Religious and non-religious opinions on one night stands??

Question

Are they a "sin"?
Have you ever had one? Would you have another one?
Even if you're not religious, do you think they are a good idea?

Answer 1

As much fun as you may think it is the night of in your beer addled mind, they call it the "walk of shame" in the morning for a reason.

Waking up, not knowing who you're next to, or where the hell you are really does suck. The worst is when you don't know the area well enough, and have to ask for a ride home.

Answer 2

I'm an atheist, and I don't think one night stands are a good idea. Personally, I view sex as something special to be shared between two people who love each other and are in a commited relationship, and not some stranger you meet at a bar.

Since I'm not religious, I don't believe in "sin". However, one night stands seem to cause more trouble than they're worth. Besides, if you're really that desperate for sex, use your hand. It doesn't have STD's, stir up emotions, and doesn't carry the risk of pregnancy.

I've never had a one night stand, and never will. If other people choose to, then good for them, who am I to judge? They probably have reasons that I can't comprehend, and besides, every circumstance is different. As for me, I'll stick to having sex with my boyfriend, whom I love very much, and who also loves me.

Answer 3

Somehow, I don't see one-night stands being up there on God's list of favorite things. But I don't like to sit around and say "this is a sin", "that's a sin" ... because judgment is really up to God, not me.

Have I ever had one? Yes, when I was much younger. Would I ever have another one? No, because I'm married now.

I don't really think that they're a great idea, because you're putting yourself at risk for exposure to disease and you have no clue about this person's background. Also, and this is just my humble opinion, sex can be kinda clumsy and awkward sometimes ... I think sex is more physically pleasurable when you're with someone that you're comfortable with and you've had time to learn each others specific intricacies.

Answer 4

First off I do not believe in sin or any of the related stuff people try to preach. I believe life should be lived free of fear and guilt, so my view is one nigh stands are fine if that is what you want to do. They are not the best. but sometimes you have the desire or you meet someone that you connect with. I have had several one night stands, and would have another if I had the desire. One place where I do draw the line is I would never knowingly have one with a married person or someone in a committed relationship. While that may not be a sin, in my view, it is helping a person break a promise to their spouse. It is better to to be in some kind of ongoing relationship, and you definitely have to take extra precautions to be sure it is safe. So one night stands are not the best, but they can work in certain instances.

Answer 5

Non-religious

Personally I've never had one and I don't think I'd like to.
But as regards other people if that's what they want to do then fine. I wouldn't see it as a sin.

Wow look at all the people saying any extra-marital sex is bad. Even in a committed relationship.
I've been with my partner for seven years, we're not married, we have no intention of getting married and we have a much more stable relationship than a lot of married couples I know so I don't know where people get off telling me this is a sin.

Answer 6

Sex out of wedlock is wrong and a sin. but think about it like this- your calling it a one night stand and it hasn't even happened yet tells you in advance that your going to regret it. Otherwise you would call it the first time w/....Sex is just better the more times you are with the same person. It takes time to figure out what you both like. If you are going to sin you should enjoy it....done it but I won't again.

Answer 7

I don't believe they're a "sin" (I'm Pagan)

I have never had one and most likely won't either.

I wouldn't say they are a good idea (though it probably seems so at that particular moment *wink*)... but there's just too much going around to engage in casual sex.

Answer 8

I'm not religious.

I don't like the idea of one night stands. I think that sex should be with someone special, someone that you love.

However, I'm still young [16], and have never had sex, so perhaps the attitudes on this subject are different from people that have actually experienced it.
Maybe I'm just prude =] hehe.

RQ.

Answer 9

I agree with Skalite. There's no crappier feeling than waking up the morning after a one night stand.

Answer 10

I truly believe that sex is something that should ONLY be done between husband and wife. No one else should be having sex, not even engaged couples. No reason why you can't wait, it makes it so much better between husband and wife. This is what God has told us to do. He had SOOO many good reasons for saying it, all true. (examples - STDs, unplanned pregnancies, insecurities- no one wants to know that their partner is comparing them to someone else, etc.) I can't think of a single good reason to do it out of wedlock.