I am considering homeschooling?

Question

My son just started kindergarten at a Public school on August 16th. Everyday but one, I have been told by his teacher that she's had problems with him. And this morning a little girls mom came up to me and said he daughter told her that my son spit in her face!!! I cann't handle being told everyday that my son is bad. He's been a defiant child for about the past four years. I have tried everything I can think of. He was in therapy but, that was going no where and fixing nothing! I am seriously considering taking him out of that school. and homeschooling him. My sister in law thinks that he needs school for the social part...but I am planning to sign him up for soccer as well as Boy Scouts! I did home school him for like 6 months but I got further along with my 2nd pregnancy and was just too tired to do it! But, I am ready to do it...any laws or tips for the State of Kansas on homeschooling will be extremely helpful!!!

Answer 1

mom, i could understand if the problem was the other children,

but he is the one having the social problems

in order for him to behave properly you need to
1. stop the therapy
2. surround him by children who behave well, and are tolerant

children learn by example,FACT

When he is at home, Have him Watch Sprout TV its for toddlers BUT its going to benefit him

Reason being he needs to be reprogrammed
and for children who have social problems, TV is the easiest way to show them proper examples, it relaxes them and helps child learn how to properly respond to situations.

Now as far as the spitting goes, boys can do things like this,
its frustration and fear

he isn't able to communicate, so he reacts
fear is the part when he realizes that the other child CAN communicate

I will be honest with you, you'll get many bits of advice but MINE will work for you and your child.

My son had ADHD he seems to be growing out of it.
But in any event he was not human until he turned 4 years old

I don't believe in the medications because the Chemically alter your CHilds Brain.

( not totally against it either in certain situations)

I am sure you have heard that Autism is now the NEW ADHD
and it is,

Beware that you don't label your child, make him feel as normal as possible

And like i said As far as taking him out of the school , this make Zero sense it will only delay him further in devoping social skills

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I know its hard to be embarrassed by your childs behavior and most folk blame the parent

But i am telling you, try it my way and you will see improvement , and don't be surprised if he complains he is watching baby shows.

You and him and the new babyb sit there and watch the shows

Repeat when your supposed to to show him how to respond properly

jump when they ssay jump ect..

Your showing him how to conform.follow rules, ect..

Read him stories and teach him to color INSIDE the lines

and very important, no violent shows or games.

he should hep you make dinner and have jobs around the house, like take out the garbage and load up the dishwasher

you might be thinking he is too young for this BUT he isn't
you will find this will at first be protested but eventually he will do it without complaint ( much complaints)

and praise when he attempts to follow through
praise when he is successful
and most important discouragment if he refuses(this is an import factor many parents leave out these days)

its not ok for them to do as they please, and you need to SHOW him you are disappointed, not hitting, or psyco behavior but a good old fashioned yell at violent behaior

if he is used to you yelling then 360 and quitely admonish and send him to his room

- One more thing a punish ment should never punish the parent. so if he doesn't mind then make him clean the house
or something else you need done, and if he helps you by doing more than his regualr chores reward him with money
give him the money in his hand and let him spend it, you can advise him to save it or use it wisely but at first he should spend it,

hope this helps
and hope you understand that your CHILD does understand and can do what you ask

Meg

Answer 2

The important thing to remember is that you know your son better than anyone else. It sounds like it would take teachers a long time to really know what he needs. You, on the other hand, already have some idea. I used to do IQ and achievement tests with children in public schools then, based on the results, we would develop plans to help children learn better in their classroom. While public schools can do an amazing job, in reality, you are still the parent and have been learning about your child and his own uniqueness for several years. With loving guidance a little research on your part, you'll be able to teach him all he needs to know. It is good that you are moving to Texas because they don't have too many rules to follow if you chose to teach your children yourself. Check out the Home School Legal Defense Association website for rules by state. A simple way to choose curriculum is to buy a book by Cathy Duffy. I think its called, Top 100 Picks in Homeschool Curriculum, or something like that. She summarizes and reviews a lot of the top choices out there. A more intensive method to find curriculum is to visit a homeschool convention, taking place usually in May or June each year. I think most states have them. Some of the biggest are in Orlando, Fl and also Texas. There you'll find exhibit halls with many differenty types of curriculum on display. The conventions also offer seminar choices regarding different topics such as how to teach certain subjects, getting started in homeschooling, and knowing your child's learning style. Since you are a military family, an added benefit of homeschooling is that this is one constant that you can provide your children, regardless of where you move. My husband is in the army and we are planning to homeschool as well.

Answer 3

Sometimes young children, especially boys, lack the maturity to start school at 5 years of age. A lot of parents choose to hold them back for a year-especially if they are at the younger end of the cut off dates.

As his parent, only you know what is best for your son. As a homeschool parent, I think that homeschooling could be beneficial for him in this situation. However, before you make such an important decision be sure you are able to make the commitment (because it IS a lot of work).

Whether he is in school or homeschooled, Boy Scouts is a good idea. They focus on character and morals. Instead of soccer, you may want to consider karate-there is a focus on anger management and self discipline, etc.

To review the laws for homeschooling in Kansas, visit http://www.HSLDA.org and click on Kansas in the pull down menu to the right of the page. If you decide to homeschool, find a local association so that you can get support and social opportunities for both you and your son.

I wish you the best!

Answer 4

I personally don't think homeschooling is the answer for your particular situation. Keeping him at home isn't going to "fix" his problems. He needs consistency and a chance to learn the boundaries that others have set in place. I can only imagine how difficult it is to hear that your son is misbehaving everyday, but it's still early yet. Kindergarten gets a wide range of children with a wide range of backgrounds. It takes a while for some kids to adjust to the routine, to adjust to getting along with others, and to adjust to the boundaries. That's normal, and it's all part of learning how to be an active participant in society. While I don't condemn the idea of homeschooling, I really don't think it's going to solve any of your problems. You've been able to be pretty patient this far with him, so pulling him out of public school so soon seems like the opposite of what you would normally be inclined to do. Give it a shot. If after this year he still hasn't made any progress, you can reevaluate what's best for him. For now though, he hasn't been given the opportunity to learn how to behave in this new setting. Best of luck with whatever you decide!

Answer 5

Hello hawaiianmalibu:

Homeschooling is not difficult, if you can read at a sixth grade level, you can teach a kindergarten through fifth grade level. Children that have one-on-one contact with an instructor do astronomically better than children who are one of the herd.

You should, however, have your son tested for autism or asperger's syndrome. My son does fantastic on his own or with another child, but in an environment of more than three students, he has difficulty. With a proper diagnosis, your son has a better opportunity to access the public education system (for what that is worth). If it is found that your son has special needs, the school district is mandated to provide an education that best suits his needs. This may mean home schooling, BUT, you may be entitled to compensation. Look into this angle. Your school won't want to help you, so you will have to push the principal to have your son evaluated. Your son has a right to an education, but you will have to fight for it.

The school will want to keep him enrolled, as every warm body means $$ from the government. There is a home school network in your area. Type Home school and your town in your favorite search engine.

Answer 6

You really have to be ready it is a big commitment. The one thing I might suggest as far as his behaviour is try taking him to a diet specialist to look in to the food he eats often kids react badly to processed foods. colouring and preservatives. This could make a big difference. The sport and scouts is a great idea and if you put a search on yahoo, you may find a home-schooling support group in your area as that was very important to us in our efforts to home school. We were told by suposed experts that the socialisation thing was a problem but we didn't find any issues. The so called experts like sociologists and teachers get info from books rather than practice more often than not. I find home schooled kids often are more responsible and mature and keener to learn because they don't have teachers crushing their natural enthusiasm to learn. can't help you on Kansas I am in Australia.
Cheers and good luck

Answer 7

If your not a teacher then I don't think it is right for you to teach him at home. He needs social interaction with kids his own age and needs to learn to be with them and behave.

If the teacher is willing to keep him in the class, don't take him out. Perhaps an aid with your son, provided by the school would help. The aid just stays with him and will correct this wrong behavor asap, she gives him time outs and follows thru with improving his behavor. I have seen it work in two cases in my daughters class last year.

He needs more rules, more consequences when he is missbehaving, but also rewards for small improvments or good moments.

But keep him around kids that are good examples of how you'd like him to be. Don't overload him with Soccer and Boy Scouts he will loose attention quickly if over loaded and then you will be no further ahead with him. Pick one or the other but not both...you also don't need the hassel of running around to too many things with a newborn (or soon to be) around you'll have your hands full and less running around will give you more strength to deal with him more consistently.

Good luck.

Answer 8

I loved it. I am still home schooled for 12th grade, but I am also in college at the same time (dual enrollment) this is my story on homeschooling...

it is a wonderful opportunity for both the parents and the child. I was home schooled all my life up to now (dual enrollment 12Th grade/college). home schooled kids have a lot fewer problems than most public schooled kids. we make Friends very easily, we get along with most people because we are not raised in "cliques" like most kids. in MOST cases we have BETTER social skills than public schooled kids because we get to be around a lot more types of people. my parents made sure that we got out in the community, went on field trips (home school groups, 4-H, church, youth clubs, and many other community clubs), spent time in museums, got to talk/know the directors of at least 3 museums (2 of which I still have contact with, great home work helpers), and we were exposed to "real life" every day. while public schooled kids were reading about sea turtles we were touching them and talking to a Marine biologist. while public school kids were studying the civil war we were reenacting it, you get the idea... my dad is a college math teacher too, so from the academic side we are well educated. One thing I find very funny is that I started college 2 years early and I am in more advanced classes than 95% of the high school grads from the local high school. I also have 5 friends from my home school group that started 2 years early with me. in home schooling I was not exposed to drugs, alcohol, school shootings, racism, and a world of other problems that public schooled kids have. I did get real life experience, a great education, am not in any way racist, don't do drugs, drink, or go shooting people I don't like.

oh, and do not listen to any one who says that home schooling is bad for kids. it is not. I am living proof. I have great social skills, and lots of friends. the "sociologist" who answered this question does not know a thing about home schooling. she is completely clueless. another option to homeschooling kids aged 16 and up is dual enrollment at the community colleges. all those classes are free, but you have to pay for books. my mom orders my books on line, and found one book for $5 when it costs $125 from the school bookstore.

I want people to see the "real story" on homeschooling.. many have the idea kids are locked in their house studying 8 hrs a day. this is not true at all.
and how is sitting in a room with 40 other kids that were born within a year of you the "real world"? where in the "real world" will you be in that kind of situation? it has not been "easy" but not really that hard. I am very well ahead of most people my age, and it is all because I was home schooled.

Answer 9

Normally I am against home schooling. I would suggest a longer trial period and talking to his teacher and a counsellor.
You realize, he is not the only child that has spit or done other objectionable things. You need to address this, but also keep a open mind and not let it bother you so heavily.
Depending on the teacher and the size of the class, this setting may be very beneficial to your child. If he continues to disrupt the class on a daily basis, then I would suggest try home schooling.
Good luck.
( Connie 5th. grade teacher & mom of 4 )

Answer 10

i think you should give him just a few more days and then if he continuously bothers other kids then i think you should home school him and that was a great idea to put him in the boy scouts... but i hope for the few days that you will probably give him chance i hope he behaves well so that you could leave him in the public school because it's better to have friends while learning.