Im 26 with a 2 year old should i date a 21 year old?

Answer 1

Is he mature enough to handle a woman with a child?

Answer 2

No - in general the maturity level of a 21 year old male is as good as maturity level of a 17 year old male. They don't start catching up until about 25. They may say that they are ready for the responsibility of being a grown up, but they really aren't - they need more time to go out and explore their options before they can really be mature enough to handle a serious relationship, especially one with a child involved - again - I admit this is a total generalization which I normally don't care for - and there are exceptions to this, I've seen very few. Your child depends solely on you to provide safety and comfort - that is more important than anything - you'd be better off looking for someone closer to your age for better long term results and stability for your child.

Answer 3

Now what do you want with a 21 year old?... Especially since the men in your age group are more mature ( in some instances) and more established. I'm 21 and 5 years from now I know I wouldn't want anything to do with an unestablished 21 year old- I have a hard time dealing with guys under 24 right now as it is!!

Answer 4

Sure. You can date anyone you want to date just as long as he likes you, he is on your level, and he has more in common with you instead of your 2 year old child. If all applies, then go for it. If it doesn't work out just look at like you took a chance on a person like this and it didn't work out so I won't do it again. You can never learn if you don't take chances. Good luck with everything :)

Answer 5

There is absolutely no reason not to date him. I am assuming you know him a little. The only way to get to know whether or not he is mature enough, stable enough, ready for some responsibility is to find out. You can either sit back and try to watch him, or date him and get to know him. If he is just looking for someone easy because you have a kid, you will find out. If he can't handle kids yet, you will know. Make most if not all of your time in the beginning, just the two of you. then you can slowly integrate your child's life and his life into yours at the same time, although slowly. Make sure to always use your motherly instincts with your actions, not your twenty-something young lady instincts. There will be plenty of time for you and your needs if all works out, and if not, nothing lost and no major issues regarding what is most important in your life, your child.

Answer 6

Date whoever you want to, but don't let him hang around the kid, and that includes he doesn't get to sleep over. Leave the child with grandparents when you want to go out or go away. You aren't a family, so don't give the little one ideas otherwise. It's too hard for kids to sort these things out when they see most everyone else with a mommy and daddy. I know it's not easy being a single parent, but the child comes first. He/she didn't ask to be brought into this world. Thank heaven you are caring for your child.

Answer 7

age should have no matter on the relationship as long as they are of legal age I'm 24 with a 7 year old dating a 41 year old

Answer 8

Sure -- as long as the guy is mature enough to know that your first responsibility is to the 2 year old and not him. Go for it.

Answer 9

If you like him and he likes you . If you don't tell him you have a kid that will be a big suprise later when he finds out. Is he mature enough to handle that your already a mother? Don't let the kid and the age thing get in the way of someone you like. Just be sure not to leave the kid out :)

Answer 10

I don't understand what would be wrong with that.....?
If it was his child, it would be like he had it when he was 19 and depending on the person, 19 is an ok age to have a child. I had a baby at 19 and I think I am a wonderful mom.

Answer 11

Age shouldn't matter, what matters is the maturity of you both. If you are both mature anough to be young adults, then I do not see a problem with the age or having a kid.