I want to revise my question from yesterday. So turns out my boyfriend went to his best friend and said I am looking at rings for me. He also has a girlfriend less than a year though and he never said anything about engagement. My boyfriend a month ago ask me what kind of ring I want, so I was getting all excited.
What do you know his friend gave his girlfriend a ring this week. It really bothers me because me and my boyfriend were talking about he wasn't and we also have been going out 3 years. So what do you guys think??
2007-08-24 04:37:06 · 17 answers · asked by Kelsy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Duh I am jealous because my boyfriend was talking to him about rings and then he goes and does it before my boyfriend even gets a chance and we have been together a lot longer.
2007-08-24 06:44:51 · update #1
Well we talked about it and I told him what rings I like he is working on it but he friend goes and decides to propose and never mention anything to my boyfriend? Do you think he wanted to beat him at doing it?
2007-08-24 09:09:15 · update #2
You sound jealous that they got engaged before you. Just focus on your relationship and dont worry about what they do.
2007-08-24 04:42:53 · answer #1 · answered by fizzy stuff 7 · 8⤊ 0⤋
Getting married should not be a competition or a race. People should get engaged because they are ready to take their commitment to the next level and spend the rest of their lives together, not because they think it is a prize. Honestly (and when you get engaged you will find this out) getting married and planning a wedding isn't all romance and fairytales. It's a lot of hard work and there is a lot of planning and compromise that goes into it.
Just be happy for the couple that did get engaged. You will have your moment some day... when the time is right.
2007-08-24 05:45:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to bring up the marriage chat. perhaps he is waiting to save up for the ring. If that is what is important to you about getting married you will have to wait. I half jokingly text my then boyfriend good thing I'm not the guy in the relationship because i would have already asked you to marry me. He came back with well I am actually trying to save up for an engagement ring. I told him that didn't matter to me. So instead we put that money to use on our wedding.
2007-08-24 06:04:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like you are upset because his friend stole your thunder. Without knowing all the details, you may have a misconception here about how long the friend was planning on giving her the ring. That might have given your BF the idea.
Not to mention the fact that as of this writing to didnt mention that your BF had given you a r ing yet. So I understand your frustrations, but be patient.
Of course when it comes time to make plans for "the day" I would make sure that you didnt tell your BF's friend. just in case...
2007-08-24 05:35:34 · answer #4 · answered by psstoffagain 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You're overreacting - greatly. Engagements and Marriage are NOT a race to see who wins. Your boyfriend will propose when he is ready. So put a smile on your face and be happy for the newly engaged couple. You'll get your time in the spotlight if that's what it all means to you.
Edit :DUH yourself!!! The point still stands! Who cares if this guy asked his girlfriend first? How does that affect YOUR relationship? Grow up.
2007-08-24 05:27:00 · answer #5 · answered by Starry Eyes 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Be happy for everyone else and stop being so self centered.
Like was said in another answer in your previous question:
Getting married is not a race. Be patient.
There is no requirement for how long an engagement should or should not be. Let him take his time and propose/save up.
2007-08-24 04:46:04 · answer #6 · answered by Terri 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Marriage isn't about the rings and the certificates...it's about the love. Stop being jealous and relax. I'm sure when it's your time, you will shine :-) Just be happy you have somebody that loves you and is considering marrying you.
2007-08-24 06:48:04 · answer #7 · answered by mally_pie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Life still moves on for other people. Just because you're close to getting engaged, doesn't mean everyone else can not plan their own lives or that they have to ask your permission to get engaged.
2007-08-24 06:16:57 · answer #8 · answered by Allison L 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, three years is a long time to go out without a commitment. Usually two years is plenty for a couple to know if they are mature enough and ready to get married.
How long are you going to wait?
2007-08-24 08:51:18 · answer #9 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ouch.... you better stop that jealousy monster now or it will eat you!!
Your ring will come when it comes... maybe your BF cant afford one thats 3 times as nice as what his friend gave out??
2007-08-24 04:47:41 · answer #10 · answered by Valerie H 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋