what do u do when ur lonely... ?

Question

Now let me explain. I love bring alone - dnt get me wrong. yes i reflect on life n situations n have no problem being alone with myself. But ... i have no real human contact so now its like ahhg enough of me rite now lol. Do u understand ?
Tnx =)

Answer 1

This may not be exactly what you think is a good answer but what I do is if I have the time (like once a week) I go to the beach, park in this free parking lot I found, and literally walk for like three hours. One hour or so up to these sort of small cliffs and sit on a bench for 15 to 1/2 hour resting then back again.

During the walking time I pray and talk to myself/God (carefully when no one can hear- it just helps me to talk out loud) and analyze things and if something's bothering me I ask God to take care of each thing. A lot of the time I can begin to feel happy and try to think about fun things or some what if kinds of things (what if I won the lottery).

I guess this wouldn't work for everyone. I think I have one gift to be able to analyze things and figure out people (I've had manipulative people in my life). So many things occur to me during those hours that I spend doing that. It's great.

Plus if you walk at a good pace you get great exercise doing it at the same time.

A lot of times I time it after work so that I hit the bench where I rest right at sunset and watch the sun disappear on the water.

Of course if this is exactly what you're sick of then what about looking up what you can volunteer for in your community? Visit convalescent homes to comfort those lonely people and ask them about their lives if they remember and get em to tell you stories or just play checkers with them. Some of them are very easy to love and you can develop a beautiful friendship with them that should make you feel like you did something really good. A lot of them have absolutely no one who ever visits them.

Or volunteer with kids and be a big sister or be a camp counselor or tutor kids with their homework especially in subjects you excel in.

If you help people and show them genuine love (my sister can't stand people and is so intolerant of everything- so if you're anything like that then nevermind it won't work) it will take your mind off yourself and your own problems and loneliness.

Or get a career change where you're with humans. If it's possible.

Other than that I'm out of ideas.

Actually one occured to me. If you're a compassionate person volunteer for a suicide hotline. You would probably be good at it because you understand what loneliness is. Suicidal people need someone who can understand them most of all. I know I was one of them.

Answer 2

When I am alone I usually read or listen to music. But sometimes I like to put down the way I feel in different ways...Don't know if you understand what I mean...If I an sad i don't actually say "I am very sad today", I try to describe the feeling, to associate it with something material.

Answer 3

When I'm lonely I usually tend to write songs.

But being too lonely for too long isn't good in my opinion. It's a difficult question to answer. Just don't do something out of lonliness that you will regret later.

Maybe you could hook up w/some friends and hang out or talk on the phone. Maybe do something w/family members.

Answer 4

One way to get outside of yourself is to write and make up stories. It doesnt have to be a book or even for anyone else to read, its just for you.

You can either do a journal where you write down everything your thinking and feeling, not like a diary where your meant to put something in every day, but a blank book you can date as and when YOU feel like it. Or talk into a tape recorder. Make up stories about anyone, yourself, your neighbours, friends.

Personally, I prefer to go for a long walk and just let my mind drift without directing it or holding on to any thought.

Answer 5

Hi, brooklyn

on practice we always alone, . When i do feel that way, I either go to the ocean shore <3 blocks from my house>, just to listen ocean, and what ocean tells the stories, listeningf to music just calm music, , or just walk, read. and talking to GOD. i know it will sound crazy, but It helps a lot.

Answer 6

Everybody feels lonely at time, even me and I have live alone for more than twenty years. I will be watching tv and this movie will come on an I sometimes think I should call my mother and tell her. She's been gone since '86.

Answer 7

I can be alone in a crowded room. But i do understand. I have little to no contact with anyone. Oh except for the religion peddlers that knock about once a week. Its always fun to ask them questions that they dont have answers to. Good luck
(sorry) mainly movies and study or jump on the computer.

Answer 8

I don't get out very often (ok not at all) So when I get loney I talk on the phone, with my family... they get kinda sick of me, but understand that I cant leave the house.

Answer 9

I got a job and started my college life - and trust me..with those two things you'll start to wish you were lonely again, lol.

Answer 10

When I am feeling lonely I chat with my friends that I've met on-line.