Crying baby??????

Question

For the record im not complaining I am just looking for things that might help. Our baby who is a little over 4 weeks just recently started crying everytime we put her down. She starts falling asleep in our arms and when we try to put her in her bopy or crib she goes nuts. Now I know she is a little to young to play games with us. What do you recomend we do or is there anything we can do. We get mabye a couple hours of sleep a day and it is hard to get stuff done around the house. Please if your just going to be a smart a## or a jerk just keep it to yourself. Thanks.

Answer 1

My daughter was the same way from birth until 4 months. I could not put her down alone or else she will CRY and keep on crying until she felt my touch. I ran to her cry every time. She also slept with me during the night because she needed my touch. She is 7 months now and she doesn't like to be held anymore and I can't sleep with her because she tosses and turns too much. She started becoming more independent around 4 months.
I would recommend that you should keep giving her the love and attention she needs. Keep comforting her. Also, I used to get house work done while having her in a front carrier (she loved it) and it shut her up. Try it out. It will pass. As for sleep--- sleep while she's sleeping or sleep with her.

Answer 2

You can swaddle her tightly, or only put her down in the room where you are. She doesnt want to be separate from your body, and she CERTAINLY doesnt want to be in a different room from you. Even if you're using the vacuum, she wants to be where she can hear and see movement.

As far as sleeping at night, my doctor actually recomended that I co sleep with my newborn. I breastfeed and it was much much easier. My husband had to sleep in a different bed, because men sleep so much more sound. As long as her mother isnt on sleep meds she'll be fine. Push the bed into a corner, have her mother sleep on the open side. Tuck the blanket under the matress at the bottom of the bed so it leaves a good two feet of exposed bed at the top, this keeps you from accidentally covering the baby at night. Then baby can sleep up near your head with her own blanket. She can feel you and hear you at night, and will sleep longer, and so will you. It will save your sanity.

And no, it doesnt create a sleep issue. My son went right into a crib at 3 months, once he was used to sleeping for 6 hours straight I just popped him in his crib (first for naps so he was used to it) and now he's 7 months and sleeps 12 hours alone in his room at night.

ITs honestly the best way to get a good nights sleep.

I wouldntsuggest you cosleep with your baby if she's a premie, or very weak for a newborn. But if she can turn her head on her own, and mom's not sedated, it'll be fine.

Sleep is important for all of you.

As far as crying during the day, this is the time when you start to teach her how to entertain herself for brief moments of time. Put her in an infant chair with hanging toys, where ever you are in the house, and let her cry while you work right near her. Just for 10 minutes or so, and then pick her up and comfort her. Show her the hanging things, or a bright window, or some other lights and sounds. Little by little she'll gain confidence in you and her, in this new alone situation.

Answer 3

That's a really hard stretch of time with a baby. During the day let her cry. It won't hurt her to cry a little. If she is fine in your arms then she cries when you set her down shows that she is not ill. I hear of so many people that are afraid to let their babies cry and I don't think it does them any favors to hold them constantly in the long run. They have to learn to fall asleep on their own. Being that young she will probably still wake up every four hours or so to eat. That's fine and expected. You will be doing more harm than good if you hold her constantly to get her to stay asleep. If your house isn't too warm and/or has A/C swaddle her to make her feel more secure. Good luck.

Answer 4

Oh yes it was only a few months ago for me that I was in your position, I can say it will pass, but only to bring on new and different problems. Your baby wants to feel safe and secure, she was warm and snugly in her womb home and now everything doesn't feel right, her whole existence was in a warm bath and lots of familiar noises and it was never quiet. heart beating stomach gurgling etc. The reason she goes nuts when you put her down is she felt safe and secure, warm, hear heart beating it was comforting for her. You could try wrapping her snugly in a muslin wrap so it mimics the feeling of a womb like environment. sometimes a vibrating bouncy rocker thing can help with constant movements so she never feels alone. It can be very hard the first few months, you might need to get some advice from a child centre, they can give you tips on wrapping and settling tips. You will eventually get more sleep, it will never be the same pre-children until they are teenagers, lol but it will be enough to function. Good luck, ask for help before it gets too hard!!

Answer 5

My baby is now a year old, but at that age I started playing lullabies for her and that seemed to help. I know that pacifiers also helped for my cousins baby. And not to be mean or anything we would also let my daughter cry for a while not a lot about 5-10 mins max and if she didn't go to sleep we would rock her to sleep. If you put her down when she is already sleeping and wakes up just let her cry a little eventually she will get used to it and just sleep. I know how frustrating it is I'm a first time parent but eventually you will get the hang of it.

Answer 6

well i had the same problem 16 years ago. wow! anyways, my son would cry constantly when i put him down and when i picked him up he was better. he also would not sleep thru the night . i know this sounds kinda mean however, if your baby is not hungry, not wet or soiled, and not sick with a fever or anything, then it is time for letting him or her cry it out! i had to do this for my own santity and sleep deprivation. just check on baby and make sure he is not needing the above and let him cry a little longer each time until he realizes that he is okay to be in his crib to sleep. babies are smart even at 4 weeks and they would loved to be held 24/7 if they could!

Answer 7

I had the same problem when my daughter was a baby. I was talking about it with some women at church one day when one of them made a suggestion that just seemed to make a lot of sense, but I would never have thought of it myself. She said "of course she won't lay in her bassinet it is cold and doesn't smell right. Use your pillow case as a sheet for the bassinet pad and warm it slightly with a hair dryer." It worked like a charm. I look back at baby pictures and laugh because in most of the pictures there is a hair dryer hanging next to or in the bassinet. LOL

Answer 8

She is probably a little bit colicky, and is having some problems with gas. Totally normal. Try some natural colic drops, or gripe water. Any kind that you can by at your local chemist will work, but this is the brand that I liked best: http://store.babycenter.com/product/code/1539.do?intcmp=Store_Contentsite_Global_Search

Worked like magic for my son. Good luck.

Answer 9

My daughter did the same thing at that age. My doctor recommended that I "Swaddle" her in a blanket (Tightly w/ her arms to the side) so she can not move around and startle or wake herself up. It really worked! It will make her feel more secure ( like in the womb)

Answer 10

She sounds like she likes the feeling of security your arms give her - get one of the swaddling blankets, swaddle her tight, then when she has dropped off, she will still be swaddled when you put her down and shouldn't notice the difference...This worked so well with my son that eventually I could swaddle him, feed him, then put him down awake and he would go to sleep.

It has been brilliant as he now still goes to bed easily - my daughter I have to put to bed with a bottle (amazing what you learn from child 1 to child 2) :o)