Im afraid of having children that resent one another. I was actually a child that resented one of my siblings and I still do. I know my parents hated it but i just didn't want to have anything to do with her. At first I was mean to her but my parents wouldn't have that so I was punished. Then I ignored her all together and complained when I had to be around her. It made her absolutely miserable. Mom would try and take things away from me like TV, toys, and dessert. All I'd do is sit in the corner and play with my fingers for hours. I dunno why. I wouldn't play with her. Touch her. I wouldn't even eat around her. To this day I still won't associate with her. If I had to do it all over again I'd probably do it all over again. I'm afraid I'll somehow pass it down to my own children (when I have them). I could try and get them to like each other but that's what MY parents did before giving up and being miserable. All it did is make me dislike her even more. So what do I do?
2007-08-24 05:24:53 · 4 answers · asked by Skyy L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I think that you need to think about what it is that made you resent your sibling. Chances are that there was something that you felt that she got and you didn't get. There was probably something "unfair" about the way that you were treated. I think that all you can do when raising children is try to love them and treat them equally to minimize the likelihood that one of them will resent the other. My parents didn't take one me to do something without taking my brother and vice versa. On my brother's birthday I got one present and he got one present on mine. I think that there are things that you can do to try and help your children to love one another completely because there is no competition to be more loved by Mom and Dad, all things are equal because they understand that you love them equally.
2007-08-24 05:32:08 · answer #1 · answered by A W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your relationship with sister was a bit extereme it seems. most siblings don't "hate" each other. They might bicker and fight here and there but thats normal. i don't think you should worry this much about whether or not the kids that you might have later on dislike each other.
2007-08-24 12:36:10 · answer #2 · answered by Jeppy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, do youbelieve in past lives?
i didnt until a pshycologist told me why my daughter was with me.
she was my sister in a past life, and in another, she was my grandmother. see it all connects.
maybe in another life she hurt you, and you brought it to this life.
it sounds crazy. but true.
2007-08-24 12:31:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well just have one if that is what you want its your life and you need to be happy.
2007-08-27 23:33:54 · answer #4 · answered by Tsunami 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋