my son gets picked on in school?

Question

my son is such a great kid. in school he has the hardest time because all of the kids pick on him. all i want is for him to find a friend. he ends up getting in trouble alot because he is tired of being bullied and ends up hitting the other kids, which gets him in trouble, but the "bullies" get away with it. any suggestions on how to help him through these tough years? he is going into 5th grade and he also has complex patical seizures which doesn't help his situation.

Answer 1

I'm a teacher... you need to TELL the teacher, principal, and counselor about what's going on. I can't tell you how many times teachers and aides let those things fly under the radar because they're too busy to really get a handle on it and it only gets worse. They assume that "boys will be boys" and conflicts will arise and it really needs to be nipped in the bud the very first time it occurs. I had to take my principal to task because my son was being called racist slurs on the playground (in 4th grade) and none of the teachers were even concerned. My son had a complex all year and then he started to do what your son did-- he started fighting back and HE was the "bad kid", all the sudden. You don't want that-- it's harder to solve when your child begins to stoop to their level. Then you aren't heard, either. Please tell the teacher and if he or she does nothing, immediately go to the principal about it. Don't wait. Bullying has NO PLACE in a learning environment and should be handled immediately. Good luck.

Answer 2

I think it's important to get to the reason why he is being picked on. Is it normal stuf like making fun of his name or hair or whatever? Or are they making fun of his medical condition?

Maybe you should talk to his teacher or the school and set up a time where you can go in and talk to the kids about his condition. Knowledge is power and if you can explain things maybe the kids wont' be so scared or weirded out by it. I don't knwo how rare of a condition it is but if there is a support group he can join, or if one of the adults living with the condition can speak to the class that may help.

If that isn't it, maybe it is another issue that you can address. Is he having difficulty in social situations? Is he shy? It could be so many thing but I am sure that if you can get to the root of the problem you can find a solution.

Kids can be cruel, but if your son has a good self esteen, it will help him have a thick skin. I'm glad to hear he sticks up for himself, but it's a bummer he gets in trouble.

I hope you can work it out!

Answer 3

I don't know about in the States, but in Canada they have a Kids Help line and even a Bullying helpline for kids. Maybe check and see if there is such a number for you and your kid to call.

I would also think about contacting the principal of the school to make sure he/she has a talk with the kids that are doing the bullying, or try to get the kids' numbers to speak to their parents.

Answer 4

Tell the teachers and principal at the school. Educators have started to take bullying VERY seriously since most kids responsible for school shootings complained about bullying. Don't let the bully get away with it.

I'd also get your child involved in some kind of martial arts. It will not only help him protect himself, but it will also hopefully give him more self confidence.

Good luck with this.

Answer 5

unfortunately, the one who retaliates usually gets caught.
the instigator is rarely caught.

he may be the "target" in his class, meaning that if the cool kids pick on him, the other wannabes think if they do the same, they'll be cool too

if he's going to get caught anyway, make it count.
I mean teach him to really put a hurting on one of the tough or cool kids. if nothing else, they'll have to respect him and it will minimize the occurrences. it may even lead to some friendships. teach him to be more "sneaky"

I was the 3rd smallest kid in the 8th grade and went to school in a different neighborhood. i got harassed for years. until one time I got up from the first row first seat went to the back of the room, smacked a kid on the back of the neck so loud that you'd think a book dropped and was back to my seat before the teacher even turned around. the boy was half in tears and half laughing that I was able to pull this off.

being passive will not help unless you're going to move.

Answer 6

Get him into some sort of sport,martial art or boy scouts. It will be a great confidence boost, plus he can make some friends. Having him tell on the other kids won't help out his situation much - he'll only become a "cry-baby" or "tattletell", but increased confidence will let the bullies no he's not going to take any crap.

Answer 7

Make a appointment with his teacher and discuss the problem you have indicated here. Advise him, he is not to hit others and if he has a problem, to come and talk to his teacher or the playground supervisor on duty.
Discuss his seizures with his teacher. I am sure not all the children in this class are bullies.
Good luck to you both.
( Connie mom of 4 and 5th grade teacher )

Answer 8

As a instructor, I ought to propose which you report those incidents to the school room instructor and vital. Bullying is a extreme subject in colleges and not in basic terms a rely of a sufferer being wimpy. you're your son's protector, his determine. you should enable the school understand. in basic terms tell them what you already know.

Answer 9

try to talk with his teacher about this , give your son spirit that will make him more confidence , yes bullying its very disappointing education i think

Answer 10

tell him to tell the teachers first before hitting them and to walk away let him see the school consoler