He's 32 and i am not sure how old she is; some say only 15; i haven't actually met her but cannot believe she's that young; but maybe 18 or so...
But here's the strange thing: we are close friends; so close it's caused problems in my marriage; my husband doesn't like how close we are. But he has never mentioned this woman/girl...though he has in the past, and even today talked of his ex wife...with great fondness...and high respect.
But this girl, never once. Last night when I was talking with him, she came up and he handed the apartment keys, confirming what I knew already; they are living together. He didn't introduce me. Later I sms'd him, "why have you not introduced me to the woman you gave your keys to; who is it? I am sad because I thought we were close friends, but maybe I thought wrong."
Though today when i talked to him he acted like we were best buds again, even apologizing for his phone being turned off last night (the battery was dead he explained), so the question:
2007-08-24 05:32:23 · 14 answers · asked by karen i 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
QUESTION #1
Would you insist on being introduced?
QUESTION #2
would you say something about the age differences?
I am concerned about this girl; she is so young and he seems to be under some kind of spell. IF this is the same girl that came into the picture about a year ago, before his wife left him, then she fools with black magic and has a spell on him of some sort. I saw the 'effects' in action once; i believe it's real; he dropped me off at my apartment with his motorcycle, and never even saw his wife standing there and asked me, "do you want to go to a movie together" which was inappropriate even if she wasn't standing there..more so with her; and he never greeted her; I honestly believe he couldn't even see her. I know for sure he loves her and is grieved that his indiscretions cost him his family. But why hasn't he admitted these things to me? We have the kind of friendship where this is safe; that is, something destructive the other is doing we can exhort change...
2007-08-24 05:37:02 · update #1
Well, he doesn't need to be dating her if she is under 18 because he can get sent to jail because of that. You may need to tell him that. Maybe you shouldn't be as close to him if it is causing problems in your marriage. Maybe you shouldn't be friends with him at all anymore.
2007-08-24 07:58:41 · answer #1 · answered by blessedman 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did you ever secretly want to be with him ??!!?! This bond you
tallk about that you have with him is almost like spouse relationship that's what it seems to me anyways seems
you maybe a bit jelous from this young girl....who knows if she's underage or not you don't know people say I look 17-18 but I will be turning 22 shortly...so tell me can't a girl look younger than her actuall age?!just ask him about
it if you have this great relationship with him I see no
big deal in just bringing it up with him....good luck =]
2007-08-24 05:49:04 · answer #2 · answered by manda102285 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your feelings are hurt and rightly so. I think you were a little passive aggressive with your sms message. Isn't your real question: Are you out of your mind living with a girl half your age and possibly not even of legal age?
What are you getting out of this friendship? Take a step back and evaluate it. If you are truly close friends, you will not be threatened by his new relationships and conversely he'd tell you about them. What's the allure of having a friend who is not honest with you and causes problems in your own primary relationship?
2007-08-24 05:48:06 · answer #3 · answered by TripleS 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1. You need therapy immediately there are too many issues to list.
2. Love spells are an easy way for you to brush off the fact that you are not the main "woman" in this friend's life. Keep lying to yourself like that.
3. It's none of your business who he is dating.
4. You're going to end up divorced and alone if you don't pay more attention to your husband's needs and concerns.
5. His battery wasn't dead last night, he wanted alone time with his new girl.
2007-08-24 05:43:58 · answer #4 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He has something to hide. People like this can often be very charming, until you see whats behind their closed doors.
Find out her age so you can take appropriate action with authorities if she is underage.
2007-08-24 05:40:24 · answer #5 · answered by fizzy stuff 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Stop being friends with a pedofile that is at the same time causing problems in your marriage!!! It's quite simple really. Your marriage comes first.
2007-08-24 05:45:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
As his friend, maybe you should gather some bail money for him because sooner or later he's going to get caught with his little honey and he's going to jail.
2007-08-24 05:37:12 · answer #7 · answered by Jess 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hi, my name is Chirs Hansen with Dateline NBC. Why don't you have a seat over there!!!
2007-08-24 05:41:29 · answer #8 · answered by Joe S. 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I've said it before and I'll say it again:
An unfortunately UN-extinct Dinosaur:
MOLESTERASAURUS REX.
2007-08-24 05:40:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Maybe you are just jealous because he doesn't want you
2007-08-24 05:38:20 · answer #10 · answered by evelyngrz 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋