My mom have not met my partner after 5 years and this is hurting my relationship. It bothers me a lot as well as my partner. It bothers me because my partner cannot go to my family events because my mom don't accept us as a couple. This is constantly brought up and causes problems between us. I have tried to talk to my mom but she still does not want to meet my partner. What advice do you give for me and my partner.
2007-08-24 04:31:50 · 5 answers · asked by Taz 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Your situation is so sad. Unfortunately your mother is trying to force you to choose between her and your partner. I would not avoid going to family events with your partner any longer. Provided that the events are not held at your mother's home there is no reason why you can't enjoy the company of the rest of your family. If your mother does not like it then she has every right not to attend. Your not attending family events just reinforces your mother's position. Change the balance of power in this relationship and live your life.
2007-08-24 04:42:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she feels that strongly about it you can not force her into anything. Showing up out of the blue will only cause a fight. I would recommend explain to your mom that if she doesn't accept your lifestyle and your family then that is unfortunate and you will wish them well but from afar. If your mother doesn't support you and your partner being happy then it sounds like she needs to be kept at a distance. I would be very upset if my husband didn't stand up to his family if they had a problem with me. In my opinion, and i went through this with my mother and my ex boyfriend, if they love you and trust you then they should accept your decisions. But you can not force people to get along and accept it. If they want to be stubborn they can be stubborn on their own. I stopped speaking with my Mother for awhile because she would not get it through her thick skull that he made me happy. If she is being this naive about things she is not healthy to have around you two. Be happy together and if your mom comes around even better, but don't hold your breath.
2007-08-24 12:45:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a decision to make; your family or your partner. If my family did not accept my wife I would not associate with them anymore.
BTW, I wish my in-laws didn't want to see me. LOL
2007-08-24 11:52:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am assuming you are gay? well that is sad she won't and you know what you should not be going to their home without your partner if shes not welcome you dont' go period. and that is how its houdl be period. if she does not come by oh well forget it someday she will regret it.
2007-08-27 23:29:23 · answer #4 · answered by Tsunami 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just go see her don't say your coming just come and if she don't accept him then she is weird and i don't know what to say
2007-08-24 11:41:25 · answer #5 · answered by Boo 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋