single atheist....?

Question

If you're romantically interested in somebody and you find out they believe in God;does it affect your interest in him/her?If yes,negatively or positively?And why?

Answer 1

if they are intelligent and witty, not a fundie and are interested in me romantically too - religion doesn't matter :D

Answer 2

That depends, as an atheist your thoughts on the topic are more in line with debunking the possibility of a God, in that sense it depends on whether or not you think people who do believe in a God are totally incompetent or not.

Personally, I found religious people who could defend their belief system with some form of rational that stemmed from their own personal studies, even more so worth being around than atheists who couldn't back up why they didn't believe in a God.

Regardless of whether or not they do believe in a higher being or not a person who can support their belief system and why will always be of intellectual stimulation. Which is if you have a real interest in having a good relationship with a person is where you really need to be developing it.

I'd recommend learning as much as you can in those discussion finding out why and who they are in those beliefs and hopefully you wont come off as offensive in those inquiries. For a lot of people religion is a very touchy and personal subject. It has a tendency of stirring emotions that can make a person feel as though you are attacking them and not just having an open discussion.

Good luck in your ventures.

Answer 3

I dated an atheist. It didn't effect our relationship at all. Actually it ended because he physically hurt me.

What was funny to me was he knew more of what was in the bible than I did and I went to private school. He argued everything the bible said but I didn't really care. I believe in God but I'm not a bible-beater.
I'd be with an atheist as long as they didn't pressure me about it because I respect everyone's beliefs, it's what makes us different and unique.

To be perfectly honest I think dating someone overly religious would bother me more than dating another atheist. I say prayers but every hour and meal time is beyond rediculous. God doesn't notice anybody it doesn't matter if you pray more or can rehearse the bible cover to cover without peeking. There are times I feel there is no God.

Answer 4

Yes is positive. If they believe and follow the teaching of God then you will end up with a good person! who loves the Lord and is willing to do what is right! if your looking for a good time like sex then no! again if they believe and follow the teaching of God then you wont be getting that! it depends with what your in it for! and the question being will they take you for being atheist? and how will that affect your relationship! i think you gain not lose, have respect for each other and you will be fine!

Answer 5

I've finally come around to looking at a persons core values and finding out if they have deep religious beliefs before I get emotionally involved. I think that's a way to make certain other assumptions about them and have a reasonable chance of being correct.

So "Yes"... I'm less willing to have differences of opinion over the basics with someone I hope to share my life openly and trust completely.

On the other hand... I'm happy to dance the overnight hula with any god-believing wench as long as she's not entirely ugly.

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Answer 6

Good question.

I live in the Bible Belt so it is quite common for someone I am interested in to be a Christian (more often than not). It's an obstacle for a serious relationship, especially if you plan on having a family and/or getting married, but I would not lost interest simply because of a difference of beliefs. The important issue is that the person respect my beliefs and that I respect theirs.

Answer 7

Yes, it does affect my interest negatively. Why? Because it tells me that the person is gullibile, irrational, willfully ignorant, self-deluded, intellectually dishonest, droolingly stupid... and probably hypocritical.

Any one of those things is sufficient to have a negative effect on my interest... religion wraps them all up into one neat package.

Actually, I find religion to be quite handy for that reason... it allows me to quickly and efficiently eliminate insane people from consideration of a relationship.

Answer 8

When I was single, I never would have dated a religious person. Ever. I'd find out their beliefs before I let things get serious.

What would be the point of getting serious? You're never going to agree on how to raise children, and deep down, fundamentally you don't respect each other's intelligence.

Answer 9

It shouldn't.

Sometimes a belief can get in the way of a relationship, but that's something that needs to be found and judged early on.

I certainly wouldn't think less of someone because they believe in a god. But if his religion involved reciting a loud and complicated passage out of the back window at 3 o'clock every morning, it might make a relationship somewhat impractical.

But it wouldn't make me think less of him.

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Answer 10

My last two relationships were with "generic believers". Theists might be the best term. Both were raised Catholic and no longer follow any organized religion. There were no problems between us on belief grounds.
I've never dated anyone devoted to a religion, and I have to imagine that it would cause problems.

Answer 11

Yes. Relationships are heavily dependent on trust and respect. I have a really difficult time trusting someone who thinks I deserve to be tortured for all eternity simply because I have a different personal philosophy. And I also have a hard time respecting the intelligence and integrity of someone who subscribes to many of the principles of Christianity.