much from something so simple. I figured out that if you take her intellegince and use it to your advantage that its much easier to manage them. Try allowing her to get dressed on her own....allow her to be the big girl she wants too....the only thing with the preschool, is they tend to let the kids be very loud.....so be prepared that when she comes home that she will be very vocal..My daughter has now been going to school for only two weeks and in that amount of time, she has learned her ABC's completely through, and she has learned songs like twinkle twinkle little star....Old Macdonald and many more.....

Answer 5

I have a 10 yr old boy and 3 yrs old twin daughters. And I have the same problem. Since girls tend to want to be more independent you would think it would be allot easier. Girls are soo whiny. And when they want their Independence it makes them so frustrated that they cant do something. My aunt who had 4 daughters says this will go away around 5-6 when they are more mobile and more capable of moving around more independently. Good Luck. And try hard to keep your patience. Believe me I know its hard.

Answer 6

I have a six year old boy and a four year old girl. The girl is definitely harder. She is very stubborn. She has responded quite well to good behavior rewarding. She is allowed 3 warnings a day if she loses all 3 warning then she doesn't get any treats. I also find it best to Ignore her playing up and tantrum times and give her plenty of attention when she is good.

Answer 7

Yes definatly. I have said that for many years...and I have 3 girls and a boy. The boy has never been a problem (ok, maybe a little harder to potty train) but the girls are just stress on wheels. Really. Don't take it wrong, I love them and would not trade them for anything, but they are difficult on a daily basis.

Answer 8

The whining stops around age 7. It is worst around age 4.

Preschool will help a lot. While she wont' always listen to you, she'll be more likely to listen to a teacher, and she will without a doubt take note of what her friends thing. That in itself will help with a lot of the whining.

Answer 9

After a few years boys do raise more than girls and when they are teenagers they raise even more often. After chasing a raise at work and raising a family the raise does tend to sag a bit.

Answer 10

That's normal for a 2 year old. She is finding herself. Girls also tend to be drama queens. My 13 year old still is LOL