I found an email in my boyfriend's myspace inbox from a girl he has been flirting with on myspace. He told her she was hot and asked when she was going to make him breakfast. She replied back she would make pancakes.
I took this comment to mean he was implying having sex with her. Granted she lives in another state very far away, but this still seems very wrong to me. We have been dating for almost two years.
Am I crazy to be upset by this? I did confront him (he wasn't even mad that I snooped). He said it was meant in jest and didn't mean anything. He said he wants to only be with me.
Any advice or thoughts?
2007-08-24 02:54:18 · 13 answers · asked by Trixie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you are not crazy
communication is the key
2007-08-24 03:00:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't thinking flirting like that is appropriate in a relationship, no matter how "innocent" it may be. I think it is disrespectful to you and I think you should def. voice your concerns. Let him know exactly where you stand on the issue and hopefully he will respect your wishes. My boyfriend and I both had myspace when we met and then both ended up cancelling our accounts. It caused too much drama, not because we didnt trust each other but because it was just one thing that we did not need to deal with - jealousy sucks but we all have a little inclining to do so. Also, snooping could ruin a relationship. Once you voice your concerns, learn to trust him and then gain his trust back from snooping. He might not have been mad about it at the time but it just shows him that you do not trust him. Good Luck.
2007-08-24 10:07:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in the right to be very angry. However, it is wrong to invade your boyfriends personal space, in fact it is illegal per new federal laws. Also, I think you are really reading into the breakfast comment as having sex. That is stretching it a little bit, unless in the e-mail it stated that "after a night of hot sex what would you make me for breakfast". Confront him if you want, tell him how it makes you feel. Perhaps, pay more attention to him, make him feel wanted (other than sex) and maybe he won' be tempted to flirt or stray. The fact that you were reading his private mail it proves that you have a distrust for him in the first place. I ended it with an ex who read my mail, and started a fight for an e-mail I had in my saved mail for god knows how long from before I even met her. Men like privacy, we do not like being under a microscope, there are parts of our lives that we don't want our girlfriends/wives in, not necessarily bad parts of our lives. For example, Football season, when the Patriots are on, i don't care if the your parents are having a BBQ/Reunion. It's the Patriots.
2007-08-24 10:04:57 · answer #3 · answered by Colt 45 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not cheating but he did come very close to crossing the line. I would let him know if he wants to be with you, he will respect your wishes and break off flirting with this girl. I personally think myspace is a bit dangerous for people that are in a relationship if your not careful.
2007-08-24 10:04:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have every right to be upset. if he wanted to be with only YOU he wouldnt be talking about having sex with another girl! i have been through this all before with a boyfriend that lasted years, and after all that "innocent" text/email flirting it turned out that he was cheating on me, with the same girl(s)!!!(happened oh, i can count up to 8 times but i am sure there are more). You just need to decide, do you want to put up with someone that does things like that behind your back and thinks that you are ok with it or move on??
2007-08-24 10:01:14 · answer #5 · answered by cutiepie2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I disagree with the comment that if it stays there it's harmless. I guess I don't understand why someone in a committed relationship should flirt with other people. My ex husband did that and it lead to our divorce. I don't think it's right at all to be flirting with anyone else outside of your bf/gf. Whether they live next door or the next continent.
2007-08-24 10:08:17 · answer #6 · answered by dinny's engaged!! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course what he did is wrong. that's why it upset you. if he feels ok to flirt with another girl even if on Myspace, then he's not honest when he tells you he "ONLY wants to be with you".
2007-08-24 10:02:52 · answer #7 · answered by lioness76 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would let it go. But if it happens again I would probably Delete his myspace account!!
2007-08-24 10:02:44 · answer #8 · answered by cdg96 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd be upset, but thats me, i'd probably act on impulse, or think about if i should dump him. i can get really jealous! so this innocent flirty would bother me!
2007-08-24 10:00:46 · answer #9 · answered by Woman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump a hoe haha
2007-08-24 09:58:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋