I am not 'in love' with him. Will these feelings come with time? What should I do?
2007-08-24 05:47:55 · 21 answers · asked by Laurie J 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sex is fun and there isn't anything wrong with it so long as you both know and accept it's risks. You don't say how old you are, so I'll assume you're young. Either way, you don't have to be "in love" to "have sex." Love makes it more fun, but love doesn't always come quickly (and, for some, it doesn't come at all).
Take it easy. Enjoy yourself. Shy from committment if you're not in love, but you needn't reject sex if you, too, enjoy it.
Many in my own generation thought sex was only for marriage. It made many like me wait for "the one" when that "one" did something else (mine married another in "her own" religion). It kept me from being sexually active much longer than I should have.
Good luck.
-Bill in Charlotte
2007-08-24 05:56:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you having sex with him if you do not love him. Sex is an expression of love. He thinks you love him.
You are not doing either of you any favors.
"Will these feelings come with time?" Why would you even want that? Either you have the feelings or you don't. You do not just wait long enough to just accept your situation. That is no better than giving up.
Live your life for you. Be your own person. Life is too short to follow a rule book.
Take care,
Troy
2007-08-24 05:58:25 · answer #2 · answered by tiuliucci 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-13 08:00:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are having sex with him & aren't in love now then you probably never will be. Women are different then men & if we don't feel anything special after sex we rarely do. Men on the other hand can think they are in love & fall out when their feet hit the floor getting out of the bed from having sex, lol! I think you got caught up in the moment with a friend but I don't think you will find love. Tell him you don't feel the same & tell him before he gets all weird on you about being in love.
2007-08-24 05:55:43 · answer #4 · answered by goldeeloxxz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say give it time. Do you like him? Do you enjoy being with him? Why did you start having sex together?
I find the women I fall immediately "in love" with - are poison to me. Instant attraction almost spells doom for a long-term relationship (though it's fun while it lasts).
My best relationship took a real long time - and now it's the greatest, even though it didn' t have that chemical "bang" right from the start.
2007-08-24 05:52:44 · answer #5 · answered by rstrother 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have been friends for a couple of year you should be comfortable enough to express how much you love him as a friend but be honest from the begining of this new sexual relationship. Let him know your exact feelings. It would be good because he would not expect from you more than what you can provide. Good luck!
2007-08-24 05:54:08 · answer #6 · answered by Q. Nefertiti 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't make yourself love someone, it just doesn't work. If anything, the more you try to "love" him, the more you resent this 'friends with benefits' thing.
To be honest I'd stop now before he gets any more attached, as if you're consenting to sex with him it's giving him the impression that you also like him.
2007-08-24 05:53:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no love is not a feeling it doesnt just develop...you choose to love. and since you have already decided youre not in love then be honest with your best friend and nip this in the bud before he gets hurt... look for someone you dont need to force or wait for your feelings to develop.
2007-08-24 06:02:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They might, but I wouldn't count on it. If the spark isn't there for you, then it simply isn't there.
You might "grow TO love him" but I doubt that you will fall IN love with him anytime soon (and YES, there is a BIG difference).
I would seriously rethink your sexual relationship with him, cause, eventually, he's going to be hurt.
2007-08-24 05:53:07 · answer #9 · answered by bitadkins 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doubtful...usually your feelings should be on the rise as you are first gaining intimacy. If that is not happening, either you don't have strong feelings for him, or, you are not in an emotional place where you can have strong feelings for anyone.
2007-08-24 05:52:04 · answer #10 · answered by astralpen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋