My ex and I went out for 9 months. We broke up badly with him finishing with me and didnt see each other for a while. Yesterday he asked me to go see him because in his eyes we were friends. I went to go see him, and for some reason we ended up making out. In his eyes I saw what I used to see when we were dating. He asked me for a bonus night saying it is the best way to get over each other. At the time I said yes, but it is not a bonus night I want I want him. I want to be back with him. How can I go about it to get him back successfully??
2007-08-24 02:31:53 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We broke up because my parents weren't keen on us dating. I have no idea what their problem was but it was getting to much of a strain on us so we broke up. Now my parents don't care about who I date!
2007-08-24 02:49:28 · update #1
dont - you dont want him back you just want the fantasy back . NEVER GO BACK always move forward
2007-08-24 02:35:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hi there I know exactly what you're feeling. Me and my boyfriend break up about twice a month. We promised each other sex for the last time if we ever break up. Every time we break up we have sex and end up not leaving each other. We've been together 2 years and 2 month son and off.
Now my advice: It hurts knowing only sex can cure your relationship. I should have broken things off with from the first break up, but I didn;t cause I thought I loved him. But I don't I'm only with him because I love the idea of having a boyfriend and seeing single girls being jealous.
You and I know for a fact there's someone better out there. Only we need to acknowledge the person we are with now is not the person we need to be with.
Good Luck.
2007-08-24 09:46:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been here...trust me dont go back..there was reason u broke up in the first place, and that reason must have been really good to stop a relationship after 9 months. You might have seen what you use to love within him but its never the same past always creeps back in. do u really want another messy end??? Why dont u just stay friends???
dont go back move forward, they say there is thousands of fishin the sea u just need to go fishin....you ex isnt the way to be fishin....Leave it in the past
goodluck...
2007-08-24 09:41:24 · answer #3 · answered by EmmY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't try to get him back. It didn't work out then so why will it work now. You have now discovered that a "bonus night" does not work, all it proved was that he could still get you to do what he wants . Now you have made that mistake hopefully you won't do it again. Take the lesson you learnt and don't go back to him. There is someone better than him out there you just have to find them.
2007-08-24 09:49:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why did you split up? remember hes an ex for a reason it should stay that way or the same problems might come back. i know its hard moving on from your exes, probaby not what you want to hear, but it will get easier. everything happens for a reason and i guess it just wasnt meant to be, but theres someone else out there for you and it will work much better. just stay as friends with him, it sounds like you still have something special together, dont ruin that part of it.
2007-08-24 09:47:21 · answer #5 · answered by * Mummy to 2 Girls * 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off you shouldnt of been dumb enough to fall for the whole bonus night thing, you knew being with him again wouldnt help you get over him it would only make you want him more, and he knew it. if you really want him back tell him how you truely feel, and wait to see what his reaction is, if he shy's away from the questions drop him and leave him alone but if he wants to talk about it it's worth trying. just be yourself he went out with you for a reason, just give him the reason
2007-08-24 09:37:37 · answer #6 · answered by jssugarlips 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would never do a "Bonus Night" with an ex girlfriend unless I wanted to get back with her.
Just let things Happen, maybe push your comfort zone a little and watch the magic fly
2007-08-24 09:38:06 · answer #7 · answered by Talis Man 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to dump this guy. I know that at the moment that feels like it isn't going to be possible, but he is taking advantage of you and while your willing to give him a 'bonus night' he will continue to take advantage and make out its for your own good to help you get over him. Do you really want to be with someone who takes advantage of you?
There are plenty of decent blokes out there who will treat you with the respect you deserve.
Good luck
2007-08-24 10:29:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT SLEEP WITH HIM!!
all that will do is let his get teh bonus of sleeping with you without the responsibility of a relationship! If you really do want him back, speak to him about how you feel and see if he would be up for giving it another shot...
Otherwise stay well away to keep from being heartbroken!
2007-08-24 09:36:41 · answer #9 · answered by n i k k i 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can onlt get him back if he wants to be got back with. You cant make him Im sorry.
Try not to make out with him anymore, it just makes it so much harder for you to get over him and in the meantime he gets the best of both worlds.
Give yourself some more respect and move on
Good luck and best wishes
2007-08-24 09:36:41 · answer #10 · answered by Claire 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you need to tell him. Don't give up your goodies that's for sure. He could just be trying to get some and move on. Tell him your feelings and if he feels the same you all should date a while, before you think about doing any physical things...
2007-08-24 09:36:21 · answer #11 · answered by Buttafli 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋