His wife is 86 and wants to move to independent living she is his main care giver but he refuses to move???
2007-08-24 01:51:54 · 5 answers · asked by pearson610 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
she can take power of attorney or the kids need to step up and help with his care. is he at the point where he cant be left alone for any amount of time or he is a danger to her and him if this is the case then he and she need to be moved to a long term care facility. but for alzheimers patients they need to be in familiar surroundings so if they can afford live in help and medical assistants form home care leave them where they are...
2007-08-24 02:08:13 · answer #1 · answered by THE UK WILDCAT FAMILY 10 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes you can legally if he is a threat to himself or others, but I wouldn't. These are his golden years and no one knows how much longer he may live. I would hope that his loved ones would want to make him happy. Making him move when he doesn't want to could have a negative effect on his health and he may lose his will to live.
His wife may need a bit of help taking care of him, due to her age. Can a younger family member or friend help her? Taking care of someone 24/7 can be quite a load, physically as well as mentally. I would suggest taking turns helping the wife out, like in shifts - at least for the hours they are awake, to lighten the load on everyone.
I took care of my own mother in her golden years and would do it again in an instant. I didn't have help from any of my siblings as they were "too busy with their own lives". I spent as much time as I possibly could with my mom, making her life easier as well as trying to brighten her days. I cherish all my memories and hold them close to my heart. I have alot to share with my children, even the one that never got the chance to meet her Grandma feels as though she knows her, through memories that I have shared with her.
Good luck! : )
2007-08-24 09:26:56 · answer #2 · answered by every1's friend 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he in control of his mind still? If he is still in control, then I would say no, but if he is out of control, you could have him put in a home for care. This is something his wife has to decide, what is best for him. If she is afraid to be there by herself, with no help, then she could move him. This might be the only thing that is helping him, is to remain on the family farm. Sometimes we have to think more of what will help the sick person the most, and sometimes removing them from familar places is a deterrent, and will not help them. These are his last days, and I think be allowed to be enjoyed as best as he can. If it is to much for the wife, she might want to contact a lawyer to find out what Both of their rights are.
2007-08-24 09:05:36 · answer #3 · answered by LIPPIE 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, in many cases if the doctor agrees that he can't provide himself with living conditions you can move him. I had to do this with my grandma and she wasn't happy. It's really hard on them but try to make a day of the week to take him back to visit and insure him that his home will be taken care of. Try to make his new place as comfortable as possible and show lots of support. To many old people their houses are the last thing that they own and have control of. Good Luck!
2007-08-24 09:14:46 · answer #4 · answered by Kathryn T 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, only if his doctor agrees that he is unable to continue living there. I know in Florida, you can have him Baker's Acted, which is where they deem him mentally incapacitated to live on his own. I don't know where you live, but you could look it up on line. I agree, he needs to go somewhere where he can be watched over 24/7.
Take care
2007-08-24 09:02:17 · answer #5 · answered by Chrystal 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋