I dont really care for the guy I have been dating for the last 6 weeks. I like him less and less as I see how open minded he really isnt. I feel suffocated, and I have realized, again, that I just dont care for relationships. They don't fit with who I am and who I want to be.
The stickler: His birthday is on Monday. Today is Friday. He is celebrating his birthday this weekend. ( and isnt seeing his kids to do this, and lying to their mother saying he works, when really, he will be celebrating, which I also disagree with as he only sees them on weekends!) So since he is celebrating his birthday this weekend, and I wont even be able to see him on Monday, his actual birthday, since I start school...
...how the heck do I go about this? I dont drive, and I dont want to make him drive 30 miles just so I can break up with him...and when should I? I don't want to spend this weekend with him and pretend, and mislead...but I also dont want to be rude.
yes. I need your help. Please.
2007-08-24 05:17:58 · 14 answers · asked by Britt 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wait until after his birthday to break up with him.
2007-08-24 05:22:21 · answer #1 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that's a tough one! I would make out some excuse to not see him during the weekend, I would call on Monday to say happy birthday, maybe have some quick coffee or something, but only little time. Break up with him on Tuesday after his birthday, just tell him the truth, that it's not really working for you, and that you realized that you don't want a relationship right now.
I don't think that you don't care for relationships, I think you just haven't found the right person
good luck
2007-08-24 12:26:48 · answer #2 · answered by Mr. Sly 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he was already planning on getting plastered this weekend celebrating. I would break up with him over the phone. That way he can go out and get plastered because its his birthday and because you left him. Plus it's only 6 weeks. not 6 months or six years. It shouldn't matter all that much. He can also try and get some birthday sex instead of waiting for you. It's a win win all the way around.
2007-08-24 12:28:09 · answer #3 · answered by sa_183327 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why drag it out. Just get with him tell him the truth and get on with your life. That way he can spend his birthday with his friends. Instead of stressing this weekend you will be able to do what you want. Trust me he would rather you tell him the truth now.. And I guess you will have to tell him on the phone. Not the best way but it saves him gas. Just tell him if he would like to discuss it further than to come see you. At least he knows ahead of time if the trip is worth it or not..
2007-08-24 12:30:10 · answer #4 · answered by Raven 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just give him a call 6 weeks isnt that long to be dating plus hes lying to his kids and celebrating his b-day without them so he cant be a good guy who deserves alot of time and consideration.just call him up say "i hate to do this over the phone but i dont see why either of us should drive 30 miles for a break up good luck and good bye".hope it works
2007-08-24 12:28:43 · answer #5 · answered by wvgurl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do anything legal you have to do NOT to spend the weekend with this loser. Life is too short to waste your time on thoughtless self-centered oafs. If necessary, pretend to have an accident, say someone died in another state and you have to leave for the funeral, or whatever story you need to tell.
2007-08-24 12:29:00 · answer #6 · answered by Rapper Jess Rite 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly if you cant physically see him to break up with him. then i would sugest to do it on the phone. but let him know the reason why your doing this on the phone and not in person so he doesnt think your foolish. but dont waste anymore time trying to not hurt his feelings or waiting till after his birthday because in fact you ARE leading him on
2007-08-24 12:27:39 · answer #7 · answered by Kiiss_MA_feeT_iiM_Royalty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
over the phone is a good way......my x-gf broke up with me in an open ended email......not a way i would have prefered...so the phone is good he can hear your voice and just be honest with him dont say anything like "oh its not you its me" or something like that cause im guessing its not true just stay honest say that u dont want a relationship and u might say something how he wasnt open minded...mostly that you dont want a relationship
2007-08-24 12:28:06 · answer #8 · answered by @q!l---l!p@ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Then do it via phone...dragging this out isn't fair to either of you. Just tell him the two of you aren't a good match and you appreciate his interest, but feel both of you should move on.
Face to face is best if you can manage it though...
2007-08-24 12:22:39 · answer #9 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pick up the phone, tell him. "Don't come and pick me up any more" When he asks WHY you tell him . "I'm sorry but this is just NOT working out. I don't love you. Don't argue with him, Don't make excuses, Don't listen if he pleads with you, and If he get's angry HANG UP. It's THAT Simple. and it's ended. good luck.
2007-08-24 12:26:06 · answer #10 · answered by gone! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋