Well,were both 19 & iv known him for a few months and i started falling for him...but then he started bringing up sex..i made him wait a few weeks until i was ready (i was a virgin) and then i gave him what he wanted..and now hes asking if i want to come over his again sometime...and his friends say he really likes me..and iv really fallen for him i think i Love him...and i want more than sex i want a relationship but i dont know how to tell him...
any help ?
xxx
2007-08-24 00:57:14 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well sorry to say but your first mistake is not waiting to see if that's what he wanted in the first place. When you give a person that important piece of you they have it forever. Now that you can't go back I would say just tell him and when you do be prepared for the worse. in most cases like these the girl ends up heart broken. I'm not saying that there isn't a chance I'm saying if you prepare yourself for the worse and the best happens you feel even better about the situation. I can say that next time talk about having a relationship before you have sex. Woman are more emotional than men so that kind of activity is
precious to us. Just explain to him what you want and if he doesn't want the same thing you will cry for days but eventually you have to accept you action and the outcome without blammoing him for anything because your cards were not put on the table first. I do wish you the best of luck.
2007-08-24 01:07:09 · answer #1 · answered by beautifull103087 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you are at the point that you are having sex, then you should be able to come right out and tell him. Hey honey, I really care for you and since we ARE having sex we have come to apoint in the relationship that I DO want more than just sex. Tell him up front, BUT I MUST be totally up front and honest with you. EXPECT for him to walk. He just sounds like he is using you for the sex. I'm sorry I don't want to bust your bubble or anything, BUT you've known him for a FEW months and he hit ya up for sex. And from what you have posted it sounds like he is seeing you when he wants sex.
2007-08-24 01:10:50 · answer #2 · answered by GRUMPY 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Princess.
You've known this guy for couple of months, you believe you know him? sometimes when we think we know someone, we dont. Im not sayig you dont, probably you do. But something tells me hes giving you something and you seem to want more than what hes giving you. You gave yourself to him and now he wants more.
What is it that you really want? lets not talk about his friends saying he likes you, because friends can deceive. and you dont think your in-love with his friends, but him. His friends should not contribute to your own decisions about the relationship your having with him. So, ask yourself, if this guy is giving you what you want? if not, tell him what you want Princess. And if hes not giving you then i think you better start sticking with what makes you comfortable. Please dont sacrifice your happiness to make others happy. Always do what makes you comfortable. if your not ready, never please to seek approval or praise, Since it will sacrifice your Joy in life.
make a wise choice Princess.
Good luck.
Ruby.
2007-08-24 01:52:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound to me as if you were ready. You really should sit down and talk to him as you do not seem to have a meaningful relationship at the moment. Perhaps a real relationship is what he wants as well, you will never know unless you ask, he may be as shy as you are about raising the subject.
2007-08-24 01:03:01 · answer #4 · answered by witchnanny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is the time when you need to start talking regardless of the topic. Sex is not everything in a relationship he needs to told that.
Avoid being just the two of you or solitary places coz that only encourages thoughts of having sex since no one is seeing you.
Don't keep quiet!
2007-08-24 01:04:13 · answer #5 · answered by Sombo Mummy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
as a guy, i would say to just say it. ex. ( hey look i like you and i was wondering if you wanted this to be a serious relationship or not) .. i know that most girls are scared to ask guys staight up questions due to getting .. well .. i guess the real answer. just ask and get it off your chest at least you can get it over with or get over it and move on
2007-08-24 01:04:01 · answer #6 · answered by Laz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You were very foolish for sacrificing yourself to this bum. Get rid of him at once.
You should have held him to a high standard, and he would have automatically disappeared as he should have. Now, he has violated you, and it's as though he's stolen something valuable from you like a thief.
This is the problem of believing in the ways of liberalism, which is both a mental disorder and the Plague of the Modern Era.
2007-08-24 01:00:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 2⤋
dear ask him boldly that if he wants to continue the friendship without sex untill you wish, if he agree and cares for u it is some thing u can say love otherwise it is just sex which should not be continued any more with such people.
2007-08-24 01:01:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You gave him what he wanted? What about you? It sounds like you are using sex to keep him. That's not a healthy relationship to have.
2007-08-24 01:03:38 · answer #9 · answered by Froggie 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Tell him }whine{ I want a Mercedes; }whine{ I want a beach condo; }whine{ I want a vacation to Aruba; }whine{ I want new clothes; }whine{ I want money; }whine{ I want to go shopping...
Tell him life is like a fine whine and you want it... and no more sex until you }whine{ get it.
2007-08-24 01:05:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋