Back in Feb. I started planning a surprise party for my mother. I had relatives come in from out of town, rented a hall, order a cake, had it catered. arranged transporation. EVERYTHING.
My mother never said "Thank you", good job, I can't believe you did this.
I stressed myself out big time for her and I got nothing positive back.
Everyone else said I did a great job. Is it too much to ask for at least a small "thank you"
2007-08-24 05:17:49 · 17 answers · asked by Ohio Girl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You should never do something just to get a reaction, feedback, or even a thank you. You should have done it because you love her and you wanted to. Seeing how happy she was should have been your gratification. Granted she could have shown her appreciation, but she was probably just really surprised and excited.
2007-08-24 05:30:39 · answer #1 · answered by Pretty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do believe that you did this for your mother with great intentions. but my question to you is did you throw the party to seek her approval?
This is just my opinion /observation regarding the way you worded you question, it seems as though you through the party with high expectation of your mother responding to you like this party was the greatest party in the whole universe. When you didn't receive that response it was almost like you failed her or yourself. It seems as though you are seeking a deeper relationship with you mother that she's not acknowledging. Maybe you should tell her how you felt, I don't know maybe she informed your family of what she wanted this birthday and was disappointed that she didn't receive it. She could have had other things on her my so don't take offense to her response, I'm sure you did a fantastic job. It could truly be something your mother is going through right now.
2007-08-24 12:59:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you deserve a Thank you from your mom. It was a nice thing you did for her and your family but that shouldn't be your focus.Maybe she somehow missed the fact that it was you that made this happen , who knows but it won't serve you to dwell on it. Try and focus on the happiness you felt in doing it for her. Did she enjoy it after all your efforts? Did your family enjoy getting together ? I bet everyone had a really nice time and that's something to feel good about. Fill your own cup by remembering why you did it in the first place and what you meant to accomplish. It's nice to hear positive things from others but we are each responsible for our own happiness. All you have to do is choose to see the positive rather than dwell on the negative. Just something to think about , take care : )
2007-08-24 12:39:08 · answer #3 · answered by uncle louie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you do deserve at least a thank you. But you know your mom better than anyone here does. Is this typical of her? If so, let it go and don't stress yourself out over it any more. You got the good words from those who enjoyed themselves, so you know you did a great job.
2007-08-24 12:23:58 · answer #4 · answered by Lady G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you deserve a "thank you" but it is not up to me to think so. You need to go to your mother, who I am assuming you have a decent relationship with otherwise you would not have thrown her a bash, and let her know how you feel. Tell her that you are hurt by the fact that you don't feel that she appreciated you throwing her a party. I'm sure that there is a reason that you have not been thanked in the way that you want to be. Just talk to her, there is no need to stress yourself out about a situation that seems to have an easy fix.
2007-08-24 12:24:11 · answer #5 · answered by A W 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No, it's not too much to ask but you didn't get it so it's a moot point. Perhaps you should speak to her (calmly) and let her know how much putting that together meant to you and that you are hurt that she didn't acknowledge the effort you put into it because you wanted the celebration to be special for her.
Talk to her about it...if she brushes it off, then I'd not worry about going out of my way for her again in the future.
2007-08-24 12:24:31 · answer #6 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are not asking too much from anybody if you expect them to say thank you for a job well done ..you deserve it and you dont need to ask for it, even God our creator require us to glorify him for favours hes done to us...
Your mum is the best person in the whole world to criticise or commend you without any offence, its definate that your mum loves you and she maybe doing so because sometimes if you are too close to someone they feel they dont need to be formal with you...anyway shes your mum and you can talk to her about your feelings and im optimistic she will apologise.
2007-08-24 12:38:46 · answer #7 · answered by abdool707 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes we go unrecognized for many things we do in life. Did it make you feel good to throw her the surprise party? I mean think back to your childhood did you thank your mother for everything or just assume that she knew you were thankful. Maybe she hasn't even realized that she didn't say thankyou. I am most sure she appreciated everything you did for her.
2007-08-24 12:26:30 · answer #8 · answered by Mommy2 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You did it for her, not for the recognition. Be happy that she enjoyed it and so did everyone else. I've done this myself and never never never looked for a pat on the back. It was the happiness I saw in her eyes was enough for me.
2007-08-24 12:24:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she has other things on her mind that you dont know about.
Sit down and ask her. Did you enjoy your party or was it too much stress on you?
Dont accuse and dont put words in her mouth - listen.
2007-08-24 12:26:15 · answer #10 · answered by Mia l 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋